I like this article. It was very insightful, and really aimed to help the obsessive psyche of women fixated on what they can’t have, relationships that they want to mend, trying to get married…etc. While I agree that being happy and getting over the guy truly can attract him back, the truth is most of the time it doesn’t. And well, this tactic is rather hypocritical ‘cuz if a women has truly moved on, what will make her want the guy back if he comes back? It’s a tricky maneuver to do. It’s basically saying get over him, no strings attached, but ya, look over your shoulder in case he does. It’s not a true method of getting him back, in my opinion. But sometimes this method is the best outcome for both parties.
i was in a relation ship with my guy for 7yrs never proposed him. physically we were attached but never proposed each other. Recently i heard he is going to take someone in his life so, before he propose his someone i proposed him.
Being a bit of an asshole to your girl is generally pretty healthy for a relationship…you’ve probably heard before that girls like bad boys and that nice guys finish last. Well it’s true, but if a guy has been too much of a bad boy to his girl, she’ll feel like the connection has died.
At the beginning, he was interested in me. We had fun together and our conversations were deep. We shared a lot of good memories in the past and now. After that, I was unhappy with a little bit time he spent in our relationship so that I emailed him and telling him my true feeling that I didn’t enjoy our conversations few weeks lately. His response was “…I’ve been busy with new job and having a daughter, it’s difficult to have spare time to talk. How about this, one of us talk when we have something new or important thing to say…”.
Well.. I had only two shifts with him this week. Wednesday went well so far but Thursday was a disaster… There is another girl working at the grocery store as well. I know her and I know they have known each other longer time. On Thursday I saw how she got more attention and I noticed that their chemistry is so different. I felt so bad on Thursday. When he came to work, he went directly to her to talk about something and totally ignored me.. didn’t even say hello. I don’t know why on Wednesday things looked so good. Or is it my head that make things look worse than it is. But I know he was hanging all day with her after work on Wednesday (I have heard that they have spend a lot of free time together) . I have a feeling I can’t get him back… I just can’t. She is more prettier. Thursday was so awkward. I still have 6 shifts together with him. Next week only on Monday and Saturday.
Need help please!! My ex and I have been dating for almost 3 months but it got very serious and things moved quite fast. We met online and it’s been long distance. He is currently living in Europe for his basketball season which is ending soon and I live in Vancouver, BC. We flew down to see each other over a month ago in his hometown of Toronto. We spent a weekend together and it was so great. I even met his family. Our relationship has been so great and we told me he has told me many times that he never felt this way before and has never had someone understand him so well because he has had major issues with his mom growing up and I can relate in so many ways and he once told me that means more to him than anything. We are even exactly the same mixed race which is a rare mix and we always thought that was so cool. He has shared things to me he hasn’t with others. We have even hinted marriage to each other. He has always said he has never met someone so similiar, and it’s true. We’re like the same person. This relationship was so special. We were in love. He is a major relationship guy. He is moving back to his hometown this month and I was originally moving there at the same time for my job. So we had so many plans for when we’ll be together. This past weekend I went to another city with a girlfriend of mine and posted a snapchat that ended everything. I did not cheat but it made it seem like I did. He called me as soon as he saw it and was yelling and was so extremely upset with me. He told me it was over. He blocked me everywhere on social media instantly. He then unblocked me on whatsapp a few hours later and the next day he told me to call him. I couldn’t really talk because I was at work so I did not get to say everything I wanted to. He told me I disrespected him and said he can never trust me again and there is no chance of us getting back together. He was really angry and I know he is reacting right now. This was 2 days ago. I am completely heartbroken. I am still blocked on facebook, instagram, and snapchat but I am no longer blocked on Whatsapp which has always been our main point of communication. I feel like that’s a good sign because he hasn’t cut off ALL communication so maybe there is a chance in the future. I wished him a Happy Birthday yesterday but he did not respond. I know he is so hurt and angry right now so maybe he is just acting on his emotions and needs time. Should I try the No Contact rule? I want to send him one more message just to say everything I wanted to and let everything off my chest and just tell him I truly love him. I will also say this is the last I’m contacting you but just wanted to say a few things before I move on. It will be a positive text. Just so he knows. I just want him back ? What should I do?
When he starts to get the feeling that you could take him or leave him, and he starts getting the sense from you that you know you deserve love and you can have someone very special, he will start trying to get YOUR attention instead of the other way around.
If you are validation seeker to get good compliment from your boyfriend then make sure you never express this to him. Men see girls that are too needy as a ‘little sisters’ and no men in their right mind want to create relationship with ‘little sister’. Instead, they want to get into ‘big brother’ role to help them out.
Greatzula@gmail.com did a love spell for me about 3 days ago and the results came out miraculous! My ex and I ran into each other! It was totally unexpected. He seemed a little nervous at first, but then we actually got to talking. Later that night he ended up apologizing to me for everything! And I mean EVERYTHING!:) I am so surprised yet I never knew this would come through for me. things are now working out perfectly. We have planned to getting married next month. I feel that without zula this would not have happened.
It is definitely possible to get your ex back and make the relationship last, but it doesn’t just happen because you want it to. There are important things to consider and a bit of work to be done. Missing each other isn’t enough. Loving each other isn’t enough. Relationships take more than that to survive.
Do you have any update since it’s been a year and some months since? I feel the exact same as your post. I’m not young. I’ve had 4 long relationships, 3 loves, and this one was a whole different world. He was my third love, my conscious love. It was real, genuine, shared and it ended because he was gripped with the fear of having to leave his hometown and the guilt of moving away from his parents in order to move forward with me. He just wasn’t ready for the deep commitment and gave into fear but he loved me hard. I’m having a hard time letting go and trying to look forward because it wasn’t a fantasy and there is nothing negative about the relationship and who is is as person other the fact that he wasn’t ready. I agreed that we needed to end if he could not fathom moving. I’ve accepted it as much I ache for it to not be true. I was a whole and happy person before I found him by accident. We started slow and let the fire grow from the amazing spark it was from the very beginning. A year later, I was still falling deeper in love every day and the flame burned more than ever. I want to believe the next love has to be ever better, but I doubt I will find someone who shared that level of intimacy and natural understanding with me again. No one in the past came close. I scared that if somehow I do find it, I’m going to be so scared of it suddenly ending like this one, that I won’t let myself love that true again.
The important thing is you need to find a balance here. Your first ‘FIXIT’ date need to fun enough to make your ex comfortable with you and light enough that your ex doesn’t feel awkward afterward. Keep your date short and sweet instead of talking about useless things.
This really makes me feel crap..maybe you say I need more patience. I know. But His replies gave me hope. Maybe he thinks I start gnatting again because I have sent 4 messages after he asked how am I… and all of them are unread. He has done that before…leaves my messages unread until he replies.. or not going to reply at all. I don’t wanna ruin this again.
He ended things.. This is a guy who comes back to me and has my number for 5 years. And we were so intimate and shared our past. He said didn’t want to play games this time. He came 4 hrs back and forth to spend time with me. Pursues me. Why? What does he want? Why travel in total 8 hrs to come have sex with me? He like a egotistical narcissistic unemotional prick. Please advice.. Btw I never responded to his message. I left things.
I nodded, but I had stopped listening. I was thinking about my sister, Becca, an A, such a perfect type A. Basically a walking white picket fence, she got married six years out of college, had committed to the same career for five years, always folded her underwear, never bounced a check or pressed snooze, and her pillowcases and stationary and beach bags all bore a blue monogram. I was, and had always been, the exact opposite: a blur of Prozac and dirty dishes and jobs I couldn’t seem to keep. Every morning I woke up in a sea of self-loathing and stared at the ceiling convinced that at any moment the whole wide world would fall on my head.
“Listen, whether you like it or not, you’re in the midst of a big transition and you’re going to need support,” Scarborough says. “That’s why I believe it’s best to have more than one friend or family member at the ready and to tell them what you’re going to need from them. And don’t you dare try to do this alone because you’re too proud to ask for help. This is exactly what friends are for.”
I decided I couldn’t be friends either. As it turned out he had several other “casual FWBs” by then. How stupid I had been. I cut off all contact, deleted all numbers. Stopped emailing, texting and went cold turkey.
I’m having trouble with #2, because I’m not sure the strength of our love was a fantasy. I think my breakup was more a consequence of what you say in tip #4 – the love was there, it was strong and vibrant, but timing was off (because I hadn’t learned to put the past to bed, nor deal with anxiety, which was stoked by events). So, how am I to believe there’s still romance in my future, if I worry anyone else will feel like settling?
So see the positive side of the breakup and do the things you couldn’t do while you were with him. Wear a short dress in public if you want, go shopping all day long, eat Indian food – do whatever the heck you want!
While it’s important to remember the good times we might have had with our ex, it’s just as important to remind yourself of the bad times and consider the lessons learned. In the meantime, take our tips to heart—they’ll help you get through that post-break-up misery and get over him sooner!
But this boy… I have never felt this way about anyone before… and I know he’s trying to move on with another girl but he just recently admitted to me that he “thinks about me every day” when I ran into him when he was picking up his little sister from school.
I broke up with my beloved ex due to some problems we had..he always told me he is going to kill himself and after a long period of trying to help him he left for his job at the helllenic navy…then after some time of the problems he had I told him to brake up….and then found someone else after some time,so I could overcome my beloved one….and then,because I wanted to return to ex who loved me a lot and I also did,the new one sent him photos and said that I cheated on him,thing that in NOT true….and he threatened me to be with him otherwise I would have problems…and so,my ex hated me..9 months passed and I still love him and want him back and I don’t know how to tell him….he also has told everybody the worst about me and together,the made a clique of hate towards me….I am really sad I don’t know what to do…
Looking good on the outside will improve your inner confidence and help you deliver a good vibe. Your ex-boyfriend will notice your happy and secure personality and he will start getting more interested in you.