Ok, so me and my ex were together for three months. He is 16 and I am 19. We are both guys. So basically we had an huge fight during New Year’s eve and broke up for two days. We decided to then to get back and try again, and then he decided that we would be better as just “friends” later on that weekend… He broke up with me because he didn’t want to cut talking with a boy he met (and kissed) during New Year’s eve… During the first the days after the break up he was acting like nothing happened or whatsover till I decided to use the whole “no contact” thing to him and then he asked to me go pick up my stuff on his house next week… So what should I do, is the any chance at all anymore or not.
If he’s out sniffing for a new chick…. by all means, let him have his fill. Ignore him like he is nothing to you and it will not only translate to him that you speak with you actions and that, unlike him, you actually have boundaries and self-esteem, but it will drive his mind up a wall.
Focus on yourself and your own life. Spend time and energy on improving yourself and focus on things that you like to do or experience. Work on being happy with yourself and where you are. Take steps to reach that point. Most importantly give it time, because letting go does take time. Allow yourself to let go even if it is painful. It will pass. With time it will be easier to handle. Also remember it doesn’t mean you have to stop loving someone. As long as you can move forward and also be open for new people and experiences. Connect with others that you can relate with in a positive sense.
My ex broke up with me last month after being together for over a year. The last few months were rough because his grandmother passed away after being in the hospital for a few months. I tried to be there for him but he totally withdrew and would reject my advances and we started fighting a lot because of it.
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Hi! So I have been snapchating with my ex for some time now. The problem is that if I send him a snap he might respond with some emojies or sometimes a comment, but we never actually get a conversation out of it. Should I text him instead of sending him a snap even though we usually only snap? Or should I respond to any of his comments and start a conversation from there? Thanks!
The most effective way to get him to come out and see you is by calling him. You can suggest meeting up for coffee or a drink, with the mindset that they’re a friend you want to meet up with, not an ex-boyfriend you want to get back.
Hey Ryan! So we have continued texting after the last time I told you about (the phone call where he said he felt pressured and another time to catch up since I was going away) I text him saying I was going away and he said have a lovely trip and take some piccies(photos). He said he had a nice Xmas but is a little sunburnt. I text him a photo a few days later while I was away and he replied in 1 minute saying omg that looks amazing where are u? I didn’t reply and he then sent me a message on 1st of January saying happy new year I replied later that day saying hey! Just watched a house of cards, reminded me of you, made me smile! He replied within 2 minutes saying 🙂 too hungover to physically smile but that’s a nice thought! I had a bad experience where someone tried to break in my house so I called him early that morning then I realised I shouldn’t have done that so I sent a text saying just an update I’m safe now, at my friends place. He then replied saying glad you’re safe, you are better off calling the police if you feel unsafe. Then later that day I text him saying I’m still feeling a bit shaken by it would you be up for a phone call, he replied saying sorry I don’t feel like talking in the phone at the moment but don’t let this dampen your new year, there are plenty of jerk guys in the world, just be you and love it! I replied saying I understand and did u have a good day he replied yeah, did a lot of furniture moving and sent me a photo of what he had changed in his room. After that it was his birthday so I sent a message saying happy birthday! He replied within the hour saying 🙂 thanks lady! I didn’t reply and have started no contact as I feel when i am a bit distant he replies instantly kind of thing. I was thinking to continue no contact until around the 16th of January which would mean I haven’t texted him since the 4th of January. In my text on the 16th of January I was planning to say if he’s free to catch up for a quick cuppa sometime this week? I don’t want to do the wrong thing since I have asked before, but he is a big introvert and he rarely ever asks anyone to catch-up even friends/family. They usually ask him. My only fear is that he has said yes he’d like to catch up but wants to find his own feet first, he said this in December though. What would u recommend?
It’s important to have a plan to follow, because after a breakup you are hurt, emotionally drained and most of all, confused. And during this state of confusion, you are bound to make a lot of mistakes that will actually hurt your chances of getting back together.
Another important thing that I learnt about attracting the one you love back is that you have to be willing to let go. It sounds crazy that you have to let go of the thing you want the most but if you keep missing him or wanting him you will send vibrations to the universe that you are lacking and the universe will only give you what you attract which is lack. That is why you need to let them go. That is how the law of attraction works. You need to have faith and believe that once you have asked for something you will receive it, just be expectant and let go. Believe that the universe has your best interests at heart and give it all to the universe, this makes manifestation process faster.
I dead inside and out for the the last 7 to 8 my girlfriend of 4 years and the only woman ill ever love truely I feel like I can never trust again. We just had a beautiful son and she moved 160 miles away back with her mother. I tried everything I let her be a stay at home mom and didn’t ask for anything in return till I relized she never fed me cleaned the house. Witch she blamed on me not taking care of my son. Yet the place was never clean before she even got pregnant. I just got done reading a thing about emotional abuse and I’m so confused. Did she feel that I was. Is that why shes had such a easy time leaving me? cause she felt I was but honestly I feel that I am abused. Still to this da and to top it off I cant get her outs my mind. Almost every thing I see touch taste I hear the question in my head man I bet Tabatha would love this. Then I weep like a little hitch. Then smile seeing that shes happier without me atleast I think so. She makes it apparent that she wants nothing not even a chivalry friendship from me. Example this is my sons 2nd Christmas she always wants to buy him more presents then he will know what to do with. So I tell her I haven’t bought his gift yetwould you like me to get something off your list. Responds yes. Lastnight I am told I can come spend Christmas with my son. Yet I want to get her a gift as a friend and ask permission. She denies stating she only has me around for Jonah’s sake. Yet to me that contradicts basically to me it says. No Jonah will not see a proper relationship between his mother and father with respect and love. Just like she was without father. I almost feel he was driven away to look like the crazy drug addict dude that hes not I don’t know though. Growing up like that did it make it ok in her mind that she needed to leave me after getting stressed from a dirty home that I bated as well just didn’t feel my job to do if she wanted to play house and make the nest. Will this result in the same way with my son and his relationships when he grows. 2 so I get to go there no friends no family mind you I don’t have any here at home either due to my depression and choices past 8 months since she stole my son from me. Pay for somenof her presents to him and watch as what my son has learnedly to call a family open presents and be joyful as I gibe and Recieve nothing cause I’m only allowed there for my son. Sorry so long I’m breaking down and don’t have anyone in my life to confide in that dosn’t hates. Her anyway lost confused and feel like giving up I felt this was my only chance. Please help me I feel like I should go to be with my son but like I said I feel abused neglected and in turn I don’t even have my family to help me. They want me to help myself but I don’t drive I am unemployed since break up and almost feel like not doing anything is the only thing I can do. No motivation and noneone will even give me help I feel like ive been screaming for it for months now and all that got me was a DV with my brother that neither one of is violent people stuff just happens more stress more typing sorry. Help me decide see son ignore abuse or sit here in this bated town and rot either I feel will be the end of my ride. Again sorry for small book.
Check out his Facebook or try to find out if he’s seeing someone from mutual friends without being too obvious about it. He may be seeing someone else and is just talking to you to be nice or because he wants to be friends.
How you view yourself, how you feel about yourself and the conversation you’re having inside your head about you, is a million times more important than any outside relationship. I don’t care who this guy is and how much you love him. YOUR love for yourself trumps him. Always.
The good thing about telling him you are sorry is that it also serves as the key to gaining back his respect. Your decision to give him a sincere apology is also a big help in saving your relationship and making it as healthy and successful as possible this time.