Magic Of Making Up eBook Does Work
When you see two characters making up in the movies it follows a predictable, and much re-used script. (Yep, Hollywood makes this stuff up!) Sometimes it gives a false impression when a guy will ask me how come, in many years of marriage, he and his wife have NEVER “kissed and made up”. That’s because real life does not work that way.
You have seen it in the movies countless times; often the whole movie revolves around a relationship that starts out good, breaks, then they make up with each other in the end (and probably some good
old fashioned nudity and sex thrown in for the ratings).
Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love with the boy. Predictably, he screws up and breaks her heart and she breaks up. The boy then utilizes the resources only Hollywood could muster with extravagant antics to win her heart back – as if he can keep that up for the rest of their lives.
The problem with movies is, one person is writing the script for both members of the relationship. They are playing pre-defined roles and following cues. Real life simply does not work that way.
Lack of Originality?
Making up with someone is not about antics, stunts, here today – forgotten tomorrow gifts or dinners or flowers. Sure you might get her attention for the very short term with something really impressive you might do. That, however, is not how you make up in a relationship for the long term.
This is one of the reasons we so often refer to the Magic of Making Up eBook (that is available for download) because you need to dig much deeper into why the breakup happened. Sure, there are tricks to getting your ex to at least listen to you, see you again for coffee maybe which is going to be necessary to address him or her. But the real meat & potatoes of it is finding out what is missing in the relationship and how to re-connect with the one you love.
So do not think that the “magic” of making up is to dream up some original “stunt” that will sweep her off her feet or make you the girl of his dreams.
Not Appropriate for Your Situation
Every relationship is different, if for no other reason than every person is different and in a relationship the differences are times two. In addition, every breakup is somewhat unique as well. You can be having the same arguments as zillions of other couples around the world, but there are things about the two of you and your situation that make those same arguments and situations play out differently than those other couples.
Without knowing your particular circumstances, I can say with complete confidence that your situation is different than:
- Harry and Sally’s (When Harry Met Sally)
- Joe and Kathleen’s (You’ve Got Mail)
- Maverick and Charlie’s (Top Gun)
- Pat and Tiffany’s (Silver Linings Playbook).
If you really think you have or want a Hollywood style relationship then you need to take the time and make the effort to come up with something unique and specific to your romantic situation. More importantly, it needs to be something that will matter to her and melt her heart. Warning: may require lots of time, money and even help from a crew of friends.
Alternative Endings Worth Considering
Maybe, though, you would like to make up in such a way that you can build a strong, healthy, loving and lasting relationship?
And just maybe, you have to completely change-up what you have been doing that has (obviously) not worked. You could, for instance, let her go — at least for a little while. Instead of going after your love, give him/her a little time to think things through.
Absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
Think about it. If you are arguing every time you get together, the pain and anguish is continually a recent memory.
After a little time has passed, bad memories fade and the good memories come creeping back to the forefront. You may very well find yourself the RECIPIENT of a text or phone call from your ex.
When that happens you have a true shot at working things out. No, you cannot just forget whatever happened, you need to address any true relationship issues and not just suppress them forever. And that is where the real Magic Of Making Up eBook comes in handy. It helps you both recognize the problem AND workout a solution that will appeal to both of you.
Isn’t that what you really want? Making up in the movies only has to last for the last 10 minutes of the show; you want your relationship to last forever. Here is how.