I understand that this is a very difficult time in your life. I have gone through it myself. But believe me, this is actually a great opportunity in your life. When things are normal in our life, we actually don’t feel a need to work on ourselves. But it’s only in situations like these do we feel that burning fire within to change, improve and succeed. I was going through a similar situation in my first year of college. By the time I graduated, I was the best student of my batch/class, and now I have 3 companies of my own.
There are a hundred reasons why you can’t maintain a post-breakup friendship. Jealousy, bitterness, the fear of your ex getting a new boyfriend… these are only some of the pitfalls of staying friends after breaking up.
I met my boyfriend online, I never wanted to get into any kind of relationship since my life and experience are too drama-like and people usually don’t take it. But he did, unlike others, he was genuine, it took me a year to know he was. Now he feels as if I’m lying to him about everything, and that he’s not important to me and decided to dump me two hours ago since I wasn’t willing to let go. Right now, he’s not answering my calls and told me he would not be answering any of my calls in the future and he would barely reply to my emails.
This one isn’t as macabre as it sounds. It’s more of an exercise in appreciation. Bowman suggests that you work on it a little at a time as a way to notice what your spouse does right (since these are the things you’d likely eulogize him with, not the negatives). “Think back over the years you’ve known this man. When did he make you laugh? When did he make you cry tears of joy? When did he surprise you? When did he feed the cat because the smell of cat food makes you want to hurl? Put it in the eulogy,” says Bowman. “The funeral fantasy will help you remember to appreciate your spouse.”
The worst part is if I had not take her for granted and listened and communicate more she would still be mine. She was very very clingy and her interest level in the relationship was always very high in the beginning for over a year.
Or if you want him back because you feel jealous thinking of him with someone else, think again before you decide to try to get back together. Post-breakup jealousy is normal, and this, too, will pass.
Don’t overthink it. Though you should be conscious of the mistakes you made, you cannot obsess over them or you will doom your relationship to failure before it has a chance to start off on the right foot. If a bad situation arises, you can remember what happened the last time and proceed with caution, but don’t constantly worry about messing things up or you won’t be able to truly enjoy your time together.
ok,I successfully scaled through the no contact rule,I initiated contact,we where getting along,I texted her three times and on the third I told her “am busy we will take later” she got pissed,what should I do now?
If you’ve done your homework correctly, you will be oozing confidence and attractiveness out of every inch of your body. And this works doubly as effective on your ex than any other person. Why? Because they were already attractive to you at one point in time. And you are not a stranger to them. You are someone familiar who looks very attractive.
I don’t want to talk about common mistakes that ended your relationship. If I start writing I can point out more than hundred mistakes that men do in their relationship however I don’t want to talk about these mistakes because all of these mistakes come to one BIG REASON and that is ‘loss of attraction’.
my girlfriend of 3 and half years broke up wit me 5days ago without no reason. she is a Muslim Y I’m a christian. she said that her mum said that she cannot date christian and I converted to Muslim because of her. this girl love me so much bt she changed to me before even broken with me. if I tell her I want to see her, she we tell me we can’t see. if I tell her I love u she will not reply me. so with dis I decided not to call her for 4days just to see weda she will call me back bt she didn’t call me. so I decided to call her bt she refused to pick my call nd text me back dat she have d person she’s dating now. yesterday she call me and I pick it bt she didn’t say anything.please I need ur advice because I so much love her and I want to get her back.
Dude… be chill. I overreacted at first too but it was more so because there is a child involved. Mine left just a few days ago as well. The first day she texted me back a few times but then she either changed her number or just let her minutes run out (prepaid). But after looking through some of these sites… I took their advice. Start working out…. like wayyy harder than you normally do. Get the testosterone and endorphins flowing. It will take your mind off shit. It’s amazing how much similar your story is to mine. We had just talked about marriage a few weeks ago. I am going to give it about another week or so and see what happens. It’s amazing how much a little time away will make things much more manageable with your emotions. It will be hard to make that first leap to contacting her but just be subtle with it. Don’t go all Rambo gotta come back now guy. Just be polite and reasonable. Don’t have any thing set that should happen. Read her. If she is accepting to it… go on with your bad self. If not… say something chill… like “well… I just want you to know that I had fun while it lasted. Take care and I’ll see you around.” And walk the fuk away.
I am completely devastated, hurt, lost and just want her back. I love her completely. We had a few discussions before she left about trying to work things out, and she felt I took her for granted…I had stopped treating her with appreciation and love. I agreed that I have to be more romantic and be an equal partner in the relationship. Over the course of the following days I showed her love and appreciation, treated her like I had done in the past however she still wanted out. She said she needed time and space to figure out what she wants. I told her I would not give up on us but I would give her space that she wanted. She said she still loved me and care a lot about me but was just hurting.
If she was the one who ended things, then you will have more of a challenge on your hands. Think about all of the reasons she ended it; if she ended it abruptly, look through old emails or texts to see if you can pinpoint the problem.
I know: I lived that life for 36 years and have b een the modeerator of an abused survivors’ and emotional abuse group for many years. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans is a book which should be required for everyone on the planet.
Think that next time you’ll meet your ex, she will have to admire you, for what you become, for how you managed to be a man, to stay strong even when it hurts, and how you become perhaps more patient, more quite, confident, and whatever you want to become. No pain no gain, they say.
“I’m told that there are two people who have created this negative dynamic, and yet I feel like the only person being punished here. I’m locked out of my own house, living in a small lousy room away from my things, my comforts, my bed, and my wife, the only person who means anything to me in Denver. I am living like a gypsy …
You should keep your first interactions friendly and positive to show that you can be a man and that you respect her decision. She definitely still misses you so concentrate on working on yourself and everything will work out.