hello charlie,my girlfriend doesn’t want to date me again and has told me to move on cos she has move on with her life now and is now and is now dating some else. All because my blood brother and one of my friends told her that i have been sharing with them what i do with her in private. She says they told her that i told them she begs me for sex and also to suck me. She got so much upset. I have apologize to her that i didn’t do it but she doesn’t believe me . I have done everything a guy will do show i still love but still she doesn’t want to get back to me. Is been close to 5months but she still doesn’t want us to get together, i love her so much that i can’t see her go. Am short of ideas i need ur help. Thanks
If you’ve been searching about breakups and getting your ex back online, you’d know that there is a thing called no contact rule. It’s simple and very effective. All you have to do is stop all the communication with your ex for a short period of time. This includes
Why does she hate you? It’s vital that you find out why she hates you… because this will help you to build a solid action plan. Did you cheat on her? Did she blame you for wasting years of her life without you even proposing to her? Think man!
I made another mistake Sunday morning by unblocking my ex on Facebook and was tempted. Now I haven’t re-blocked her yet and I hope she hasn’t noticed. Which she probably has by now. She’d just see we are no longer friends on Facebook.
If you want to make yourself capable to win your ex back again then you have to stop blaming yourself. Breakups are part of relationship and even strongest couple sometime suffer from breakup as well. Just because you are suffering from breakup doesn’t mean you are bad person.
Don’t fall back into old habits. Though you should enjoy your relationship as a new one, you should still remember the thing that led to the downfall of your relationship. If you find yourself fighting again, disappointing your girlfriend for the same reasons, or finding yourself feeling the same negative emotions you felt the first time around, remember to check yourself and to work on overcoming those troubling situations.
Don’t jump in too quickly. In purely physical terms, if you and a date hit it off, however fast you want to go is entirely your business, but emotionally speaking, it’s important that you ease into your next relationship. Ending a relationship always stings a little, but short relationships sting less if you’ve managed to keep a clear head.
Leave it at least 2 weeks – Don’t be needy or act desperate, it’s not going to help you. Play your cards close to your chest and don’t contact her for at least 2 weeks. Delete her number if you need to, so you’re not tempted (obviously write it down first).
Girls need that element of challenge in their guy…she needs to feel that she won you, but not 100% yet, and to keep her on her toes/from getting bored, you should never let it quite reach 100% in her mind.
Since the breakup, I’ve put in a lot of work to make myself better. The breakup hurt like hell and I let her know how much I regretted letting us fall apart, but I never begged or groveled for her back. Instead I channeled my sadness into fixing all the things I hated about myself at the time. I’ve sought out help for a gambling problem, calmed down the drinking and gotten into better shape. We still talk semi-often, mostly through text or when we run into eachother at a bar or event.
After breakup you want your ex girlfriend in your life but instead of pushing her away, you are actually pulling her. By pulling your ex girlfriend you are actually putting more pressure on her. She will start thinking she can get you anytime but she will never want you.
It’s been a little over three months since my ex and I broke up. I’ve completed no contact and given my ex space, a task someone difficult because we work together. I never begged or been pushy did the right moves based on advice given on here and other places. She’s still will barely talk to me and will barely reply to text messages. Typically she’ll reply to the initial message, but getting a second reply doesn’t happen much. Back in September I purchased a Christmas gift for her and even though we broke up I still sent it to her on Friday. She replied thank you for the gift. You didn’t need to. Merry Christmas! Attached to the gift was a clean slate letter. She made no mention of it. I told her she was welcome for the gift. I asked her if she was going to be up for talking soon to clear the air. She never replied back. She isn’t seeing anyone, nor did we have a bad breakup. Since the breakup I have found out that she is mad at me about something I said but I don’t know what I said or who I said it to and she won’t tell me. We’ve had some positive interactions as of late at work, but she’s got a wall so high up now. Where do I go from here? Three months, no contact completed, clean slate letter given, space given, showed activity on social media sites as well and not much recoconcilation has occurred. What can I do? Or is it time to accept the fact that I’m not going to get her back?
Remember to take it slow. Don’t start hanging out with her 24/7, but start going on dates or hanging out a few times a week. You don’t want to make her feel smothered at the beginning of your new relationship.
I would add one additional observation, backed up by research findings. When couples have strong skills for talking cooperatively over differences, they find collaborative solutions to “those annoyng little ticks.” Often the solution comes just from more understanding of each other; sometimes small changes that each are glad to make also help enormously.
Hello, my ex girlfriend of just over two years just broke up with me over the phone a week ago, to me this was completely out of the blue, but she said she had been mulling it over for a month or so. Her explanation was a couple things. One was that she felt I deserved better than her because I was such an awesome person and that I put in 110% into the relationship and she did not. Which is not true because I could not ask for any more than what she was. The second was that she felt there was pressure to “put a ring on it” which is also not true. Not saying I wouldn’t like to spend the rest of life with her, just that it was definitely not time at all. After asking her the next day to meet up the following day because I believe there was things still left unsaid and that it should be done face to face, we both agreed we needed some time to get our emotions straight. She reached out to me a few days later asking to meet up the next day. Following that she backed out of meeting saying there was no point and that it was just dragging things out and that it was already over. So now the next day I sat up all night with these thoughts in my head, eventually I put them down in a text and sent it explaining that She never did anything wrong, that I know this wouldn’t change her mind but it was something I had to say, how our memories together will be with me forever and that I will always love her. She responded back with saying How hard this is for her too and she didn’t want to hurt me but she didn’t want to drag me along either, she still loves and cares for me, and she will always cherish our memories together as well. I have not contacted her since but this whole thing has just left me utterly confused and heartbroken. I feel like with just a little bit of communication things could have worked out just fine. That she really does have feelings for me, but because she thought less of herself that she didn’t deserve me.
1. Give yourself some time to grieve. I know how hard it is to be happy after a breakup. I remember I was a complete mess for at least two weeks. I didn’t sleep properly, didn’t eat properly, and I was just thinking about my ex all day. In a way, this period is necessary for you. You give yourself some time to grieve everyday. If you want to feel sad and sorry for yourself, go ahead and do it. But make sure you also do something everyday to make yourself feel good about yourself.
it sounds like she’s avoiding talking to you because she thinks you haven’t moved on… because if she’s angry about something, she would be frustrated about it and then she would confront you.. but it looks like she’s irritated…
Following these six tips on getting your ex back will surely help you. The most important thing is you need to take things slowly. Stay no-contact with your ex for at least 30-35 days. If you run into her during these days, keep the meeting short but polite. Fighting, argument and love is the part of every relationship. When you get separated from her don’t lose hope and start working on these getting your ex girlfriend to want you back tips to win her over.
If you try to convince your ex that this new person is not right for them, it’s only going to make them want it more (think of telling someone to not press a button and they’ll definitely want to press it). They might even let the rebound relationship run longer just to prove you wrong.
Find out if she has truly moved on or if the relationship that she currently has is a rebound one. If she’s in a rebound relationship, then it is still possible for you to win her back. Just exert an effort and prove to her that you really love her and still want her to be part of your life.
To be entirely honest, there’s always a chance, but in long distance relationships, that chance can be a lot slimmer. If she’s dating someone new and he is in the same country as her, it’s very hard for you to compete because anything you do without being in close proximity can easily be misinterpreted. I would honestly suggest that you be fair to yourself and not contact her for the time being. Practice the No Contact rule for a period before considering anything again.
Right now, you’re probably feeling and acting quite differently than what you’re typically accustomed to. You might even be giving off some negative energy to the people around you. I can tell you confidently that if you want your ex back, you need to put an end to the negative image you’re giving off.
She moved out but left a lot of stuff. She came over 7 days later to pick up some more things and we talked for an hour…I told her that I took some time to think and that I wanted her to know how I felt about her, that I love her and that I want her back and that I want to grow old with her…she said why didn’t I feel that way for the last 2 years. I told her I would show her that I am still that man she fell in love with and that I would win her heart back….she said she is looking forward to that…
You don’t want to make the mistake of rekindling your relationship with her only to end up having to break both your hearts again when everything fails, do you? Ask yourself if bringing her back to your life is what you really want. If you are still unsure, then spend time assessing your own self and reflecting back on the relationship that you once had.
There’s this guy that had a crush on me,and i also loved him.We where in the same class.He’s a shy type,he couldn’t tell me his mind.people started calling me his name.we quarrelled cos he’s friend also had feelings towards me.he once askd me if he (his frnd) luvs me and i said he doesn’t.we both quarrelled cos he beared a girl’s name.He blocked me on all social networks.It took us 10 months to reconcile.He came back first.bt right now he hasn’t said anything to me abt dating.I want to know if he still luvs me
I’ve been with my girlfriend for over a year, and she just broke up with me because she seems to care more about her friends than she does our relationship. she wont make time for me and ever sinse we split she refuses to talk to me. I’m heartbroken completely. because we used to be perfect. how do i get her to speak to me again even though she doesnt want to, i need her, please help!
Hi, I just split up with my girlfriend of 7 years. We were great together, completely in love and talked about marriage and growing old together, we traveled the world together, everyone knows us as a perfect couple, we never fought always laughed together… however the last 2 years have been very difficult. We have been living together for over 5 years but the last 2 years have been a stressful living situation as I had to take in a friend that was in need. I also started my own business which kept me extremely busy.
The thing is the whole situation has been blown out of all proportion but if I could talk to her she may see its got out of hand, but I do want to sort it out as I am accused of being something Im not. I haven’t txt for 2 days as don’t want to push her away. How do I get her back as she spoke of a future together.
Lots of places I see say try to heal yourself, get over the depression but although sometimes I’m on medication, they will never fully get rid of my impulsivity, my low moods. I do have therapy to help with the associated issues like low self esteem but in the end this is my biology. So what can I do? Does this mean I’m doomed to never finding anyone? My issues will take some time to resolve, the way things are going probably when I’m 50, I’m 32 now. I will rather not be alone for the next 18 years personally. And I get fatigue so I can’t always be as active as I want.