Because of that, I’ve compiled a list of ways to move on when you’re still in love with your ex. Yes, it hurts to move on, but trust me when I say that it’ll hurt even more if you keep holding on to the past. Here’s how to move on from your ex boyfriend:
Your story is very similar to mine. He was dating another girl but i didnt know it. He came back to me several times but didnt want to work things out so i blocked him from social media. that was three months ago. He has been dating that girl for several months even when when he was trying to convince me that he still loved me and missed me but because of my shortcomings he couldnt be with me. Now they are a couple and he hasnt tried to reach out. i changed my number though.
Hey Ryan, so I’m not worried that she’s seeing other people, atleast not yet. She didn’t date much before me and from everything I can tell, she isn’t dating much or at all right now. She initiated the breakup and asked to still be friends, but she’s got an icy demeanor towards me just about anytime we interact. She’s said that she’s mad at me but refuses to tell me what about. Something is bothering her but she’s not telling me and I promise I’m not calling her everyday, begging her or anything like that. It’s been a couple months like this and it’s after no contact ended, how can I get her to start communicating with me?
I am in the same situation. I’ve had several relationships before but my ex was the first guy I really deeply loved. We had incredible chemistry and I was his first girlfriend. He had qualities that no one else I knew had and we shared many interests that are not easy to find in others. He was incredibly loyal and loving and even though I adored him I often didn’t show him how much he meant to me. I pushed him to work harder and criticised him for his failings – to me it felt like I was helping him and that once he was on track we would be able to relax and build on our future. I just wanted him to succeed but it made me into a misery and a nag. The last year of our relationship was very stressful due to university exams and uncertainties. He is very lazy which was a constant source of disagreement between us and I felt that it made me into a very negative person as I was worried that he would not become more organised. It was far too much pressure and I bitterly regret projecting my worries for my own future onto him. Our family lives compounded the problems between us as we were both very unhappy at home. Previously we had been at university together but being separated and in bad environments took its toll. He coped better than I did and I pushed him away. These arguments spilled over into our relationship and I allowed sadness and fights at home to turn into an ever present atmosphere of negativity and stress. He broke up with me and didn’t want me to contact him again. Our relationship had been very close and open – there was a lot of love, kindness and affection as well as the bad elements. After a few messages that day asking to work things out and telling him how much I loved him (he didn’t reply) I never sent him another message nor heard from him. 4 months later and I have hardly met anyone else or been intimate with anyone – physically or emotionally. I know that even though I will move past it (admittedly, we were not the most compatible) I will really struggle to find someone else who I connect with in such a deep way and who I find so special and attractive. I have offers for dates but even though the guys are handsome or are friends, I just don’t find them interesting in that way. I know that I will find someone else in the future and will have another good even great relationship, but I know that I will always compare things to my ex and part of me will always feel that my heart and soul is with him. I don’t think that there is anything that can be done about this – some people are more loving than others and when you just happen to be lucky enough to click with someone in a special way it is very difficult to lose that bond. I think everyone has the ability to be a ‘penguin’ (my ex used to say that he was one and that he could never be with another girl in the same way) but not everyone happens to develop a relationship with someone who they can click with. We were both lucky and unlucky in that respect because we met someone amazing but now have to adjust to life without them because things weren’t able to work out. I wish that I could talk to my ex and at least have a friendship with him as we shared so much together and the loss is very painful. But if you offer an olive branch and it still isn’t enough you must accept that for the other person their feelings are either different or they are resigned to not wanting you in their life.
“How long am I expected to live like this? The days are VERY lonely. It’s an unbelievably depressing feeling to wake up and immediately realize that I’m not home, and have no friends or family to talk with … I get up, I meditate, I swim, I go to work, I eat, I lift some weights, I meditate again and go to sleep. Wash, rinse, and repeat. I’m not enjoying work (which would normally be a decent distraction), but feel I can’t quit, as I have too many financial responsibilities I have to uphold. I’m amazed I haven’t gone mad yet.
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Do let me know if you have any advice. I don’t think there is much that can be done in a situation like this, other than to try to focus on the positive experiences, but it is certainly not easy to realise that some mistakes cannot be taken back and you cannot always fix something even if you desperately want to. I hope you both get the resolutions that you want. I miss my ex terribly and am still very hurt. I don’t know whether he feels the same or has already moved on but I can only hope that I can move on eventually too x
It is so difficult to get over some you care about. One minute they are in you life the next they are permanently gone. The best that I found to get over a boyfriend was to acknowledge the loss; acknowledge the pain; busy yourself with great friends and healthy activities and also take some time to take care of yourself.
“It took me about a year to get over my ex. Granted, we spent a lot of that time in the gray area of ‘will we or won’t we get back together?’ I met a new guy, which definitely helped, but I was still waffling between him and my ex for a while. (I know, I’m a jerk.) Then, one day, I woke up and just decided I was done with all of the games my ex was playing and wanted to give the new guy a chance. I don’t know what really did it, but making that decision for myself and consciously choosing to stop wondering ‘what if’ helped a lot.” —Robin H.
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What draws us into bad relationships and keeps us stuck in them for far too long is low self-esteem. We don’t believe we can do better and reason that something is better than nothing so we have nothing to lose. The subconscious is always looking for validation. If you don’t believe you’re good enough, you will continue to date men who make you feel unworthy and you’ll stay because deep down you think this is what you deserve. It isn’t. Until you realize this and work through whatever needs to be worked through, you won’t be able to have a healthy, happy relationship with anyone, be it your ex or some other guy.
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As he saw the impact of his new listening skills Peter all the more conscientiously dug into learning all he could from his relationship skills book, workbook and online program. He realized that prior to the relationship breakup he had had no idea of what a high-skilled activity sustaining a loving partnership was. Now that he understood the potency of collaborative dialogue, conflict resolution and emotional self-regulation skills he studied intensely every night as if he was preparing for exams.
Well we broke up just 8 days ago.. actually he broke up with me anyway when i ask him to reason he said “I think it’s not gonna work. I always leave you alone and I know you have suffer about so I don’t wanna make you upset anymore” (for me it’s a stupid reason) normally he is an introverted person who doesn’t like to share his past and whatever happens he keeps smile that’s why I wanna be with him all the time. He got jealous when I changed my profile picture (I was with my friend) so he kept asking me that who is that person after we broke up. He also told me that “I can’t imagine my life without you in it” so he made me confused. I’m still inlove with him and I feel that he is still love me but Idk what should I do? T.T
If you don’t follow what I say, you will act out of desperation and will ultimately humiliate yourself and further decimate any shred of self-esteem you have left. I’m being blunt because there is no time for sugar-coating. You want to know how to get your ex boyfriend back now? Follow what I’m saying and he won’t know what hit him.
A few days later she got in contact with me and I arranged another date. Breakfast was all I could do due to me leaving for home. It went well. So well, that she wanted to see me once more before I left. On this date she mentioned that she would be in my city in April, and that we should get drinks when she’s there. Once again, no signs that she wanted to be kissed during this date either. She even said “I know you want to kiss me, but it’s not going to happen” and I was kind of bummed. I followed her to the interstate and before I got on it I decided to try my luck and I told her to pull over. She said “No, I know you want to kiss me and it’s not happening” so I kept my cool. On the way home, she called me and I mentioned to her that she could come out to my place to visit me next weekend. As soon as I said this, she got very angry and told me that the dates were just to “keep our friendship” and that we aren’t dating anymore. She went on to tell me she had already slept with another guy. I kept my composure as best as I could but needless to say this really confused me. Where did I go wrong?
The next thing I want you to do is to stop running from your painful emotions and embrace them. We women tend to stuff down our emotions for fear that a man will get scared by them and run away. But the real truth is that men LOVE our emotional nature – it’s drama that they can’t tolerate. When we learn to get in touch with our feelings and express them in a non–judging, non–critical way, a man will not feel blamed and will feel COMPELLED to open his heart to you.
This week has been bad. I have got a bad cold and couldn’t go anywhere. Been thinking too much and I have started missing him a lot. It is a day 34 of 45. I feel terrible and I look terrible. I feel like I am not ready to text him yet. But I still have 11 days to go. I think this cold is already getting better so I assume I feel much better in 11 days. I also have thought about what if I would text him on a day 40 because it is a weekend and I am sure he has more time to reply as he is not working. what do you think?
What you are trying to do here is bring a similarity to light by asking a simple question. Now, in this example we are going to assume that your ex boyfriend is really big into telescopes and stuff like that. Hence, the reason I composed a text about a super moon.
Hi! I broked up with my boyfriend one month and a week ago, I broked up with him because he became distant with no reason, he was being very dry with me and I always asked him if I was being a good girlfriend and he always said that I was perfect. We didn’t have any problems during our relationship of 3 months. So, I broked up with him through a text “I don’t want to be with you anymore” and he replied that it was a good relationship but we were having many issues and that life made it complicated, so it was better to break up. I don’t know if I want him back because he became distant out of the blue, he didn’t call me or text me as much as before and he said “he was busy with his job” but I knew he had free time. I just want to know why he didn’t want to be with me if things were going well between us, I don’t know what my mistake was. I haven’t talked to him since we broked up, I deleted him from social media that day because I didn’t want him to talk to me. What did I do wrong in the relationship? Should I text him or should I let it go? Thank you, merry Christmas!!
I can see you are struggling to get over your boyfriend. it is normal because you had something special. I wish you can identify how you feeling and make sure the good decision is taken wisely by you alone.
Answering the question of how to get your ex boyfriend back. This question provides a foundation from which to build up your plan. Remember, the problem is not the person themselves but the situation and issues which they found themselves surrounded with. It is also important to answer who broke up with who? If you did the breaking up, of course then you know the exact reasons you broke up with the person and can move on from there. If he broke up with you, determine if he explained the exact reasons why he was breaking up with you.
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You may be wondering why learning about the NCR (No Contact Rule) is so important. After all, this page is about a very unique situation, trying to get an ex boyfriend back who has a new girlfriend. Well, the importance of NOT CONTACTING YOUR EX is crucial in this particular situation. The fact that your old boyfriend has a new girlfriend can be heart crushing and you are going to want to contact your ex very badly (and you are definitely not going to have many good things to say.)
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When you break up with your boyfriend, one of the absolute worst things you can do is sit at home alone with nothing to do. And that’s why you’re obsessing over him in the first place, right? You’re still thinking about the relationship that could have been. Whenever you feel like reaching for the phone to text him on a Thursday night, resist the urge and call up your best friend instead. Girl talk will never let you down.
Remember what caused you to break up. Relationships that are on-again-off-again tend to be volatile and emotionally unstable. Remembering what caused your original break up and dealing with those issues can help to prevent some of the same challenges from cropping up again.
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You should be happy recognizing that you’re single because it means you can have limitless options. It means that you are not imprisoned in a reality where you can’t be happy unless you get a very, very specific outcome with one particular person.
hi me and my ex dated for two years then he broke up with me and months later dated another girl who he then left after 8 months and broke up with because of me, he told me he still loved me and the memories brought him back to me however we started talking to try and fall in love with each other again and after trying we managed to at one point but lost our balance again because i couldn’t just let us be i kept bringing up questions like what are we and why aren’t we together eventually he got sick of trying and having the same conversations so I went to stay with him for 3 weeks we had a good time but we had sex and when I got back we just didn’t talk much and he told me its because he doesn’t feel the urge to pop up to me and talk to me his old feelings aren’t there anymore and it isn’t the same, now he’s started talking to another girl who is literally perfect in terms of looks and they have many similarities but I still want him back, we are still in contact, however, I’ve blocked him off everything so my life is easier for now and today I talked to him and he told me to let go of us and that if we get together then we will but if we don’t we won’t but he doesn’t want to give me false hope and told me we can be friends but he’s talking to the other girl right now and getting to know her and that he already thinks she’s cool, he also said it’s my choice if i want to stay in his life while he chats to her, he doesn’t care if i leave his life or not right about now but i want him back so what do i do
If you want someone back that has done that to you, you need to work on your boundaries and self esteem. I’ve totally been there and I know how you feel. I know it’s hard; you’re not alone. What’s done is done but now it’s time to have your own back, speak with your actions and take care of YOU. You deserve so much more and I know you know it ? xoxoxo
Hang out with your friends and family, hit the gym or go shopping at the mall. Take the time to pamper yourself with an at-home mani pedi. Whatever it is you decide to do, do something that gets your mind off of the break-up.
However, don’t go overboard in pushing them. Like ”Come on. Just go out with me once. Please. Pretty please.” Or “You broke up with me and broke my heart. The least you can do is go out with me one time.”
For example, a boy comes to you in a bar and offers you to buy a drink. What will be your response? Most probably you would not value his friendship that much because you didn’t work for it. You may though of saying ‘YES’ to him but very next moment after buying drink you wouldn’t be giving any attention to him. Why? This is because you didn’t work for it.
There’s more to getting your ex back than this post of course. Every situation is different and requires a slightly different approach. Hopefully at least one tip from above rings a bell and gets you closer on your path to getting Mr. Right back to where he should be, with you, the perfect girlfriend for him. Once you get him back, don’t take him for granted – a relationship… love… is something you must work on and maintain so that the fire keeps burning, if you just leave it unattended it’ll either go out or get out of proportion and burn down a whole forest. [otp_overlay]