Picture this: you have two people, a master and a slave. Who do you think is higher in the social hierarchy? The master, obviously. By accommodating your ex girl’s every desire or demand, you behaved like a slave (inferior) and she behaved like a master (superior).

Hey, it is New Years day and my EX broke up with me around October. When this happened I cut and dyed my hair, I got a new phone, I brleive I cut off all the ties and well contact was a problem given I see him at school all the bloody time and I wishes everyone in my contacts a happy holidays. He wanted to be feeinfs, but ignored me. I stil l have feeling for him and I don’t know why. I feel like I have moved on till I see him then I lose all of it and can5 help but smile and LOVE him. See my problem. Big I know, can you help me?

Because something about your behavior is making her feel as if you are not really committed to her. She feels that, although she’s attracted to you, you won’t give her what she wants and needs from a relationship (i.e. support her, and not keep f***ing other girls). This is completely different from a situation where you’re trying to get a girl back when she has moved on.

Hey Ryan! So we have continued texting after the last time I told you about (the phone call where he said he felt pressured and another time to catch up since I was going away) I text him saying I was going away and he said have a lovely trip and take some piccies(photos). He said he had a nice Xmas but is a little sunburnt. I text him a photo a few days later while I was away and he replied in 1 minute saying omg that looks amazing where are u? I didn’t reply and he then sent me a message on 1st of January saying happy new year I replied later that day saying hey! Just watched a house of cards, reminded me of you, made me smile! He replied within 2 minutes saying 🙂 too hungover to physically smile but that’s a nice thought! I had a bad experience where someone tried to break in my house so I called him early that morning then I realised I shouldn’t have done that so I sent a text saying just an update I’m safe now, at my friends place. He then replied saying glad you’re safe, you are better off calling the police if you feel unsafe. Then later that day I text him saying I’m still feeling a bit shaken by it would you be up for a phone call, he replied saying sorry I don’t feel like talking in the phone at the moment but don’t let this dampen your new year, there are plenty of jerk guys in the world, just be you and love it! I replied saying I understand and did u have a good day he replied yeah, did a lot of furniture moving and sent me a photo of what he had changed in his room. After that it was his birthday so I sent a message saying happy birthday! He replied within the hour saying 🙂 thanks lady! I didn’t reply and have started no contact as I feel when i am a bit distant he replies instantly kind of thing. I was thinking to continue no contact until around the 16th of January which would mean I haven’t texted him since the 4th of January. In my text on the 16th of January I was planning to say if he’s free to catch up for a quick cuppa sometime this week? I don’t want to do the wrong thing since I have asked before, but he is a big introvert and he rarely ever asks anyone to catch-up even friends/family. They usually ask him. My only fear is that he has said yes he’d like to catch up but wants to find his own feet first, he said this in December though. What would u recommend?

Breakups can be really tough. It can get you into real depression and can even indulge you in self hate and make you suicidal. But remember always that you once had a life (wonderful) even before a relationship and there are certain things in life that you don’t have control over. So rather than fighting with yourself in the process of getting over your boyfriend, it is perhaps the best to understand that missing your ex is normal, really. But that shouldn’t stop you from moving ahead in life and looking for more beautiful things that pass by you everyday which are now going unnoticed. If it was meant to be, it would have happened anyway. Try to appreciate yourself and see what wonders does it really bring to your life.

Be proud of yourself for working hard to get your ex back. At least now you know that it wasn’t worth it after all — it’s better to know the truth than to wonder what could have happened if you fought for his heart again.

At the start, it might be better to avoid him so that you don’t have to deal with the negative emotions. Continue with no contact and even if you do see him, you could acknowledge him, but do not engage in small talk for the time being.

Remember, you do not have to destroy things, unless the person in question was a negative force in your life. Tuck those things away in a safe place. The truth is that later on you may be happy that you saved the memories, even if the person was not Mr. or Ms. Right.

The first choice or effort of any of the individual must be to stop the break up. So that you do not end up looking for answers of How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back. It’s in the best choice of every person and this is important to note that not many love gurus guide on it.

Ideally, you want it to be your ex’s idea to get back together. You just want to be yourself (attractive, fun, happy, and awesome). Do not talk about your past relationship or your breakup. It will lead to no good. That relationships is over and if you two do get back together, it will be a new relationship. There is no point digging old graves when you want to start a new life.