Will This Be The Trick To Get Your Boyfriend Back?
Getting your boyfriend back is easier said than done, and often discussed among girls to the late night hours. In your case, maybe you have been trying to win him back for some time, without any success up to now. I am guessing that is why you are here. You may be looking for a quick and easy, perhaps even “magical”, solution to get him back in your arms again.
What Do We Mean By Magic?
Yes, I know, it is that time of year when everyone is getting costumes for the 2nd biggest holiday of the year and the word “magic” pops up a little more frequently – often with an image of a witch or something.
For some people magic is something mystical and wonderful that cannot be understood, much less explained – like the paranormal. For other people, magic is simply a trick of the eye or some crafty illusion that always has a logical explanation.
Whether your definition of magic includes something enchanting and wonderful or a mystery to solve, getting your boyfriend back does not involve anything paranormal, supernatural or require hunting for toads in the middle of the night.
BUT! (and there is always a BUT!)
Maybe a few magical sounding words could help us out here.
A Little Zip In The Relationship?
Zip is a little component in life that is necessary in all lasting relationships. Zest, pizzazz, just plain FUN. What kind of zip has your relationship had? Did it seem like everything was on track and going well until suddenly…it wasn’t?
Was the relationship on long gradual slide from exciting to mundane, having lost any kind of excitement like a can of open soda losing its fizzle? When was the last time you two went on a romantic date together? How long has it been since you just were not able to keep your hands off of each other?
Put The Zip Back Into The Relationship
There is no way to put the fizz back in a can of soda but you CAN put the zip back into your relationship.
Start by getting some zip back into your own life. Are you low on energy, just can muster a smile on your face? Maybe the food you are eating is getting you down (at best) or slowly poisoning you (at worst). Healthy food can make all the difference.
Maybe it is time to polish up your image a bit. When you add a little “sparkle” to your appearance, it will boost to your confidence and change the way others view and perceive you. Most importantly, the boyfriend you want to get back will see the vibrant, active girl you were when you first met and he fell for.
Mutual friends will start talking about the positive changes they see in you and he will hear about it – and get REAL CURIOUS to find out for himself.
Add Some Zam To The Mix
What kind of shape are you in physically? Has work been “zapping” your time & energy you used to use for exercise?
Now might be the time to get into the best shape of your life. Maybe losing some weight is in order or just making sure those curves are still nicely toned, now is the time to treat your body the way it deserves and really take care of yourself.
Make sure you’re eating nutritious meals and drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated (NOT those sugary drinks or so called “energy” drinks). This is extremely important because, more than anything else, if you cross paths with your ex boyfriend is to appear to him as happy and healthy.
Looking good and happy when he sees you does many things:
- Lets him know you can do just fine without him if necessary (not sulking at your loss)
- You are the kind of person EVERY MAN would want (make him jealous)
- Confirms that you are the one HE wants (moves him to ACTION)
Finish Up With Some ZOOM!
Your life keeps moving, with or without him. Remember, if you do NOT get him back, years from now you may be praising God he did not answer your prayer to get him back after you see how he turned out over time.
Keep going and never stop to grieve over a boyfriend. I know it can be hard to think about this when you are still feeling hurt from a breakup or are fearing one. But men are like war…there is always another one coming.
Commit yourself to living your best life without him in it. It’s not moving on. It’s not letting go of the idea of getting him back. It’s even better. It’s showing him that you don’t NEED him – all the while he’s figuring out that he might actually need you.
Relationships are never easy, long term, and neither is breaking up. We are dealing with the heart here so it can be the most extreme emotions we are dealing with.
Let him see that you are perfectly capable of making it on your own, without him, and drive him to make the first move.
That way you will have no trouble convincing him that the idea to get back together was all his. THAT is the truly “magical” aspect of getting your boyfriend back – convincing him that he’s the one who wanted to make it happen.
And once you do that, the leverage is all yours. You are in control while he thinks that he is.
Does all of this make sense?
No magic potions or chanting in the light of the full moon. Just simple steps that make your life better with or without him – but make it so he wants to be with you.
(Note: Some of the inspiration for this article came from our friend T-Dub Jackson. Watch his video here for more on how to win him back.)