Hi, I’m Les. My gf mentioned to break up due to another man and no more feeling with me, I’ve stopped this action taken as I can’t take it! We’ve been together around 5yrs. We never stay together. I was leaving the state around half year and she had ask me to stay but, I insist to leave due to good opportunity. I came back finally and she told me this. I nearly gone crazy as our relationship was quite stable. Never think this will happen. She keep saying no more feeling with girl, what can I do to get her back again coz I too love her. I’ve tried to make her think back how hard we start together and so on. I even pay more attention to her, Concentrate on her. Just feel like fall in love again. Feel like I can’t live without her now. I wanna die if breakup. Please help. PM me if possible. Thanks in advanced.

Have an open discussion. Unfortunately, there’s no surefire way to know if your ex-boyfriend wants to get back together with you without asking him. When you feel you’ve had enough time to show him the new and improved you, have an honest conversation with him, letting him know that you still have feelings for him.

After those three days, try to let the relationship go. Give yourself time to just be alone, spending time with family and friends and doing things you love. When you’re in a healthy place, you can begin looking for love once more.

For the first 2 years plus in our relationship, empty/unfulfilled promises from me, misbehaving, overspending, lack of proper planning, spending too much time/money on games and infidelity caused our first 2 breakups.

The No Contact Rule- A period of time where you are not allowed to talk to your ex at all. You can’t pick up your phone if she calls, texts or Facebooks you. To add on to that you are also not allowed to reach out to your ex at all during the no contact rule.

Since the breakup, I’ve put in a lot of work to make myself better. The breakup hurt like hell and I let her know how much I regretted letting us fall apart, but I never begged or groveled for her back. Instead I channeled my sadness into fixing all the things I hated about myself at the time. I’ve sought out help for a gambling problem, calmed down the drinking and gotten into better shape. We still talk semi-often, mostly through text or when we run into eachother at a bar or event.

My GF and I were together for close to a year. She broke up with me about 3 months ago. Our relationship was actually really good. We hadn’t had any real disagreements. We communicated really well. We were planning on living together. Then Oade a huge mistake. I lied to her about something huge and important. I did so because I let my ego and pride get in the way of my rational thinking. She has completely shut me out of her life. She has blocked me from her phone, email and FB. I did make all of the early breakup mistakes like pleading with her to take me back. Apologizing over and over. It finally dawned on me that I never let her know that I wasn’t taking her feelings into consideration. I let her know that I did after a short period of time. I have read several different get your ex back e-books. All of them do not seem very promising as I am a woman and I try to think about how I would react to some of the steps given. I have done the no contact step. I have written her a couple of letters apologizing again. The last letter I wrote I basically told her some things I loved about her, how I was angry that when the going got tough she ran and that I was saying goodbye and good luck to her. I just dropped it off so I have not received a response…if I get one at all. I do love her and I do want her back. I can honestly say she is the one for me. Some of my friends have given me the “there are other fish in the sea” speech. That’s not what I want. I want the one that I love back. I guess I’m looking for some more advice. Anything I have missed in this whole process. Thanks head of time for any advice given. I do really appreciate it.

My girlfriend left me 3 days ago and i called her message he continuoslybut she didn’t reply and from 48 hrs i not contacted to her i made a littlemistake thats why she left me with anger but i can’t control anymore i want her back right now please help me as soon as possible please

I have been with this special lady for 2 years and it has been wonderful..this a lady who admits she can never leave without me..we broke up for a reason and that was i was physically abusive twice during our 2 year glory moments..shes a very down to earth person..but before the physical encounter..i started seeing some changes of her txting her ex who really ruined her life she said..i was very upset and couldnt control mu anger n pain..so i wrongfully physically assulted her..after that she asked me to move out which i did the same day..also she had a friend call me to tell me to move out before she even said it her self..im really in love with this lady..i have never cheated on her..since then i have not applied the no contact rule yet..but she keep calling me to see whats up with me..sometimes u ignore her calls and txt and sometimes im forced to respond..we have talked on the phone about 10 times since the breakup and its been about 3weeks to a month now..is it too late to apply NC. Or just play ot slow and answer her when i feel like..she do tell me she care n love me but dont want to go thru wat we had before which i open up to admit..shes not dating anyone now but she is going out with male friends she claim are just friends…today she called me 3 times around 4am and asked if she was in my way by contacting..i told her she not in my way but im a very busy guy now trying to find myself for the right one…she knows my starting school soon. And i have 2 jobs..she said she dont advice me to take on 2 jobs because its a lot of work on me and she cares thats why she dont want me to burn myself out and even if i do take the 2 jobs i wont have time to see anyone and if it happens that we get back together i wont even have time to see her..i then respectfully n calmly told her i hear her and hanged up the fone..she then called right bacm m asked if i hanged up on her n i yes because we was done talking m she said we will talk later..i did make it clear to her i dont want to be her friend n that i can make friends easily as she knows..so i dont want to be in the friendshil zone which she agreed to but still call me..what do i do and what are my chances.

In our therapy sessions Peter recalled that in his family expressions of anger were not allowed.  As a young boy with no one who would listen when he felt negative feelings, Peter often felt abandoned.  

My ex broke up with me almost five months ago (over the phone, after being together for 1.5 years), and it devastated me. For about the first 2.5 months, I made a lot of mistakes, but have been good for the past two months. Over the last two months, I’ve made a lot of progress, but still miss her a lot. I truly think we could work things out, though her reasoning for leaving were that we fought a lot, I’m too invested in my career, she doesn’t want to move and scared of being a single mother in the future because my career involves traveling. She also mentioned that I was controlling.

I talked to her over the phone for over two hours last night and she persistently and very surely said she no longer have any feelings for me and she doesn’t have to think about it anymore. Her tone very so cold and rock-solid.

Me and my ex were together for 4 and a half months. She mentioned a while ago when a guy messaged her that they had a thing before me and her but she assured me that it was the past. Apparently not. She broke up with me because I don’t have a job and I’m apparently lazy. I smoke cigarettes and weed and I am forcing myself to quit these things and I feel like its the only chance of getting her back. Ive also been looking suuuper hard.for a job, but it isnt easy when youre17. This guy that she had a thing with before us is now going all out to try and snatch her up. She broke up with me a week ago and I got information from her friend that she has already gone out on 2 dates with him… that hit me like a train. As soon as I heard that I bursted into tears. She seems like the type to come back after a while but im just not sure because she mentioned that she just doesnt feel the same way about me as she did before, the “butterflies” are missing. I will do anything in my power to get her back because what i dont think she realises is that I am the one who actually cares about her and loves her and this other guy just wants sex. I am way too attatched to this girl and she has such a huge part of my heart and its killing me that she left me so suddenly. 🙁 I REALLY need your help…

Thanks. We did text yesterday he said he had a crazy week because his dog was stolen. I’m not sure how often we should text at this point in time? Obviously I want to rebuild connection, it’s a little hard because he isn’t much of a texter. What should I talk about to rebuild connection?

There are certain texting and calling rules you can follow that will ensure you come across more attractively to an ex than you have been recently. These rules are simple but extremely powerful. Obviously they’re only simple and powerful if you know what they are. Once again, see my Category A video to learn more.

Make a game plan for addressing the problem. Once you figure out what went wrong in the relationship – which could be a combination of problems instead of just one – it’s time to think about how you can make things different next time. You don’t want to make your ex-boyfriend want you back if you’ll just run into the same problems and drama all over again.

I put a lot of work into this page (half a year to be exact.) Yup, I have been planning on helping men get their exes back for over half a year. I know that sounds a little insane but I am actually a pretty busy guy so it was all really a matter of finding the time to finally put this project in motion.