But it doesn’t really work that way. In fact, every time you call or text your ex, you are showing them you are a needy person and you are miserable without them. This neediness is unattractive and pushes your ex further away.

Peter also switched from “awfulizing” about his work situation from a stance of helpless victim to taking a problem-solving stance. What could he do to find a more positive work situation? He began networking with others in his field, stumbled on a job that sounded far more suitable, applied, and at this point is looking likely to get the position.  

After those three days, try to let the relationship go. Give yourself time to just be alone, spending time with family and friends and doing things you love. When you’re in a healthy place, you can begin looking for love once more.

Having leadership qualities and having a plan is important to keep attraction in the relationship. Basically women attract to those men who display this quality. Did your girlfriend ever asked, “What is the plan for dinner tonight?” and you replied “I don’t have any plan… Where you like to go for dinner?” This is the attraction killer.

You have spent a month not contacting your ex. You spent that entire time working on yourself becoming more and more confident as the days past. Everything seemed to be going fine until you hit your first road block with a negative response. Make no mistake about it, negative responses are never good. However, they don’t EVER mean that you should give up right away. It just means you have to be smarter about how you approach things. Lets take a look at a negative response example (from my past) this is a true story.

Thanks. We did text yesterday he said he had a crazy week because his dog was stolen. I’m not sure how often we should text at this point in time? Obviously I want to rebuild connection, it’s a little hard because he isn’t much of a texter. What should I talk about to rebuild connection?

But this book — aside from being based on my personal experiences — is also based on the experiences of over 1,200 other men. Because after it’s initial release I personally consulted with more than a twelve-hundred readers. Then I updated the course to include every possible breakup situation (and it’s solution) imaginable.

Hence, why I don’t believe she’ll be coming back this time. My problem is, even though she displays signs of insecurity and can be down right nasty sometimes, deep down I love and miss her like she’s still a part of my life. I understand that I need to heal, for myself more than anything, and also, for the 1% chance that she may come back one day. I told her that I wouldn’t want to start where we left off, that relationship would be dead, and we would have to start again. The only way to do that is to get over the old relationship. I think it may take some time for her to do that, but I will not be waiting around for that to happen. She told me clearly that she was going to move on and I will be doing the same. I’ve actually started reading “you can heal your life” by Louise Hay which has been great for lifting my spirits, and loving myself again. Anyone feeling the effects of a relationship breakdown and the low self esteem should definitely invest in this book.

My girl broke up with me over 3 months ago, i did the no contact and contact her after 30 days and we caught up for coffee. We have been going on couple dates but recently she has been dating another guy. She still has feelings she says but does not want to jeopardize her new relationship because she is afraid of the other guy finding out that she is still talking and hanging with her ex. what can you conclude?

Sometimes, you want to fight for the relationship. Sometimes you just know deep in your heart that if only you could get another chance with your ex, things would work out. Sometimes, you just can’t close that chapter unless you get another try.

Your ex girlfriend will respond to escalation and as you can see we are slowly rebuilding it here. The texting rebuilt some attraction but now it is time to use the phone to really kick things up a notch.

Everything you do is crucial, from the moment your ex breaks up with you to the moment you wrap your arms back around her again. In between, there are a LOTS of big mistakes to make. Commit too many errors, and you’ll lose your one chance at ever dating your ex again.

I have just broke up with my BF after our 5 months relationship together. We never had fight or argument along 5 months. Everything went very well and we both were very happy. He suddenly told me he wanted to be just friends but with lots of different reasons like I am too sweet, I am too good and he isn’t good enough as a BF. But I found out 8 days later that the real reason of breaking up was he going back to his ex who he was with for 2 years. They broke up nearly a year ago and she asked him to try again. Their relationship ended because a lady said he didn’t try hard enough… My Bf feels like it was his fault of ending his relationship with her so he seemed excited to get her back and told me he is preparing to try and change because he was happy when he was with her.. He left me to go back to his ex and now he is very happy having her back…Do you think is there any chance for me to get him back?