3 Tips For Saving Your Marriage After He Cheats
A small percentage of women know their husband will have others, and accept it – but that is not the norm, fortunately. Most still consider cheating a major breach of trust in the marriage that is something that needs to be worked through over time or, the unequivocal end of the marriage.
Many wonder if you can save your marriage after your husband cheats but most hope they never have to find out.
This is the one “crime” against marriage that many women cannot forgive or forget, and often they really do not know how they will react until and unless it happens. Ideally we would like to think that *any* problem in a marriage *can* be worked through if both partners are committed enough.
When it comes to infidelity, it is not always a clear cut case of only the cheating partner being at fault. Believe it or not, some women – unintentionally, I would think – actually drive their man into another woman’s arms with their treatment of their husband.
If you are here because this has happened to you, your husband has cheated on you, our heart goes out to you – we know what you are going through is difficult and painful.
We applaud you if you are wanting to try to save them marriage, but there are a few things you need to know before you try to make it work.
1 – Do Not Offer Him A Free Pass
If you hope to forgive this transgression and move forward in life, make sure your husband does not get the impression that he is getting a free pass on the cheating. He needs to understand you will not tolerate that behavior and there needs to be consequences and accountability in the future.
Maybe some ground rules need to be set that keep him out of the situation or from around certain people or types of people that led him to take the path of infidelity. Saving the marriage takes both of you and he needs to be part of the effort.
2 – Do Not Ask Any More Questions Than You Need To
While on the one hand your curiosity may be getting the better of you but I think you are better off NOT asking about all of the specifics of his betrayal.
For most women, not knowing is ultimately better. More details just give you more to meditate on when you should be concentrating on moving forward and seeking to put this behind you.
3 – Do Not Allow His Bad Behavior Negatively Affect Your Self Image
Many women put the blame for their cheating husbands on their own head. Yes, we mentioned above that some do drive their husband away but ultimately he is the one who did the deed.
Most times it is not about more sex and usually has nothing to do with how the other woman looks. No matter what kinds of excuses men make for their cheating ways it is not your fault that he cheated. If his problem with you was serious enough he should have sought to end the marriage and move on to someone else, not cheat while still belonging to you.
There will always be things in life we wish we had handled differently, and you are wise to improve yourself in any way you can in the future. But do not let his hurtful action be how you see yourself.
Where To Now?
The question is – do you really want to save your marriage and make this relationship work? Some women can move past cheating while others cannot. Think carefully before you react.
Maybe you even need a few days getaway to clear your head and think things through. Make sure to avoid alcohol or anything else that will cloud your judgement. You need your critical thinking skills at their best.
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What do YOU say, is your husband cheating something you can work through or is that the end?? Please answer in the comments section below.