When you meet with your ex girlfriend very first time there were some psychological factors that attract her. Your behavior showed some attractive traits that attract your ex girlfriend first time and it is again your behavior that showed unattractive traits which make your ex girlfriend to break relationship with you.
Make her friends see that she needs you. It’s a fact: you will never be able to make your girl want you back if her friends can’t stand you. If her friends don’t like you because you were too controlling, not caring enough towards them, or just because you were a bad boyfriend, then your job is to make them think that maybe you weren’t so bad after all — and to pass this information on to the girl you want.
If you break the actions of individuals then you will find either they are pulling or pushing someone. To show interest they ‘pull’ it and to show disinterest they ‘push’ it. When any girl rejects us, we naturally want her back and fill the gap. This is common especially in romantic relationship.
3rd Step: Collect all physical objects like Teddy Bear, Gift set, necklace, bangles etc and put them into a box. Put box somewhere in your home where you don’t go often or place that is difficult to reach without someone help.
There are a hundred reasons why you can’t maintain a post-breakup friendship. Jealousy, bitterness, the fear of your ex getting a new boyfriend… these are only some of the pitfalls of staying friends after breaking up.
Yet another example of the man in the relationship not taking the lead, and perhaps even behaving submissively. Nowhere is the male dominance/ female submissiveness dynamic more important than in the bedroom. Bucket loads of attraction gets lost this way.
I don’t need to explain this one do I? Ok, basically this is a tactic where you tell your ex boyfriend what you miss about your relationship. Be careful though because these messages need to be worded properly or your screwed.
Hey Bro, I feel your pain…. I met an amazing girl and I love her a lot, and we broke up recently. She moved to another country recently and stopped talking to me so we broke up :/. And to be honest sure everyone says it’s easy to move on. But when it’s true love it’s different, sure it might not be “True” love but you want it to be. I personally love my EX and we broke up and it hurts like shit. I know another girl now I’m dating, I love her and she loves me, but I always think about what would’ve been with my EX. I don’t even want her back, but just to know she’s safe and not lost with other players and jerks. So I decided to tell her the truth and I’m getting her back slowly, she’s amazing and always will be. But trust me, just tell her the truth, get her somewhere and tell her what she means to you. If it works then it’s good and if not… only then is it time to move on. And trust me, I mean it 100% when I say I know how you feel bro. I may be Muslim and you may not be. I may be different but I feel you bro. Were guys and I get you man! If you need anymore advice or help or something you have my email!
You say you do not want to ignore your memories of that relationship, but perhaps — as an intermediate step — that’s precisely what you should do. Stoicism, as well as modern cognitive behavioral therapy — teach us that our cognitive analysis of a problem can lead to change our behavior, which in turn, eventually, alters the way we feel about things, something like this simplified diagram:
Ok thanks Ryan! Also we had a phone call recently just chit chat, it was a pleasant phone call I meantioned that I’m going away at the end of the week and if he wanted to see me, he said he feels pressured? And he doesn’t know, maybe another time then? I don’t know what he’s trying to communicate to me, as we’ve been texting for around a month and a phone call last night. At the end of the phone call we said it was nice to hear your voice and he said it was nice to hear your voice too. He sounded really depressed. I’m not sure if he needs more time? I’ve always been a go getter and he’s more relaxed and goes with the flow. could you explain what he means by pressured? Do I just give more time? My gut instinct and the way he sounded on the phone told me he missed me? Thanks
My honest advice is to focus on you. What were your goals before her? Reach them. Find new ones if you need to. Dont go looking for her or any other woman. If she remembers she loves you or that she likes you even, she will talk to you if she decides to. If not, some other woman will someday. Just put yourself in social situations when your ready. If you want to spend the rest of your life sad bexause you lost her, than go ahead. Its your life. Fact is, we men are the commited ones. We decide and we stick to it but we unfortunately dont see the womans needs. We often think they are too needy or dramatic and dont see that whats minor to us is major to them. Every woman has her breaking point. If you dont change but keep promising to, she will reach it. I’ve been in love twice and the first time lasted less than 10 months because she never really loved me. This one almost ten years because she loved me deeply. I sometimes think I would have better odds of getting back the one who never loved me.
Before approaching your ex, you first need to sit down with yourself and soberly and honestly consider why the relationship ended and whether your motives for getting back together are genuine or merely reactionary.
But I cannot stress the bottom line enough: The No Contact period is the most important stage of this process. If you don’t do the serious work there, you won’t see a lot of progress with your ex. And even if for some reason you do nothing in No Contact and you DO get your ex back, I’m 95% sure it won’t last. Sorry.
Getting an ex back takes persistence, optimism and various tactics. One of the most effective ways to win your ex girlfriend back in 5 steps, is through direct physical contact. Touch her every now and then to let her know that you are interested, and make her know that you have deep feelings for her. Communication is key in the making up process.
I now find myself wondering what the best way forward is, although he has given me some hope by saying that he still wants to date and try and rekindle the spark he has also crushed any hope I have by moving further away from me and saying that ok ye we’ll date but it might not actually lead to our relationship being given another go. I now find myself in this weird limbo where I don’t really know what to do and crying on a daily basis! I have read your article and have found it very helpful. Could you advice what you think would be best to do? Thanks.
Well, since January would have been some time since your last contact with her, you could always drop her a casual text to ask her how her New Year has been and see how she responds from there. If she doesn’t respond positively, it might really do you justice and a big favor to walk away from this, and focus on moving on.
I feel all of those thing because I love my ex girlfriend. She is the mother of my child. I want her back so bad because she was my first love. Yeah I was a player back in the day, but when I started dating her I change a lot and I love her so much that I tear myself apart and I eat but it doesn’t stay down.
last paragraph about having the time to get perspective on how we are together and what do we mean to each other. And that it has shown me I like the simplest of things between us and I want us to have a second chance. I like how everyday was little better sharing it with him. Few things like I like to hear him giggle, or tell him about my dreams/jokes and him making fun of it, or discussing cricket or a movie or some random thing in the world or hear him talk passionaltely about his nephew or a theory he has or some political party’s agenda. That I missed him. That I want him.
Instead of doing that I want you to handle this breakup with class. Sure, your heart may be broken on the inside but when you are in a room with your ex I want you to hold your head high. I want you to be nice and kill her with kindness.
Now, before I really dive in I want to make something clear. If you have committed any of the “sins” I am about here this doesn’t mean that you have no chance of getting her back. It just means you have a little extra work ahead of you.
4. Do some meditation. Be aware of yourself. Know your weaknesses and strengths. Be proud of yourself. Accept yourself for who you are. That’s what confidence is all about. Neediness (which is very unattractive) comes from doubts within yourself. Whereas confidence comes from awareness and accepting yourself.
When you look to build attraction with a girl when it comes to texting you can’t immediately come out of the gates and send some super emotional text message. I mean, I suppose you could but don’t expect to get your ex back with that strategy.
But I’d go over the memory of her in my mind — her maraschino cherry hair, her septum ring, the shiny stud in the side of her nose, the big black plugs in her ears — and worry that someone as edgy as she was would never go for a nerdy, plain woman like me. I settled for just being friends.
I wish I could say that the tough part of my recommendations is over. But, the truth is that today’s lesson and assignment may be tougher and more demanding for some people than all the others combined.
Remember to be yourself. Though if you needed to make a dramatic change (for the better) to be in the relationship, then so be it, but you shouldn’t walk around like a dog with his tail between his legs because you’re so set on making up on whatever hurt you caused that you can’t relax. In the end, your girl started dating you the first time because of who you are, so don’t forget to let her see the parts of your personality that she loved the most.
The thought of your ex being with someone else is a gut wrenching one. But in reality, it’s not as bad as we make it out to be. We will get into that later, but first, let’s take a look at how your instincts react when you find out your ex is dating someone else.
Now here’s where things get interesting… given my track record with women I thought I was the only guy “in the dark” when it came to maintaining a relationship… but I was dead wrong. After helping so many men get their ex-girlfriends back it became quite obvious that I wasn’t alone. It was then that I started toying with the idea of compiling their experiences (as well as my own) into something tangible and teaching them to others on a larger level.
I assume that I broke the no contact rule by doing this as her cousin would more than likely either show her the message or tell her about it and read it to her over the phone. I feel like I just shot myself in the foot and all hope is lost of ever getting her back.
In almost all the cases of rebound relationship, people soon realize that this new relationship isn’t right for them and end it. So, even if your ex starts dating someone new, do not freak out. It’s just a rebound relationship and it will end soon.