Being proactive about your breakup early on will help prepare you for the later stages. Learn which are best techniques for getting your ex’s attention back, and for quickly making him need you again.

Hi, I was in a long distance relationship, for almost two years and for the second year of the relationship i moved to a city close to him but had to leave the country after a year due to my visa running out. We had ups and downs in the relationship mostly due to the stress and uncertainty of me being able to stay but We talked about marriage frequently in the future and always felt we were the ones for each other. In fact, my ex would repeatedly tell me that he felt so strongly that I was the one for him which he had never felt before in previous relationships and that’s why he continued to do the long distance although he had never believed in them before.

A good way to think is by journaling about your feelings. It doesn’t have to be the best writing or even good writing at all. Just get it all out there. Imagine that as you write them down, the bad feelings and thoughts are leaving your body and sticking to the paper.

To do this, Brenner says one must grieve the loss, take responsibility for their actions, focus on the positives and make a plan for the immediate future. This, she says, will force you to make things happen and move on.

Hmmm…I don’t knw from where to start but I had two broken relationships n now m married to third person . I tried everything to run my marriage I even tried to live him also but as u knw all in vain .. we r not living together it’s a long distance marriage. I lost my job now . Everyone behaviour is changed as of them m just a useless person even in my eyes too m just a useless nothing else. I hate the guy m married too. I want divorce from him. He doesn’t have enough money , I used to live with my parents after marriage because he doesn’t want to suffocate his family because of me as he is in abroad n m here alone . He never used to takeout my expenses,sometimes he used to give money but as I told u he doesn’t have much so m living on my parental expenses. Nobody knows how’s humiliated I feel every single day of my life . Mai don’t want to live with a person who does not manage her wife expenses .. mujhe people says that m very rude with him I have to change my behaviour with him but for me he is just a useless person I hate him it’s being just two months of marriage n I hate him a lot . I don’t knw how m gonna manage this relation life tym as I don’t want to be with him . My ex bfs were better then him . They have their big luxurious home with a car n nice salary , but they left me n I left with a useless person who couldn’t afford any thing.. sucks ….

Do not pursue your ex during this time. That means no calling, texting, or asking around about how he or she is doing. Most importantly, do not ask your ex questions about why the breakup happened or about whether he or she is seeing anyone. This comes across as desperate.[6].

The sole reason is that the ladies are always in more intense relationship as compared to the male counterpart. So it is almost impossible for the woman to think and then implement on coming closer to another man just to show off. But the trick has worked well and the track record is perhaps the best of it.

“It’s hard to accept when someone doesn’t want you anymore,” relationship expert Shannon Tebb of Shanny in the City says. “It’s like an attack on your personal ego and you feel like you’ve failed at something, and it’s really hard to accept when something doesn’t work out.”

Look your best. You were always attractive to him. Use that attraction! If you remember that he liked your hair a certain way, or that he found certain colors or outfits particularly attractive to him, then now’s the time to put that knowledge to good use. And in a social setting, he’s bound to fixate on how other guys are taking notice of you… if you appear to effortlessly attract guys, no ex-boyfriend on earth can help but whimper a bit inside.

I met a guy whilst on holiday in Egypt. He seemed really lovely and we saw each other every day and eventually went to his flat ad stayed there at night with him so we were spending 24 hours a day together. Hr said he loves me and wants to marry me I didn’t take it too serious but then I found I had called for him. On my last day he gave me his number and Facebook. When I got back to England I looked at his Facebook it was all women tourists which he has commented on their wall my love habibi and sending hearts to them. The two profiles I could see were a year ago these comments were made but I would not have gone there at all of I had of seen this to start with. He also had one for Arab friends. I went to finish it because I am 43 and he is 26 and I can’t be doing with the drama of Facebook. He never added me but said he would delete his facebooks it took him a couple of weeks but he did it. I said messenger as well because of all these women he had contact with. He said he would and he did. We have spoken everyday and night then hr started no messaging me at night his cousin told me he takes women out shopping at night for money so when he wasn’t messaging me he was doing that and he was saying no women. I made a fake profile of a woman who was gorgeous and he added her on messenger before he deleted it.It came to a massive argument he said I was jealous etc and he said he wanted to finish it. I did a terrible thing and emailed his work and told them he was taking women outside the hotel (they aren’t supposed to) and he got fired. When I got a response from the hotel they said this isn’t the first or last time it will happen that’s why he got fired. We still were speaker he was still telling me he loved me and messaging me but he was sad about loosing his job and I feel so guilty I just got sick of the lies (if they are lies) I was to meet his family and then we were planning to get married. I forgave him for all that because I know I can be jealous. I don’t know if it because I wouldn’t act like this when I have a boyfriend. Anyway a week ago he sent me a message saying I will need forgive you for loosing my job no work etc. Although I had sent money equilvilent to his monthly salary that he lost and said I would do it every month till he gets a job because his family rely on HIM for money. We had a n arguement he blocked me off wats app downloaded messenger again. I downloaded viber a day later and said I loved him he said he loved me and missed me and hr wasnt going to delete messenger although he says he wants this to speak to his family he has gone to see his family so I wander is he speaking to the women he had on Facebook? He hadn’t initially told his mom about me sending and email to his work bit has now told her she says I am bad and he isn’t to marry me he said loves me still I said I will leave him till he has got rid off messenger. He said OK I love you and that was three days ago. I read this article and feel better but I do miss him but do wander is it worth all the bother with this silly apps x

If you don’t want to leave anything to chance or risk another woman swiping him from under your nose while he’s still single, or if you just want to ramp things up to the next level, then I invite you to learn the three fastest ways to melt a man’s heart.

Remember, the no contact rule isn’t about him, it’s about you. You’re not cutting off contact to try to spite him, you’re giving yourself time and space to heal from the breakup – just like you’re giving him time and space to start missing you again.

This means that whatever you think at any given time, whether you are conscious or unconscious about it, you create. If you are thinking about that your situation is so hopeless and you keep panicking about your situation, then it will really become hopeless. If entertain the idea that your love is seeing someone, you’ll create a situation where they are seeing another person.

Next great tip on how to get over your ex boyfriend is to simply keep busy. Don’t sit around moping about it; get out with friends, work on your hobby and keep yourself busy. It can be very unhealthy to sit at home thinking about your ex, it will only make you feel depressed and bitter. Make the best use you can of the extra time that you will have on your hands and keep your diary full and your mind occupied.

I am currently involved with an ex boyfriend of mine, it was about 16 years between relationships, but we have always remained good friends. We both know why the first relationship did not work and are committed to the current one. We’ve been together for about a year now, and I’m still getting to know the man that is he is now compared with my happy go lucky friend from back then.

You can try to focus on yourself a bit , to start telling yourself over and over that your ex was just something from the past and not it’s gone , That you don’t even need anyone who doesn’t want you around , Try to care for yourself more and the people you really love and those who care about you , you will get distracted by your own awesomeness and you will forget about him and you are going to find someone who really value your beauty.

Self-forgiveness is an important part of self-love. In hindsight, you may feel that there are things you could have done differently, but it is impossible to know what different outcomes could have been. Blaming yourself in a self-reproaching way is a futile waste of energy that only brings about negative emotions and delays the healing process. Instead, choose to turn the pain into a gain. Every relationship, if we let it, can teach us something about ourselves and give us greater clarity about what we need in order to be happy. Acknowledging your role in what went wrong with a relationship can be an important part of the learning process. When two people are in a relationship they create a dynamic and whatever happened, both contributed to it in some way. When you have the insight to understand your role, you will be in the position to do something different. If you believe that it might be helpful to make certain changes in your own behavior, such as learning to set better boundaries or improve your communication skills, then embrace your chance to do this so that your next relationship can be even more amazing.

Well..he replied on the second day that he is sorry he could not text earlier as he is busy with his two jobs and driving school. He also asked how I am. Well I waited over an hour to reply that it is okay if he could not reply earlier and I am doing fine. I also commented about his driving school that it is great and also mentioned that I have also thought about going to one.

Once, in my late 20s, I was eating sushi with my friend Eric bemoaning a recent breakup. The weekend before, we’d attended a classmate’s wedding and were having a postmortem about the event in the way that disgruntled, disenchanted people in their late 20s do (i.e., talking shit), feeling hopelessly single and unsuccessful and eons away from finding everlasting love ourselves. I remember it was raining, and we had just seen Brokeback Mountain and I said something like: “I’m so lost; I’ll never find true love,” and Eric, one of those loyal, bearded, avuncular friends who always seemed to get it, said, “There are two kinds of people in their 20s. The A’s and the B’s. The A’s do everything by the book: They marry their college sweetheart, are knocked up in no time, have a perfect job, a white picket fence—the whole deal. And then there are B’s: The B’s can’t quite seem to find their way and nothing ever fits, not the job or the boyfriend, and they sort of stumble along a crooked road blindly, searching and searching and searching.”

When you are too focused on getting your ex back, you don’t really trust that you will be reunited again. If you want to happen it right away by stressing over the results or trying to look for signs everywhere or analyzing everything that he does on social media, you are operating from the place of fear.

I, too was heartbroken. I was so mad at myself for being such a fool and I almost hated the world for being so unfair. I wanted to slap just anybody, and wanted to be alone for a while (thank goodness I have no suicidal tendencies). I was emotionally tortured that time. I was crying while at work. And every time I hear the sound of some familiar love songs I can’t help but cry my heart out. I wanted to move on. I wanted to forget him as soon as I can (if only it can happen the next morning when I wake up) but I couldn’t. Everywhere I looked, I saw him…there’s just too many memories and I thought i would go crazy trying to avoid them. That’s when I’ve realized that it’s not enough to just want to move on…I have to do something about it and fortunately I was successful! Let me share with you the things I did and I’m pretty sure it will help you too.

Be sure however that one therapist works with both of you if you want to increase the odds that you will end up re-united as a couple. Two therapists, one for each partner, all but guarantees that the relationship will end.

Breakups are defined by choices. For example, someone can be unhappy in a relationship and face two choices. That person can either stay and try to work on things or choose to break up with their partner. I think you will find I have a very interesting perspective on breakups in general. You see, my perspective is completely different from yours for one specific reason. I am not down in the trenches like you are. Since you are reading this website you are probably feeling the emotional fallout from your most recent breakup. Here is the thing though, I am not feeling any emotional fallout from your breakup. I am more like an overseer. That gives me an interesting perspective on breakups and allows me to see things that you wouldn’t think of.

Thank you. So you are saying it won’t be a bad move considering his ex wife is going to be on his mind that day and it will be the end of an era? Will it not make him think that I am pouncing on him the moment he is available? Or it will come across as me being there for him on a hard day, irrepsective of what has happened between us? Is there a chance he will think I am inconsiderate to message him that day to bring myself into the day as well?

Well that last section was long wasn’t it? I promise you that this one will be shorter. So, all of the information from this point on will be aimed at giving you a strategy to getting over your ex while still remaining friends with him. I really included this section because I know there are a lot of moms out there that can’t just cut their ex out of their lives forever (because of their children.) In addition to that there will always be women who want to remain friends with their ex because it is the right thing to do.

Example…if you both equally enjoyed Italian foods and hit up different Italian eateries obsessively together. It would work to send a subtle text about a certain Italian restaurant you just ate at or are eating at and that it reminded you of him.

My ex broke up with me over a year ago and we were close to getting back together once last winter. He’s now on his 3rd relationship in that time. To sum up our relationship, very little fighting and connected very well and that connection has remained.

We broke up 2 weeks ago and during the first 2 days of our breakup he became really sweet as if we’re still together and keeps on saying he’s tempted to get back again but says we need some space. He keeps saying he’s tempted but he’s not doing it because he wants to stand firm with his decision. He gets annoyed and says he’s done and he doesn’t want me anymore whenever he feels like I’m pushing him to get back with me. He tells me he misses me but when he feels like I’m pushing him he always says he’s done and we’re not getting back together. After a week I sent him a long ass message telling him how much I love him and miss him and telling him all our fun moments together and he replied in a very sweet and positive way. He said he’s hurt because he misses everything too and i’m his happiness and he’s lonely without me. He said he wanted to talk to me and call me but doesn’t do it because he wants to know his true feelings. He told me that we will try again when the time is right and that everything’s gonna be alright. We talked the whole day but when the night came I sent him a long message again and he just told me “That’s too long” and said “well I’m working on myself and I’m trying to move on” he felt that I was again pushing him to get back with me and said he was just slowly letting go to not shock me and that he’s done and we are never getting back together. It’s been two days since that happened and we never spoke again. I want us to get back together and I’m sure of it. what should I do?

“It takes me a while to get over anyone, mostly because of texting and social media. My last ex and I stayed in touch on and off for a year after we broke up. But, I learned that I needed to keep busy in order to cut ties to him. I went out to bars on weeknights instead of staying in, binge watched new shows, and I eventually just stopped thinking about him.” —Alissa K

Exercise regularly. Walking, running, swimming and biking will actually offer immediate relief from your pain because staying active stimulates brain chemicals and increases serotonin, which advances the growth of nerve cells.[5] You’ll also gain valuable reflection time with which to ruminate and think over your feelings. You could come to some valuable conclusions this way. You’ll not only enjoy physical health, but experience more energy to make it through the day.

Peter discovered that if he wanted to talk with his wife, he would get the best results if he asked from a stance of self-respect. He tried asking if she would meet him for coffee. She replied, “Sure!” In fact, the groveling and self-deprecation that Peter had learned as a child were the opposite of what his wife wanted. The more confidently he addressed her, the more positively she responded.