Few things are more painful to a man than losing the woman of your dreams. The pain is magnified when you come to the realization that a lot of what went wrong was your fault. Maybe you did a poor job of controlling your temper, maybe you ignored your wife when she tried to let you know how she felt, or maybe you were just mocking.
Whatever the issue was, you will be happy to know that it is possible to “get my wife back” and it may not be as difficult as you had thought it would be.
Before you make up your ‘plan of attack’ it’s important for you to make sure you’re trying to reconcile with your ex wife for the right reasons. For example, make sure that it isn’t just your ego that she left you or that you’re jealous because she’s dating a new guy that is driving you to try to get her back.
If you have the wrong motives for getting her back, you will both have a lot of frustration and pain… it’s just not worth it.
If you’re sure that the reason you want your wife back is because you still love her and now that you’ve had time to think about what went wrong in your relationship you are convinced you can make significant positive changes than here are the steps you will need to take:
1. Give her space. I know, this runs counter to everything you are feeling. Most people want to rush right over the their ex’s house right away and plead their case.
It feels like if you give her too much room she’ll get over you and find someone else. The truth is that is highly unlikely, unless she really is over you in which case there would be nothing more you can do anyway.
Most people will take months to get over their ex to the point where they can move on emotionally. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they won’t date, but it’s unlikely that they’ll make a real connection soon after the breakup.
If you take your time and give her some space you will be showing her a few important things about the man you are: you’ll show her that you are a mature adult who can control his actions, you’ll also give her some time to miss you and face the possibility that you may really be gone from her life permanently. If she still has feelings for you, this realization might make her more inclined to give things a second try when you do contact her.
2. It’s OK during step #1 to contact her once or twice, remember you have to give her a lot of space, just to let her know that you miss her and that you still love her. But that is it. In the meantime you should spend time on you. Take time to make positive changes in the person you are.
Everyone is different, you have to make changes in the areas you need work in such as, getting fit, working on your anger issues, taking a class, putting in some extra time at work, etc. Whatever areas of your personality that could use some work are the things you should be spending time on during this period.
These are just the starting points that can help you find the right path to get my wife back. Just remember that anything worthwhile takes time and you have to be willing to give it time.
Would you like some help, a path to follow, so that you do not feel you are doing this all on your own? My best recommendation is that you check out the relationship work of T. W. Jackson. It’s called the Magic of Making Up and I can personally attest that it is some of the best “get my wife back” advice you will find.
Jackson has helped thousands of couples the world over, why don’t you see if he can help you too. Learn more here.