Now we already talk about all the sensible things that help you to overcome painful feelings of breakup. It is right time to become attractive so you are able to show your ex about what he/she missed by leaving you. Your ex selected you before from others because you subconsciously display traits that attract him/her.
NC can have that effect on your ex. Sometimes the lack of contact and sudden change in lifestyle routines would cause your ex to miss you very much. If you feel that the amount of time that has passed is enough since the breakup, and you have managed to pick yourself up since, you could go ahead and contact her.
You first need to develop clarity regarding the situation that led to your breakup in the first place. To fully understand the breakup, there are several key questions you’ll need to answer yourself, such as:
Continue with no contact and work on picking yourself up and improving the aspects of your life. At least from there, you’ll be able to find more meaning at happiness and eventually even learn to be happy without her. If she comes back into your life, it’ll be a bonus and at least you’ve mentally prepared yourself and would be capable of walking away in the event that she doesn’t.
First, we broke because of her doubt on me with another lady. But it was a very fair relationship and I was almost like a mentor for her and she helped me in some financial troubles. I kept it hidden not to worry her for a long time and she caught us over phone red-handed. That was a very serious and she resigned. But I beg pardon and I explained everything she forgave me. she back again and normal. but so suspicious in every relation even with my relatives. it happened once more when I kept hidden something not to worry her and broke again. Again managed to get but She asked me to cut all suspicious relationships and I accepted. I’m so sincere to her till this moment and never thought about any other dating relationship even before I met or after we fell in love. she is the second lady with whom I had the physical relationship in my life after my wife.
That said, if you asked her about this, she would never admit it. Why not? She cannot. Attraction is a very primal and subconscious process that has been in place for thousands of years, so she won’t be consciously aware of why she lost attraction for you.
I had a girlfriend of 4 years that started right before we both attended college. The sex was great, relationship was awesome, we both were givers. We even made it work while she attended school 7 1/2 hours away for an entire year. I recently moved 4 hours away for a job and as soon as I did, the relationship took a turn. It was a pain to get her to come visit me, and whenever I went and visited her I always had to hang with her and her friends. No alone time. We kept getting in fights and eventually she ended it by saying she wasn’t in love with me anymore. I went nuts for a few weeks until I found your work and initiated NC. She got back in touch with me after a few weeks and I arranged a date.
My ex and I broke up a few months ago, I cheated on him, he pretended to forgive me and then he moved on to someone else and then I went through all stages of crazy. Begged him to take me back, spoke to the new girl and told her all the reasons he wasn’t right for her and then he decided to break up with me for real. Claimed what he had with her was ephemeral but I ruined his reputation when I spoke to her. I tried the no contact, did it for 9 days, then I panicked and begged him to take me back, of course he said no, there’s someone else. Then after that time, we met up a few times and had sexually related stuffs…no penetrative sex. Then I decided to restart the no contact. Intend to start tomorrow, unfortunately we are classmates. Yesterday I tried to get him jealous by telling him I met a more handsome guy. He told me many reasons why this guy isn’t right for me. Anyways I am scared that if we continue this way, I’m going to be friend zoned so much that we won’t have any chances again. I don’t want to block him over whatsapp because then he will probably block me too and feel I’ve moved on with this other guy. But it’s quite difficult doing no contact when he is constantly trying to communicate and also, I’m from Nigeria. Virginity means alot to guys here. He was my first and unfortunately the new girl he’s with now is also a virgin and very hot
I’m no stranger to attempting to rekindle a relationship. My ex-boyfriend and I tried it. Twice. Both began the same: with a lot of hope that something had changed, that things would be different now. But they also ended the same: that nothing had and, probably, never would. Turns out that it’s this ‘hope’ which sealed our fate.
I would honestly recommending just talking to him casually since it’s something you can’t seem to walk away from. At least by talking to him, even if things don’t turn out well, you may get some form of closure that you lack. Also, your fights with your current partner may be causing amplified feelings of you missing your ex so it’s something you should take note of. Perhaps ask yourself first, if your current relationship is a healthy one, and secondly decide if your feelings towards your ex is based on the bad experiences you’re going through or something more.
Watch for signs that your relationship won’t work. While you might have strong feelings for this person, sometimes two people are just not compatible. If your relationship is toxic, you need to move on rather than trying to win back your ex. Some signs that your relationship is troubled beyond repair include:
Prove that you’re faithful. If you and your ex broke up because you were unfaithful, you face the daunting task of convincing him that you will not cheat again. The exact way that you confront the issue should depend on why you cheated in the first place, but regardless of the reason, it’s important to be open and honest with him.