Thank you Ryan. There was a discussion, when I was expressing worries about how negative she sounded and her repeating how bad she is which I strongly disagreed with, and a discussion about where to live together that she started, which was all strange. I asked her what made her feel inadequate and she repeated that it’s just how a relationship makes her feel, and that she can’t have this discussion, and basically broke contact. Very sudden, very extreme, and very bizarre and I’m left with questions and I feel very confused. I asked her if this is about someone else, she strongly denied it, and I hope she speaks the truth, because I trusted her completely, and this would be a major disappointment in her and in people in general…I wish she could tell me what this is really about.
I want you to take a second and imagine something for me. You are at a crowded bar with a group of your friends. Now, since you are a nice person you offer to go buy drinks for everyone in your group.
Men and women break relationship for different reasons and sometime you didn’t know why your ex leaves you. Even if your ex says you something but still many times you feel there is some other story behind his wording. Finding the actual truth behind his words is difficult but it is surely possible.
I am leaning towards not talking for a year and then being his distant friend. He said he prefers to be distant friends (the type that every 3-6 months check up on eachother to see how they are because theh still care for eachother) but that the decision is ultimately mine because he did mess with my mind a little after the breakup changing his mind over and over. I just don’t know if taking a year off to get over it and then opening the wound to be friends would be productive. I know that being friends would probably lead to us reconnecting which I do want in the future. This guy is the UG (ungettable guy ) for me.
If you start to get back together and you slowly start to notice that it seems as though he is in it for the wrong reasons, it is best that you re-evaluate your position and move on if you have to. In the end, you need to have a strong and healthy relationship that will allow the both of you to be happy and thrive.
Learning to forgive and make peace with things that happened in the past can happen more easily when you take your focus off of the specific events that occurred and instead try to see the perspective of the people involved. Most people don’t act with the intention of directly hurting someone else; generally, they make choices intending to make themselves feel better. For better or worse, it is in our nature as human beings to operate from our own self-beneficial perspective and the impact of our actions on others is often a secondary consideration. It doesn’t make it right, but sometimes seeing someone else’s perspective can help you understand the events that unfolded better and make them less personal. It can also be easier to forgive someone when you see them as a whole person. If you find yourself stewing in anger over something that someone else did or didn’t do, try to pull back and remember the good qualities you saw in them when you first met, and recognize that we all have flaws and we all make mistakes.
“Six months after the breakup, I remember waking up and just feeling like I was finally over my relationship of over two years. It probably helped that I recently got a message from another guy I was crushing on before I started dating my ex asking if I wanted to meet him for coffee. The timing was perfect, and I started dating that guy soon after.” —Sandra R.
I dead inside and out for the the last 7 to 8 my girlfriend of 4 years and the only woman ill ever love truely I feel like I can never trust again. We just had a beautiful son and she moved 160 miles away back with her mother. I tried everything I let her be a stay at home mom and didn’t ask for anything in return till I relized she never fed me cleaned the house. Witch she blamed on me not taking care of my son. Yet the place was never clean before she even got pregnant. I just got done reading a thing about emotional abuse and I’m so confused. Did she feel that I was. Is that why shes had such a easy time leaving me? cause she felt I was but honestly I feel that I am abused. Still to this da and to top it off I cant get her outs my mind. Almost every thing I see touch taste I hear the question in my head man I bet Tabatha would love this. Then I weep like a little hitch. Then smile seeing that shes happier without me atleast I think so. She makes it apparent that she wants nothing not even a chivalry friendship from me. Example this is my sons 2nd Christmas she always wants to buy him more presents then he will know what to do with. So I tell her I haven’t bought his gift yetwould you like me to get something off your list. Responds yes. Lastnight I am told I can come spend Christmas with my son. Yet I want to get her a gift as a friend and ask permission. She denies stating she only has me around for Jonah’s sake. Yet to me that contradicts basically to me it says. No Jonah will not see a proper relationship between his mother and father with respect and love. Just like she was without father. I almost feel he was driven away to look like the crazy drug addict dude that hes not I don’t know though. Growing up like that did it make it ok in her mind that she needed to leave me after getting stressed from a dirty home that I bated as well just didn’t feel my job to do if she wanted to play house and make the nest. Will this result in the same way with my son and his relationships when he grows. 2 so I get to go there no friends no family mind you I don’t have any here at home either due to my depression and choices past 8 months since she stole my son from me. Pay for somenof her presents to him and watch as what my son has learnedly to call a family open presents and be joyful as I gibe and Recieve nothing cause I’m only allowed there for my son. Sorry so long I’m breaking down and don’t have anyone in my life to confide in that dosn’t hates. Her anyway lost confused and feel like giving up I felt this was my only chance. Please help me I feel like I should go to be with my son but like I said I feel abused neglected and in turn I don’t even have my family to help me. They want me to help myself but I don’t drive I am unemployed since break up and almost feel like not doing anything is the only thing I can do. No motivation and noneone will even give me help I feel like ive been screaming for it for months now and all that got me was a DV with my brother that neither one of is violent people stuff just happens more stress more typing sorry. Help me decide see son ignore abuse or sit here in this bated town and rot either I feel will be the end of my ride. Again sorry for small book.
My ex broke up with me last month after being together for over a year. The last few months were rough because his grandmother passed away after being in the hospital for a few months. I tried to be there for him but he totally withdrew and would reject my advances and we started fighting a lot because of it.
My mouth is full of testimonies right now, my husband left home for two years to Australia for a business trip, where he meant this prostitute and he was be witch by the girl my husband refuse to come back home again, i cryied day and night looking for who to help me, i read a news paper about a powerful spell caster called priest tokubo i contacted the spell caster to help me get my lover back to me and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods we fight for me.. he told me by… Read more »
Don’t just throw it in his face that you still love him and that you want him back. Be stronger than your emotions. Give the whole “getting back together” process some time; make a good foundation for that future you’ll build together.
For example, have you ever met a guy with whom you felt an almost instantaneous connection with, almost like you’d known him for ages, like you were meant to know him? And for whatever mysterious reason, you just felt drawn to him and your relationship unfolded into a whirlwind of love and romance?
The first time I got dumped I was 14. It was my first boyfriend and after about 6 months of dating, he walked me to class, handed me a note and that was it. Tears streamed down my face in math class as I read, “I feel like we’re just friends that hold hands.” In other words, Mr First Boyfriend dumped me because I wouldn’t go to second base with him.
“If you’ve had an amicable breakup and you see your ex is engaged then you can congratulate him or her and make it a positive thing,” Tebb says. “But if you’re not talking to each other and it wasn’t a good split, then the feelings of jealousy will arise. You’ll get mixed emotions, which is common and normal. So if you’re feeling upset and vulnerable, you need to talk to someone who can listen to you vent. But if you are seeing stuff on social media, get off of it.”
This is why it’s ideal if you do it at your place, ’cause then you can prepare a bit, you can make the atmosphere amazing. Anything you’ve not been doing in the past, but know he loves, now’s the time to get with the program. You never gave him oral when you were together before? Are you too shy to talk dirty? Do you hide under the cover?