If you still actually want to be friends (and aren’t saying that to spare his feelings or come out as the “good guy”), you will need to be firm. You need to set clear boundaries with him, establish clear consequences (if you contact me more than X times a wk, ask X questions, etc. there will be no further contact EVER)and stick to them. If you truly do not want constant contact or to hang out, set those boundaries. If you do not want to answer certain questions (like about who you are dating/sleeping with), set those boundaries. If he disrespects those boundaries, cut off communication.
Exercise not only will make you look better, but it will help you feel better. Engaging in activities gets your mind off of the breakup, and exercise releases endorphins into your brain that help lift your mood.
Listen, sure, finding some new dude may be okay for you as a bandade, but it won’t help you get your ex-boyfriend back. You should make him jealous in a smarter way. Like, he should see that there are guys mingling around you, but don’t let him see that you’ve actually found someone. Don’t post stupid, drunken-party pictures on Facebook of you making out with some random dude.
I wish that I could help, but I have too much to say to type it all out and not enough hands to type or hours in the day. I would also need more details. This is why I cannot give specific advice in the comments. I do offer coaching if you’re looking for specific help.
I want you to take a second and imagine something for me. You are at a crowded bar with a group of your friends. Now, since you are a nice person you offer to go buy drinks for everyone in your group.
First off, you aren’t supposed to have any contact with your ex for a year so already you messed up and there is no way you can get over him if your mind is constantly on him. It is time to put that period of your life behind you. Now is the time for you to get social!
This is one of the worst things you can do – because all that does is signal to him that he’s in control and that you’re not going anywhere – which means there’s no reason for him to get back together with you.
Often, the hardest part about getting over a romantic partner is letting go of the person as an attachment figure1 – i.e., a person who you rely on for validation and support. Having others who we can trust to be there for us is one of our most basic needs as human beings. But because these relationships tend to be so close and intimate, most people have only a handful of attachment-based relationships. Furthermore, many people have what we call a primary attachment figure – a person who they are more likely to rely on than others. And for people in romantic relationships, that primary attachment figure tends to be the romantic partner.2 Romantic partners generally make great attachment figures because romantic relationships tend to involve so much intimacy, closeness, and interdependence. Indeed, some researchers argue that the whole reason why human adults even have attachment systems is so that they can form these intense attachments to romantic partners.3 Given the tremendous strength of these attachment bonds, you can see why they can be difficult to let go of, even if a person knows that they do not want to be with their romantic partner anymore.
my relationship was of 2.5 years.its been two months(breakup).reason was that i was saying him to take breakup because he was busy two three days.it was like three breakups in a week and then patchups becuz of me.i was always do this brkup dialouge when i was quarrelling with him.this time it gets serious.he is saying that there are 6-7 years to our marriage.it cannot get to the marriage like this.i am also an introvert type.this is also a little problem.my relation is long distant.we didnt meet.means breakup was on watsapp.
When you fixate on a specific outcome with a specific person, you ruin your attractive vibe since you can’t be happy unless you have the outcome you want… and every moment you’re unhappy you push the guy further and further away.
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honestly I did not show appreciation to my ex while we together. I missed valentines day and his birthday. when I decided to make the best of times with him it was to late. then I asked him for closure and he came talked in person. I told what if I got therapy because there is something going on that effects my relationships. he told its been three weeks and I’m over you….. I cried of course then looked at him and said I feel better. just got sick of being sad, doesn’t mean I’m over him. but its step. then I told me what was really going on and told he’s proud of me said I’m strong person and good girl. he told me to feel free to talk to him and said he wont be jerk to me. he also wants to improve. it sucks that I was to occupied with other stuff in life that i didn’t learn to understand him but oh well. that doesn’t mean has feelings for me. sadly I cant live in world that revolves around him I must create my own world and keeping living up to my goals. this relationship may have been painful but helped realize what I need. we are blind from pain because only look at the bad qualities that it brings us but we all need realize its actually beautiful because it shapes us. I’m going to embrace it this break up..
But when I’m in my normal state, I’m all “it is what it is” or “my life is so great, he’s a fool for leaving me.” I accept how different we were and how unlikely it was for us to succeed when we met but if you saw us together you’d get it and I gave him my all. He met my entire family (like all 60 of them), even the ones out of state. And he was so involved with me. I’ve never felt so loved in my life. My son kept asking us when we were gonna get married cus he wanted to call him his stepdad. Because of my son, I usually keep a wall with everyone and only get that involved when I know and I knew. I was done. He was the rest of my life. I was 100% sure and ready. I guess he was just trying out being an adult with me. (he’s 26, i’m 28). I still f***ing hate the reality of it all and miss him every day, but there’s nothing I can do and I’m fighting for moving forward even when it feels like blind shuffling. I still have a long way to go to be moved on so I’m no magically healed person. I just know when I’m in the normal mind that logic tells me I will meet someone else who I feel just as happy and loved with in the future, if I can just heal from this.
Recognize your talents and strengths – Do not forget to remind yourself about these every day. Reminding yourself about all the things that you can do will make you realize how good and unique you actually are, which is beneficial if you want to boost your confidence. The time you spent away from your ex-boyfriend should also prompt you to start loving yourself by celebrating all the accomplishments you made, even the minor ones.
Annie Pei from UChicago says that for her friend, breaking up with an ex online was an important first step to moving on with her life post-break-up. “A friend of mine unsubscribed to her ex’s updates on Facebook so he wouldn’t appear in her newsfeed,” Annie says. “This basically took away a lot of the incentive to look at his profile. She still did so once in a while, but the fact that he didn’t appear on her newsfeed took away most of the temptation.”
Thank you that article was great but I didn’t find it helpful. My ex and I are in contact after 33 years. We were first loves and his obligation to the military and me being so young is why were are apart. We never treated each other badly, it was just the opposite. Every time we looked for and found each other the timing was all wrong. I still love him and he loves me even though we are both in relationships. How do we move past and have a healthy friendship?
now wen I came to know tht he zz hving this feari decided to stop talking with everyone but my boy is telling me tht he lost his pure love on me.. he is telling me tht he loves me but not like before I begged him very badly… for 8 days I cried and begged him….. v both are very close…. v are mutually into evrythg even sex…. now he zz telling tht he is tired of fear and he can’t be like before frdzz what should I do? [otp_overlay]