Do This When You Want To Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back
It doesn’t matter what prompted your relationship to start falling apart – or who broke up with who, if you want the man you’ve lost back in your life, then you need to start taking action. Now you need to be careful with this procedure – as if you go too crazy then he may never want to see you again – never mind getting back together.
With that in mind, here are some ways that you can start taking steps towards getting the love of your life back into your arms.
No matter how much both of you may still love each other, there’s a reason that your boyfriend is now your ex. Your number one job is to erase the reason behind your breakup from his mind, and make sure that he continues to think about you in a positive, and even loving way.
1. Start by Forgiving Him
Perhaps the number one way to make sure that your relationship doesn’t get repaired in a healthy way, is to go in with anger. The first step to getting your ex back for good is forgiving him, as you’ll never be able to feel comfortable together again unless you can let go of the frustration and pain you felt from that breakup.
Think about why you broke up – did you cheat, did he cheat, or did something between you just stopped feeling right? The important thing is to give yourself a clean slate on which love can start to grow again, so address the problem then get ready to click the reset button. As Huffingtonpost.com says:
“Forgiveness is for your own benefit, not the benefit of your ex. In fact, you need not ever tell your ex that you have forgiven, unless you choose to do so.”
Whatever your ex-lover did wrong in the first place – simply get over it. Forgive yourself for making mistakes, and forgive him for the things that he’s done. If you truly want your relationship to work, then you need to come to terms with what happened and move on.
2. Change the Parts of You That Need to Be Changed
If you’re completely serious about the guy you were with and you want him back in your life, then you might have to change some of your less attractive qualities. For example, if you’ve been an incredibly jealous girlfriend in the past, and your behavior contributed to whatever drove your beloved away, then you’re going to need to learn how to let go. If you keep doing the bad things you’ve done in the past, then you’re not going to live happily ever after. Psychologytoday.com suggests that:
“The only way to realize positive change in your life is by making choices.”
Try to figure out what might have messed up your relationship in the past and start working on the problem. If you were too moody, demanding, or nagging, then try to look for ways to fix those things about yourself, and then show him you can change. He needs to see that you’re willing to improve the way you are to keep him, but it’s also important to ensure that the changes you make are for you – as much as they are for him.
3. Get in Contact
When it finally becomes the right time to get in contact with your ex, you’ll need to take each step carefully. If you haven’t seen each other for months, then the process might have to move slowly. However, if you only broke up a couple of weeks ago the emotions may still be very raw.
Don’t run into the meeting ready to immediately sleep together. Instead, show him what he’s missing, and throw in some temptation. Be sexy and engaging, but don’t be slutty in an attempt to catch up. Make him think about you and show him how much you’ve changed for the better. He’ll soon realize that he needs to be a part of your life again!