Maybe This Can Save Your Marriage And Make Him Love You Again
While many women claim men are clueless in a relationship, women ask what do men need from women who love them as well – because they do not know. And not knowing is OK, not ASKING is not. Whether man or woman, if you do not know what your partner needs from you chances are he or she is not getting it and will likely begin falling out of love with you.
Men are not really all that complex and pretty much do have simple needs when it comes to a marriage or relationship. The equal rights movement has probably not exactly helped either as women seek to increase their leverage in a relationship and often not caring if it harms their man. Do so at your own peril! Each of you need to be concerned with the needs of the other for things to work to your advantage in the long run.
However, just because his needs are simple does not mean the need is not strong! And contrary to popular belief, many men do know what they need and understand completely if they are not receiving it.
We are going to highlight here three overriding needs (and none of them is sex!), and this list is NOT complete – we will cover other needs in another article. We do feel strongly that every girl needs to understand and meet each of these three needs listed in order to have a truly happy relationship with the man she loves.
1) Respect Him (And Show It!)
Have you ever asked him a question, then after he responds you ask someone else? Then, if the second person gives you the same answer do you NOW believe it because someone ELSE told you that?
This is more common than you might think. Women are attracted to a man because he “knows everything” but in time, that green monster of jealousy all of a sudden wants to consider him an idiot. Letting him see you not believing him on things is going to anger him quickly.
Instead, know his strengths and be happy for them. Compliment him on his knowledge and abilities. Let him be the hero from time to time if you really want to shine in his eyes and make him love you all the more.
Never talk down to him or try to make him feel inferior – actually, that is good advice in dealing with anyone.
Avoid nagging at all costs.
Yes it can be hard to get him to do what you want sometimes. That is usually a sign that he really does not want to do the job – whatever the job may be. Your choices, besides nagging, are three:
- Make him an offer that gives him something in return
- Do it yourself, is there some reason you can’t or that it’s “his” job to do?
- Hire someone else, but do not “wave the bill” under his nose to rub it in
And if he is the breadwinner, definitely do not treat the money he works hard for lightly; that can REALLY get under a man’s skin.
2) Admire Him
Think about it, when was the last time you paid your handsome man a compliment?Is he one of the few in your circle of friends to still have hair or NOT to have a big gut? Let him know that you find that a turn on.
How about some flirting? Have you given up on that now that he is “yours”? Do you engage in a little active flirting when you are out in public, riding in the car, or using those God-forsaken text messages for something useful for once? Or is every text he gets from you a “problem to deal with”?
While I am sure this is not you, some women actually get mad at their husband when they see another woman checking him out. What is with that? Make sure he knows there is no way another woman could begin to admire him like you do.
When was the last time you let him know that you still think he rocks his Levi’s? Little things like this make a huge difference to the man in your life and in your relationship and may get a very beneficial response to you.
3) Be Loyal To Him
Make sure your husband/boyfriend never doubts your loyalty to him; that is a marriage/relationship killer. Be careful how you interact with his friends or co-workers so it would never be construed as flirting. It will not make him jealous, just arouse his anger – especially if he starts hearing from them that they think they could easily steal you away from him.
Do you talk about him behind his back with your friends, or anyone else? It is one thing to have a confidant to talk to and bounce things off of, but pure criticism not only demeans him, it also demeans YOU, since you are his girl! Think about that.
Where To Go From Here
There is more, for sure, but start with these three things that men need from women who they love. Improve in these areas and you will definitely succeed in making him love you more and maybe even saving your marriage or relationship.
Maybe you have relationship damage to repair, if so, please get that done. But it is never too early to start respecting him, admiring him and being a loyal partner.