It sounds like a toxic relationship to me. You’re depressed, he’s narcissitic. If he’s really narcissistic, then it’s not out of character for him to be doing all of that. And if youre5 depressed, being with that kind of person is not healthy. You should move on from him..
Treating your life like it’s important and of value is attractive. So put yourself first and do what’s best for you. When your man comes back to you, don’t just pick up where the relationship left off. He’ll have more of an incentive to truly resolve the issues that led to the breakup because he wants you back.
If you aren’t able to talk with your ex, then wait for a week before contacting your ex again because you don’t want to irritate your ex boyfriend. Also, a week-long pause makes your ex curious about you, and it may be possible you will get a call from your ex in the meantime.
I broke up with my ex in 2010…he was a serial cheater and refused to committ…finally done with the fighting, lies, and other women..we broke up..for good this time..despite our separation..we just couldnt stay away from each other.. we still hung out..talked..no sex..but really enjoyed being around each other..i eventually met someone else and so did he..he wanted to get back..i did to..but was afraid he wouldnt change,plus i was falling pretty hard for the other guy..i was so confused, but convinced the other guy was the better choice..i became serious with the new guy..but still secretly longed for my ex..although i loved my new boyfriend..something inside me felt that my ex and i would eventually find our way back to each other..long story short.. we continued to talk every now and then..and he recently married his new girl..i saw their picture yesterday…and i felt terrible..smh..i know its silly but..i cant believe it…this is all i wanted from this person..and look how easy he gave it to someone else…i hate that i feel this way..because hell..i do have a boyfriend..but it still hurts..why?
By understanding this four-step approach to rebuilding a relationship, you can improve the odds that you get back together with your ex and that you two have an even stronger relationship than ever before.
My partner for almost 5 years just broke up with me after I had my worse months. I can’t believe he just doesn’t wanna be with me when I was there and stayed with him in his worse years. It’s just now fair. But what can I do I can’t for myself into him when he doesn’t want me anymore. I still love and miss him so much. We have had gone through a lot of hardships together, we survived them and now that he is doing okay; he wants to stay away from me when I need him. God, I swear I am really having a hard time on accepting the reality that he really is gone and its over. But theres only one way to be better. And that is to move on forward and forget about him. And be better than yesterday…
Luckily, since I have determined that this is an essential part of the strategy I have spent a lot of time refining my strategy for it and have even recorded entire podcast episodes over it here (link) and here (link.)
Comfort yourself, treat yourself, in this moment you are fragile, protect your heart. Get a good night’s sleep, cry all the tears you need to, watch a movie, call a friend, breathe and tell yourself it will be okay, I swear it will be.
Well we broke up just 8 days ago.. actually he broke up with me anyway when i ask him to reason he said “I think it’s not gonna work. I always leave you alone and I know you have suffer about so I don’t wanna make you upset anymore” (for me it’s a stupid reason) normally he is an introverted person who doesn’t like to share his past and whatever happens he keeps smile that’s why I wanna be with him all the time. He got jealous when I changed my profile picture (I was with my friend) so he kept asking me that who is that person after we broke up. He also told me that “I can’t imagine my life without you in it” so he made me confused. I’m still inlove with him and I feel that he is still love me but Idk what should I do? T.T
This is completely normal and even if you don’t say verbally to your boyfriend but still your body language will send signals of neediness to your ex boyfriend. This will give the power of relationship to your ex boyfriend. However, to win him back in your life you need to get this power in your hand.
Detach yourself. Accept that for right now you’re going to stand on your own two feet without your partner, and resist the urge to rush into another relationship. In doing so, you may come to understand realities about your previous relationship, or your ex, that you hadn’t noticed before. View the relationship objectively, using your brain rather than your heart. Ask yourself if he was the kind of boyfriend that you would want for your best friend, sibling, or child.
A few days later she got in contact with me and I arranged another date. Breakfast was all I could do due to me leaving for home. It went well. So well, that she wanted to see me once more before I left. On this date she mentioned that she would be in my city in April, and that we should get drinks when she’s there. Once again, no signs that she wanted to be kissed during this date either. She even said “I know you want to kiss me, but it’s not going to happen” and I was kind of bummed. I followed her to the interstate and before I got on it I decided to try my luck and I told her to pull over. She said “No, I know you want to kiss me and it’s not happening” so I kept my cool. On the way home, she called me and I mentioned to her that she could come out to my place to visit me next weekend. As soon as I said this, she got very angry and told me that the dates were just to “keep our friendship” and that we aren’t dating anymore. She went on to tell me she had already slept with another guy. I kept my composure as best as I could but needless to say this really confused me. Where did I go wrong?
Now you got breakup in your relationship and your mind is full of mix feelings about your ex. You may be thinking what to do next? Start dialing, emailing and texting your ex boyfriend to show you still love him?
Truth is that our bodies and heads tell us to act in a certain way after a break up, we act on impulse and our emotions. This is not a good idea as you may already know. It is common to be tearful and erratic, not knowing where to turn, sometimes we can blurt things out to our ex boyfriends that we regret later. Everybody does it, it is human nature to do so, but the thing that you have to remember is that you have to fight against these urges if you are to be successful in making him see you positively and want you back again.
If you decide that you’re ready to get your Ex back, you should also be exploring other options. If you feel that it’s too early to go on a date with someone else, then it’s too early to fully re-engage with your Ex.
Hello. This is my first time posting. I would really appreciate some advice because I don’t know what to do. I feel almost like a fool over this. I am a 30 year old female. My ex is a 29 year old male. We dated for 18 months. Two weeks after the breakup, I ran into him at a bar. He was with two 22 year old girls from his gym. I tried to talk to him and he was very cold to me, wouldn’t give me the time of day, and then yelled at me when I touched his shoulder. We have been in no contact for 6 months. He unfriended me on facebook in October and blocked me on facebook at the end of January. I found out at the end of December that he reported me to the police because he thought I keyed his car. This occurred sometime in October (which makes sense why he and his friends and family all suddenly dropped me from facebook during that time period). I was really hurt that he thought I would do such a thing, and more so because he knows how hard I’ve worked at my job and he thought I would jeopardize it like that or even do something so low to him (on a side note” the report was made in October but I didn’t learn of this until late December when the detective called me to tell me that there was zero evidence tying me to it – there was surveillance in his complex but obviously was not me). Because of that, I have stayed away from him completely because I don’t want to have more trouble Or give him an excuse if he’s still of the mindset to do something to me. I feel like enough time has passed that he would have cooled off. I wasn’t even the one to initiate the breakup. He was. I don’t know why he’s so angry with me. I’m hoping he’s not angry any more because I do miss him and I would like another chance to make it work. I feel like if we’re going to get back together, then it needs to be his move. Please help.
If you’ve just broken up with your boyfriend or even if it has been a while since the two of you parted and you desperately want to get his attention again and wishing that he missed you half as much as you would like to think that he does, or maybe even as much as you miss him, then the chances are, you don’t just want to make your ex-boyfriend miss you, you are looking for a way to establish and nurture a deep connection with him and get him back into your life.
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Thank you.. now i guess u can analyse my story more.. I Know U can help me because guys can never forget their girl & his was true love for me Inspite right of him blocked with all feelings for me.. ? ?
This isn’t to say that you can never talk to your ex again; it’ll be pretty hard to reconcile if you don’t. But, you need to disappear in the initial stages of your breakup. Be patient and If he contacts you, you can reciprocate because you know your plan is working.
So start to examine your beliefs about the people, things, and events around you. Examine what you believe about you. Can you really blame if people act the way they act around you? You can change the way they think of you through your thoughts.
“Listen, whether you like it or not, you’re in the midst of a big transition and you’re going to need support,” Scarborough says. “That’s why I believe it’s best to have more than one friend or family member at the ready and to tell them what you’re going to need from them. And don’t you dare try to do this alone because you’re too proud to ask for help. This is exactly what friends are for.”
We didn’t make rules or set a time period. He needed his attention for work and I moved back in with my parents to get my life together in January. We still met up sometimes to do something fun or romantic untill the end of February. At some point I started to have some doubts about some girls working on his projects. He said it was nothing and just my negativity playing tricks on me. A couple of days later I received some screenshots of a friend he was begging to have a one night stand with. I was broken. When I texted him he was distant and blaming it on being busy with his projects. After two weeks I waited at our house and confronted him about the screenshots. His facebook page was open on his computer and I saw conversations with dozend of girls, any girls, just copy/paste sweet messages to get their attention. He said he liked the fake attention and didn’t care about them, just wanted to use them and that was his reason why he acted that way to them instead of me. Still claimen I needed to take my time to heal and telling me how busy he was, how much pressure was on him etc. Etc.
I was with my ex for close to a year, we were amazing together; once I hit a spot where I was lost trying to find myself, I got very negative, being frustrated with things not lining up to find my true self, I was irritable because of that i was going through, which made the relationship go into a hole. I am in an amazing place, and know we would have a stronger connection now being who i am. I’m scared about loosing him, since I did wrong being in a bad spot, and am now really wanting to connect. We were talking after the breakup, but he said he would proffer not to talk, i do believe we need space, but since we were talking after the break up, I don’t know what to do…im not talking to him now, haven’t for over two weeks…but since he ignored my last messages, Idk what the right thing to do is, so I don’t get rejected, knowing we would be more connected then we ever were. Advice would be more then appreciated, we both lost feelings through the negativity, and being who i am now I know the spark wouldn’t dim with who i am today.
Sorry, but you don’t. If you’re on the dumped end of a broken relationship, you’ll need patience and strategy above all else. Without these things, everything you do will be doomed to failure. So many women make desperate, hasty decisions just after a break up. They make rash moves without thinking – moves that only serve to push their man away – only to realize and regret it later on.
Don’t overdo it. Don’t post pictures with ten different people, and don’t post tons of pictures. You want to tease your ex with the idea that you are with someone else. Don’t be obvious that you are trying to make him jealous. You don’t want to seem desperate.
Writing down his painful feelings helped to free Peter from continuously thinking of them. Writing and then talking with his therapist about his thoughts enabled him to let go of beating himself up in anger and also of drowning himself in self-pity.