I would definitely not reach out to anyone associated with him, even family. If they care about you, they will understand and respect you for it <3 There's nothing wrong with taking this time to take care for yourself, heal and deal. Read this if your haven't already: https://postmalesyndrome.com/10-ways-to-overcome-guilt-for-setting-boundaries/ Sometimes after a breakup, you realize you still have feelings for your ex and want to be with them again. Asking your ex to get back together can be scary, but if you take your time and learn from the past, there’s a chance they’ll say yes. He broke up with me over a month ago and i am still upset. I know he is not seeing anyone else and he knows i’m not either. When we broke up he told me he wants to be happy (he’s very depressed). He told me that he loves me way more than i love him and it’s just difficult to deal with that because i think that 2 people who love each other should be with together. we have been texting and it’s either very short or very long and we also have our location on for each other. we were together for almost 15 months and i see a future with him and he is fully aware that i would do anything to have him back. i want to see him so badly but i don’t think he wants to see me. He’s going through a lot of stuff like depression and he gets lost in his thoughts and this caused him to think i was cheating or lying to him or that i didn’t love him. I think cheating is disgusting and i’d never lie to him. He also can’t get over certain things.... such as him not being my first sexual partner which bothers me because i am a year older than him and it just bothers me that he doesn’t understand. all i want is for him to be happy but i also want him to be happy with me and i am so stuck. i asked him if he would ever come back and he said he doesn’t know. everyone keeps telling me to focus on myself and i can’t because i’m only focused on him and i really have hopes that we will get back together. Also, find out if you matured or have grown up from the break-up. It is important for you to grow up after the break-up as this will let you bring a newer and improved version of yourself into the relationship. The same should go for your ex. When feelings are that new, its only a "honeymoon phase"...of course everything is going to seem like its perfect and meant to be in the beginning of any relationship. There's no such thing as love at first sight, not even love after being with each other for weeks/months. Years test the strength of any relationship. In order to move on, you have to be able to heal. While you might still be in love with your ex, you won’t be able to move on if you don’t heal properly. For some, healing means spending a week in bed crying; for others, it means burning everything he ever gave you. Whatever it means to you, you have to have time to heal. Even if you are still in love with him, it’s important to get all the hurt out of your system. Well..he replied on the second day that he is sorry he could not text earlier as he is busy with his two jobs and driving school. He also asked how I am. Well I waited over an hour to reply that it is okay if he could not reply earlier and I am doing fine. I also commented about his driving school that it is great and also mentioned that I have also thought about going to one. Sadly my 7year relationship ended almost a year ago now nd I still miss him daily. I’ve tried moving on with someone else and can’t even bring myself to say I love you in return. I still wish we could reconcile but it seems like he’s completely replaced me. I don’t know what to do … My name is Kim, am here to testify of a great spell caster called Dr. Magbu Jadu. This man is truly a great spell caster indeed. I contacted this great man for a help and just within two days my problem was completely solved. My ex Husband came back to me just within 3days begging me to accept him back. Now we are fully back again as one family, all thanks to Dr Magbu Jadu and his great temple for restoring peace to my life. His contact email address is, reunitingexspell@gmail.com and his contact Number +2348158699475 Thank you. So you are saying it won't be a bad move considering his ex wife is going to be on his mind that day and it will be the end of an era? Will it not make him think that I am pouncing on him the moment he is available? Or it will come across as me being there for him on a hard day, irrepsective of what has happened between us? Is there a chance he will think I am inconsiderate to message him that day to bring myself into the day as well? The way you communicate with her via text and in calls will need to change. Given that you’re in a break up you’ve probably been doing it completely wrong, replying instantly to her messages even though she takes hours to respond to you. This has to stop and you need to start doing it right, after the no contact period. That’s why I’m going to teach you how to get your ex-girlfriend back fast by text message, although be aware, texts are only part of it. Hello! On another article on the thought process the guy goes through in NC, I commented that he can’t possibly be thinking of me, because you don’t think of things you throw away. My opinion changed: Thursday night, day 20 of NC he wrote me “Hey” I saw it in my notifications and decided not to write back, because the no contact rule is 30 days and I was also extremely scared. I thought for example that maybe he just wanted his books back (I still haven’t given them back), but then I thought, if that was the case, he would have written that already to avoid conversation. I talked to my mum and she said I should write back, because she believed, if I didn’t write back he would never try to contact me again. The next day I still hadn’t written back yet and I waited until after a three hour exam. I then talked to a mutual friend of mine and my ex and she said I should write him to see what he wants and she also said, I should write as if I were pissed off with him (I obviously didn’t, I have bad experiences of doing such with former crushes) and I wrote back “Hey”. He asked how I was and I asked him bla bla bla and he wasn’t feeling well. He vented his frustration about his problems with his parents (he has a very bad father-son relationship with his dad) and then he thanked me for trying to cheer me up (I actually only said my opinion) and I asked him how I should answer that. Of course he didn’t know, but after some time he apologised for “bothering me with his problems” and I made the mistake saying, he can talk to me if he has a problem. In that same message he also said that he had been thinking about me a lot recently and he needed someone to talk to. I was proven wrong about the not thinking about trash you threw away thing. I guess I’m not trash?? Jokes aside, should I do the no contact rule from the start again? Have I ruined my chances of getting him back, because it’s only been 3 weeks? Please tell me, this is urgent… thanks So my ex broke up with me a little over a month ago after a 3 months relationship & several months of talking & getting to know each other really well (starting in the summer but wasn’t a fling). He is 24, I am 21, we felt serious, he would mention marriage. We had many common goals & other things & he loved that. Commitment/marriage seemed serious to him, he was all about values & didn’t like relationships where he wasn’t sure about marriage (I was a little hesitant about it). I was getting out of a breakup as well & vented to him a lot in the first 1-2 months/I mentioned the ex sometimes which he didn't like & looking back I shouldn't have done. You will know when you are really ready to start dating again, but don’t leave it for too long, out of fear that things may go wrong again. Enjoy being single and start dating for fun, not to find the prefect long term partner. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you will find love again, so take your time and wait until you find the right one. [otp_overlay]