Most women have quite simple and somewhat boring lives, so she might struggle to relate to you with your travel-filled lifestyle, amazing car and massive house that you told her about. And if she struggles to relate to you because she sees you as WAY better than her, she will go cold and initiate the no contact rule on you. “He’s out of my league”. Then she initiates a break up.

Ideally no. You want them to wonder what happened to you and why you are not contacting them. You want to be on your ex’s mind as much as you can. And telling them you are not contacting for some time will defeat this purpose.

HER REPLY: “I’m so sorry Ivan, from the bottom of my heart. The last thing I want to do is hurt you. But that’s exactly what I’m doing if I stay with you. It’s also what I’m doing to myself. I have been constantly thinking about our relationship and my feelings for longer than you realise. It’s been tearing me apart. I feel guilty for staying with you when I know I’m not reciprocating the same feelings back to you. But then I feel guilty for leaving you knowing your feelings, and not too mention that I truly care for you and don’t want to hurt you. Then there is my side and my feelings, how can I stay with someone I don’t love like that. I want to love like that, I want those feelings you have, I want to be happy too. I don’t want to go on hoping my parter cheats on me so I have some sort of valid excuse.

Embrace your hobbies and interests. Fill your free time with steady progress and small victories instead of stewing in your sadness and anger. Use the lists you made of your dreams, interests, and talents as a guide.

My girlfriend and I broke up a month and a half ago, we were talking frequently until 3 weeks ago when she moved to Portland, OR (we lived in California together). Last week she started dating another guy and I freaked out, text her (nothing mean) said “wow, that was fast” she got extremely pissed and blocked my number and Facebook. Do I still have a chance at getting her back? I made a lot of mistakes after the breakup, begging to come back to her, argued a couple times, freaked about her dating. I wrote her 2 letters but didn’t send either one yet. One is a love letter and the other is an apology letting her know I accept the breakup and wish her the best.

This one is risky and may not get you a yes to a meet up but it allows you the ability to try again later whereas the method below this one pretty much lays your cards on the table. Ok, the way this works is simple:

Give your ex some space. If you want to win your woman back, the worst thing you can do is call her constantly, text her every two seconds, or even follow her around everywhere. Though “out of sight, out of mind,” is true to an extent, you should start off by giving your ex some breathing room so she can have some time to reflect, enjoy her privacy, and regain enough emotional strength to want you again.

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The last thing you want to be is perceived as creepy or stalkerish and writing a letter the wrong way can definitely hurt you. Add to your life experience. Take care of yourself by pursuing the experiences you've always wanted to have. Aside from obvious (and expensive) activities like road trips and skydiving, don't forget to indulge the more mundane things, as well: visiting every park in the city, seeing what happens to a penny left on the railroad tracks, singing karaoke, finding the oldest headstone in the local cemetery. That's a rough situation, but whatever the answer is, waiting around for her relationship to end is going to make you miserable. You don't have to jump into the dating pool just yet, but spend some time on your own activities and stop following her social media. It's more likely a rebound if it happened right away, hasn't lasted long, and if she's trying to rub it in your face, but that doesn't mean you should hang around waiting to be thrown a bone. Ok. When I started with this whole dating thing, I have decided: I wanted only sex. I missed sex since I have not had any for 2 years after breakup with my husband. Right? But I did not want to lose my independence just because my body needed sex. That was the starting point. I had more dates but I selected this guy because kissing was the best with him. We had chemistry. We have not had sex only on the 3rd date. Basically we were speaking about philosophical questions and everything. I found him interesting as a person. He was a kinda weirdo like myself. I told him I wanted only kinda special frienship but he wanted something more. He left some of his stuff at my house, cooked for me, stayed over the weekend and started to repair my boiler. Even mentioned that I should have reareanged my room. These things terrified me so I started fight. We had great sex and then loads of fights. In the meantime I realized I might needed something more than sex. We had fight about Fraud and these things. In this respect the relationship was not swallow. Sorry because I am a bit tiring. I have doubts about "no contact rule" in my case. In my understanding your theory is based on the fact that there were happy moments in the relationship and after a while people tend to remember the good memories, the overall picture and forget about the problems (eg. clinginess, small debates), the small negative details. My relationship with this man though was about great sex and awful debates right afterwards (since I was fighting against my own feelings), therefore the overall picture is not good. There were no happy moments in this relationship with the exception of sex. Basically, I can say only the sexual attraction kept it alive at all for 3 months. And I am aware that sexual attraction can fade away fast so what remains is the overall negative picture. Am I not right? Use the things she liked about you before to your advantage – For instance, if she likes a particular outfit, then consider wearing it again when you are meeting her. You can also talk about a fun and light-hearted memory you once shared. Have dinner or visit a place that both of you are familiar with since you hang out there before most of the time. 5. Go out on a date. This is absolutely essential and if you are reading this, then I will recommend that you definitely go out on a few dates before ending no contact with your ex. It’s absolutely imperative for you to get some perspective right now and meeting new people is the best way to do it. Examine how your values have shifted. Having gone through a breakup with one type of woman, you probably have a good idea of the things you didn't like about her personality. This means you're probably eying women who have a different personality in that regard, which in turn means that you've learned from your past – a sure sign of personal growth. No. You shouldn’t answer your ex’s call. The only exception to this is if you are close to ending your no contact and you are already feeling great about your life. If you think that talking to your ex will have you obsessing about them again, don’t answer their call. Agreeing to everything your ex says is not going to bring them back. In fact, it’s only going to make your ex respect you less. Nobody wants to be with someone they don’t respect. And even if they do come back, they will leave shortly realizing they have no respect for you as a person. she's on a year programe in another city, we see once in a month. which isn't enough closure for me. she's been on this program for about 5months now. I feel due to this she lost attraction towards me, as we only see once a month, and our calls or texts ended up in arguments. You may want to have a magic wand to fix all things that happen in the past and get back with your ex. However, thinking about something that can’t happen is just wasting your time. Instead, you have to invest your time in real and proven ways to get ex back. Thank you. So you are saying it won't be a bad move considering his ex wife is going to be on his mind that day and it will be the end of an era? Will it not make him think that I am pouncing on him the moment he is available? Or it will come across as me being there for him on a hard day, irrepsective of what has happened between us? Is there a chance he will think I am inconsiderate to message him that day to bring myself into the day as well? Consider this: unless you’re meeting and dating other cool girls during this period of singleness, your desire to date your ex comes from scarcity.  It’s one thing to want a girl back because you have picked her above a whole host of others.  Far more common: dudes obsess over their exes and transform them into angels because they can’t get other awesome girls. Slowly approach her when the time is right. After enough time has passed and you've made it back on her radar, you should slowly start to make your way back into her life. It can be as simple as stopping to have a five minute conversation if you run into her, or casually sliding your tray next to hers at lunch, or even texting her if you know that she'll love something that's about to start playing on TV. Español: hacer que una chica te quiera de vuelta, Português: Fazer uma Garota Querer Você de Volta, Italiano: Far sì che una Ragazza ti rivoglia, Français: faire pour qu'une fille veuille de vous à nouveau, Deutsch: Ein Mädchen dazu bringen, dich zurück zu wollen, Русский: сделать, чтобы девушка захотела вас вернуть, 中文: 让一个女孩回心转意, Čeština: Jak zajistit, aby vás dívka chtěla zpět, Bahasa Indonesia: Membuat Wanita Menginginkanmu Kembali, Nederlands: Een meisje terugwinnen, العربية: جعل فتاة ترغب في الرجوع إليك, ไทย: ทำให้สาวต้องการคุณกลับมา Now, before I really dive in I want to make something clear. If you have committed any of the “sins” I am about here this doesn’t mean that you have no chance of getting her back. It just means you have a little extra work ahead of you. The thing you have to remember is that NC is only effective if you let a good amount of time pass. Anyone can ignore someone for a day but it can have an entirely different effect if you were to ignore someone for a month. Many people think that their breakup was a mistake, despite your feeling about the breakup but you should understand it occurs for a reason. You will never get your ex back unless you discover the exact REASON of the breakup. Don’t contact your ex without knowing the exact cause of the breakup. [otp_overlay]