This is where a guy puts in almost no effort with his girl. He leaves it to her to start the messaging or calling, always. He shows no concern or sympathy for any problems she might be having. He might even fail to initiate sex often through being too chill.

Think of it this way, if you do this set of messages correctly then you have a good chance of getting your ex to feel the same feelings you are feeling and they will start to remember how great your times together were.

Hello Adrian, I broke up with my girlfriend in November of 2014. I told her the reason was because I was with someone new. However, I was never in a relationship with anyone before and after the break up despite I was indeed seeing someone new. A week before the break up, we were in a cold war, the kind of period where she just stopped talking to me, reason being I said something inappropriate. A week later, she came back to me and I asked to break up. My ex and I had little to no arguments or fights when we were together despite it’s our second time splitting up. First time was due to the same reason, except it was my ex who was seeing someone. It’s been almost 17 months since the break up and earlier February of this year, she got into a new relationship. Before that, I was told she was devastated to see me leave but I have no idea how long she felt that way. Now, I am not sure if my ex is in a rebound relationship. When she started dating, she seemed kind of protective of her relationship from me, but now she is getting more and more comfortable with sharing it on Snapchat and Twitter. One thing that puzzled me was that before and after she got into her new relationship, she still contacted me occasionally, talking about our common interests. When I found out she is in a new relationship, I insisted on asking if she wants to talk about it. She said alright and I asked it to be in a month’s time, allowing me to go through the no contact period. We will be meeting up end of April or beginning of May. We were also in a relationship for almost a year before I asked to break up. At this point, I probably have done things I shouldn’t have done, what do you think I should do next and do you think it is still possible for me to get her back? Thank you!

Hi Lauren, this couldn’t have come at a more perfect time for me. My boyfriend of 7 years, broke up with me a week ago. I have read most of the Mars Venus books and am currently reading Mars and Venus: Starting Over. I’m not ready to give up on the relationship, he is my everything. He claims, he’s afraid of commitment and that I can’t make him happy for the rest of his life, but also claimed I’m perfect and don’t need to change at all. Gave me the “it’s not you, it’s me” thing. I still have hope that if I give him his space he will change his mind and I’m not to the point where I can think about him not changing his mind, that is too hard. I have broken down and texted him a few times and told him how I was feeling. I stopped talking to him over the weekend and on day 4, I woke up to a text from him. It wasn’t anything about us, just a video of a silly dog. I guess I’m just trying to figure out if he still cares? Is it just the friendship he misses? He claims I’m still his best friend. I can’t be friends with him, I’m still in love with him. I know every situation is different and you ultimately can’t tell he what he is thinking, but I guess do you think if I give him his space, he might come back? …

I’m really missing her and don’t know if i should ever get in touch with her .. its been 14 days… Should I try to get in touch soon and have a proper mature discussion about us breaking up? It just bothers me so much how we had something so good and it just crashed and burned. For some reason I keep thinking we should try again in the future as we do have a deep bond and according to 2 mutual friends, she is battling through some depression which caused her to reach out to her ex whenever she felt insecure with us doing distance. Does NOT justify it.. but I feel sorry for her in that she was battling that stuff…

Have you ever had a love psychic reading? This article helps you understand what to expect during a reading and how to tell if a psychic is genuine.>>http://www.howtowinbackyourex.org/love-psychic-readings-ca…/<< Avoid any situation that might bring you face to face with him. You think "bumping into him by accident" will make him want you more, but it's more often than not creating a new cycle of hopelessness and desperation. You don't want to be a yo-yo girl. Actually, you become so much more attractive when he thinks and knows that you've truly moved on. Bring out the memory when what makes you write that thing. If you don’t remember the specific situation, then let your imagination fills it. Close your eyes and improve your focus, remembering the anger-producing-memory as clearly as possible. Getting her to want you back in a committed relationship is more about what NOT to do, than what to do. Because, you have the attraction back by this point from the previous steps, so all you need to do here is get out of your own way, and let the getting-back-together happen on it’s own. Out of sight is NOT out of mind, when it comes to breaking up. 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder' is a lot more accurate. So in the days and weeks immmediately following your breakup? The more you're shoving yourself in your ex's face, the harder it will be to change their mind and get them back. I had to end relationship up with my girlfriend (5 years living together) due the fact she found another man to entertain her and she was not willing to make the decision: me or other guy. I tried this no contact rule and she keeps calling and texting me once a day (or so). If I did not answer her contacts, she is getting very upset and sends me irritating messages (like blaming me that I can't be trusted in serious situations). If I answer her because I assume that there was a really serious reason that she would call me, but there isn't. If we talk about weather and general stuff, it is fine. If or conversation goes to us or our past, she gets upset and tries to end the call. Last conversation she hinted me that if I would not call her more occasionally, I would waste my opportunity. She even encouriged to call her any time. The thing I never really thought about or understood was how emotions work, and how to make painful emotions go away.   If you can't make the negative emotions your ex feels go away, then you won't get back together.  It's that simple.  If you can help make the negative emotions go away, then you can get back to feelings of love and you can get back together.  This book tells you EXACTLY how to make the negative emotions of your ex dissolve. It is good to avoid talking about previous relationship and don’t put blame of previous breakup on your ex girlfriend. This will raise her defense level and it may be possible your meet up ends up on arguments and disagreements that you never want. Same case is with me mate, I want my GF badly but do not know how? She stopped talking to me and replying me as well but most surprising thing was she did not tell me why she did so? I never did any thing that hurt her, she is not telling me the reason as well, I am extremely disappointed. Someone help me please. Ill leave it at that for now! Just wondering on your 2 cents on my situation. Do I truly have a good enough reason? Any tips on angles to approach this. Any thing you can give me I would be super thankful for. Another client of mine told me how she wooed her ex-boyfriend back. She sent him genuine love letters from her heart, and gifts she knew he'd like. Yes, I know the 'use' of romance could be construed as manipulative, but it may work if done with real feeling. to everyone here having a problem with their relationship or marriage i want to tell you that solution is here for you to have your life back simply CONTACT the great prophet prince an advocate of the oracle call/whatsapp at +2348182260982 It's best to admit your mistakes. You'll need to forgive yourself for your part in the breakup, then move forward to seek his forgiveness. If you lose your temper and say things you don't mean, pull yourself together as quickly possible and apologize sincerely. There is nothing weak or demeaning about apologizing. On the contrary, it shows strength and good character. But when you apologize, be sure you mean it. A disingenuous apology is worse than no apology. If they hurt you badly in the past or are the one who ended the relationship, finding a way to move past resentment over it is probably the only way to find happiness in your new relationship. Starting a relationship with one person "owing" the other or with grudges just isn't going to work. You have every right to be pissed at someone who hurt you, but if you want to stay pissed at them, you probably should just never date them again. Can you please help me I need some advice it’s been 7 months since me and my ex have broken up I couldn’t stop thinking about him for about 5 months I have been better for the past two months but now he has been coming to my church every Sunday and he walks passes by me and today when I was in church he turned back around and looked at me and we both made contact with each other but I had turn my head I am so confused even though our breakup was not so good but I mean it wasn’t his fault it was his moms but it is still also partially his fault because after we broke up he started being a player always posting pictures of girls on Instagram telling them they were his wcw I think he was trying to make me jealous he even sent me a snapchat of himself shirtless which is probably why is he is probably still single but should I give him another chance or just move on please help I am so confused and scared and it’s just tearing me apart The logical approach to get your ex back seems that you should tell them how much you care for them and how much you love them as soon as possible before it’s too late. But trust me it’s not a good idea. Oritte Bendory is a Manhattan based writer and blogger at The Cougel Chronicles: Tales of a Jewish Cougar (Or, If Carrie Bradshaw was Jewish and divorced Big). Her remarriage memoir, “To Love, Cherish & Disobey,” is forthcoming. She is also a former screenwriter and film producer. Typically getting back with an ex will draw a lot of criticism: you’re weak, unimaginative, cba to find someone knew. Sure this might be true of some, but definitely not all. Far from stunting emotional growth, the breakdown of a relationship can actually improve it. ‘Often if people come to me having ended their relationship and they’ve made huge changes because they’ve realised that will happen,’ Susan explains. ‘Therefore getting back with somebody could well be the trigger: “I really have to step up this time, otherwise I’m going to blow it the second time around.”’ Jess, 29, and her boyfriend of five years broke up and took a three month break before getting back together. ‘We were both taking each other for granted and a feeling that “the grass was greener” so I ended it,’ she tells me. ‘Three months later I realised that I wanted him back - but I had to work for it! That was about two and half years ago now and everything’s been good since. That time apart definitely made us realise how good we have it.’ Sometimes time apart is exactly what you need and doesn't have to spell the end. Is it appropriate to post or allow friend to post pictures in my social media like FB of me with another male?? even if we are friends but it can come across as more then friends. Is been 3 months that my on-off boyfriend of 4 yrs left the house we share for the 3 years, his excuses was that I would be better without him, is not the first time he leaves but I had been the one who always reach out to him and “convince him to come back”, I want different results so is been 2 weeks that I staring applying the no contact method and he has not contact me either. i am an 18 year old male, i broke up with my ex girlfriend almost 3 months ago, we was together almost 5 years, we had a strong bond but we went through an unfortunate abortion, during this situation she got attached to the baby im her stomach but wasnt finacially stable to take care of a child, her anxiety got really bad and she pushed me away and wouldnt let me near her, after almost a month of this she broke up with me stating that she had lost feelings and doesnt want to be with me anymore, we have broken up and got back together alot in the past, but this time is different, i acted irrational and constantly begged and stated how upset and lonely i was without her, i irratated her to the point of she blocked me on afew social medias, but she left 1 line of communication open via instagram, i often message her but she doesnt reply but she reads the messages, if she doesnt look at the message fast enough i panic and irratate her with more, she then replies with "Go away, leave me alone, move on i want you to" i ask her why we broke up and all she says is 'everything' thats all she says, i truley believe there is a chance but she is being too stubon to admit it, im really confused and in a bad place, there was never any cheating, im so worried that the no contact rule will not work, although if it doesnt im still in the same place im in now so what can get worse... i read alot of these getting ex back websites but im never really satisfied with the information as every situation is very different, i really do want her back, and the relationship will be great if i get the chance to reconcile it, im really in need of some help im looking forward to your help and also the no contact daily email help as i need as much help as i can get. What about evidence that my theories represent reality? If you’ve been using many of those behaviors I asked you about in the questions above, and you also got dumped, then the fact that both happened in your own life, and that I was able to call both out despite the fact I’ve never met you – that should be all the evidence you need. "I can see now," Peter explained to her, "that in my depression about work I became totally self-centered. I withdrew from you, so no wonder you felt angry and distanced from me. As both of us withdrew from each other we lost our sexual connection.  I felt desparate for attention.  Then I took the ultimate wrong turn by seeking sexual attention from an infidelity. Big mistake!  I'm so glad that now I'm looking for a job that will be a better fit for me. I think I've found one, and I'm thrilled at the prospect."   I do still have strong feelings for him and there are so many things that I want to tell him. But you said the best thing is to keep things light and emotion-free. He mentions in his email that he misses my friendship and wants to be friends. What exactly does he mean by that? And should I stay friend with him even though I want him back? I have already composed a reply to send to him which i based off of the magic letter guidelines: Another factor to consider is…was there financial trouble, which tore you apart? If so, you can possibly figure out a way to solve this. It really depends on the specific situation if you are willing to compromise and make changes. So my ex texted me last night & we've been broken up for about 4 days now, I didn't send him any messages like I usually do while he's at work & today he asked me if I needed a ride to school (probably making up excuses to talk to me or see me bc he rarely ever took me to school while we were together) & I replied back & we were talking for a while but since it's flooded right now around the Phoenix area in Arizona i told him I can't go to school & now he isn't talking to me. Did I mess up my chances by replying back to him ? I am sorry if my reply was not very coherent. I do realize that I should not be so worried about what to send, that a single message can make it or break it, but at the same time that is what your website is about, the reality is that it does make all the difference. He keeps on texting me how fu*king coward I am for not confronting his family. I actually texted her sister already and plans to meet up yesterday afternoon. Because of his non stop texting telling me how coward I am, I texted her mom asking if I could meet her since I want to say something very important, and she told me to just text the details whatever it is because she is very busy. So I told her everything and apologized wholeheartedly. She said that she doesnt have anything against me and he knows that hes son is also drunk, in short, shes not mad at me or anything, she told me that we time will heal for both of us. I also texted her sister that I cant meet her up anymore and just told her the whole story, just like their mom, she also said she understand what I did,. [otp_overlay]