I was in a 3 year long relationship. We took a break 4 months ago because of his drinking.”surely not a breakup”. But then i hav done the worst thing : i had a guy friend to whom i felt an affection and happened to mistake it as love. But he was loving me, so when he proposed me during the break i accepted it thinking that my affection is love. Bt soon within a month i realised that it was nothing more than a crush and also i loved my ex/bf (since we were just on a break) so much who is infact my first love. My ex/bf came to know about all these things and now he barely replies to my messages. Please help me with this problem. Now i know i really loved him. He is my first love & guess it will be the last one too.

Now, there are two ways that you can contact your ex. One is through a letter or email, and the other one is through text messages. You can also call your ex but I recommend you first build up some attraction using text messages and letter before calling them.

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i had a boyfriend we were serious now its been more than a week i did no contact or begging or crying since hes been gone he have a new girlfriend they been together for a year it broke my heart hes with another girl i really miss him like crazy i cant stop thinking about him can i get him back or its too late??

Once you have accepted the breakup and have gone through grief after a breakup, you will need to figure out whether she is worth it. Here is one article that will help you do that. And read below for some actionable tips about this.

       She left you in order to protect her heart. She probably felt like she was suffocating for a long time, and now she can finally breathe. Can you really blame her for leaving? She just wanted to breathe. How much do you love her? Do you want her living with a guy (you) who deprives her of air? You obviously want her to give you another chance, but do you think you can be her oxygen now? You probably never understood those things you now get about her. You should probably tell her so.

Hey 2 months ago I said my ex broke up with me because of long distance and I was moving back to her hometown because I wanted to move there for a job offer and you told me keep doing no contact until you arrive there. I just moved here 2 days ago and she keeps liking my posts on social media even the one where I took a pic of the back yard of my house and said a paragraph about that j moved here and I’m blessed. She saw that post but hasn’t messeged me or anything shes not dating anyone. What should I do I texted her 2 months ago but she seemed uninterested but she still sees my stuff??

Perhaps you are just feeling like you made a mistake because you are going through the “bargaining phase” of a breakup. Maybe if you do get her back, you’ll again feel like it’s not worth it. No contact is going to help you make a better decision. So don’t rush into reconciliation.

I broke up with her last week after she got in my face about our problems. I’m doing the no-contact, but isn’t the lying about an ex (her first love of 5 years) to my face, enough of a reason to end it and NOT even consider going back??

It doesn’t matter how hard you try when you are with your ex girlfriend you are sub-communicating your neediness to her. Women are experts in picking up non-verbal communication. Even if you don’t say, they still pick your feeling that you are desperate to have her in your life.

Take a break from your ex-boyfriend. You may be dying to be back with your ex-boyfriend, but the worst thing you can do is hang around him incessantly, call him, or wink at him in class until he gets the picture. If you’re always around, he probably does get the picture, but it won’t be one that he likes. Instead, you should take a breather and stop hanging around him, at least for a few weeks or longer.

Trying to get your ex back by playing games is the wrong way to go. The clue is in the name: game playing is for children. Trying to make your ex jealous by pretending to be dating someone else may scupper things later on if you ever do seriously get back together with your ex. Behave at all times as the adult you are.

You already replied to the first part and then again to the second part of my situation, but I have an important update… This is LONG distance. I Have just moved to a new city and the earliest I could get back to see her would be the end of August… how should I proceed with your advice given the important fact that I have a new job for 3 years in a different city (2 hour flight apart from her). We talked about distance before we broke up and she said she wasn’t happy doing it for 3 years, and would possibly do it to start off but would want to move in… Then we had the ugly breakup I describe below. I would greatly appreciate input!! PLEASE. This is the first part, followed by your reply, and then the second part followed by your second reply.

Right where to begin, so i was 16 and going to an end of school year formal dance type thing, and i meet this girl with whom i have a great night with and think is amazing e.t.c and from there we start constantly talking, getting to know each other, joking around and such. It was obvious we really liked each other then it was easy to see. The only problem was she had some pretty bad views on relationships and ‘love’, i think the best way to describe her in terms of these views (without sounding too childish or petty) is that she had very similar views to Summer Finn from 500 days of summer, she thought relationships were farce and hated cliches and things and showing affection and so on.

I talked with lots of my friends and dating gurus before locating Michael Fiore regarding how to get an ex girlfriend back. “Come on… She was NOT for you.” said by one of my closest friend. Many friends suggested me to MOVE ON. At 29, I have no intentions to dating someone new because I knew I have deepest connection with my girlfriend that I can’t build with any new girl.

Many texts went back and forth he stated he was in a bad place he is drinking too much and angry at his ex. he said his heart wasn’t in it with me. He asked me to give him time, he said he wanted me to meet the real him and not the angry guy he is now. He wants to bring me on romantic weekends away and surprise dates when he gets his head straight. He stated he was only dating me and had no interest in dating sites. He asked me to give him time stating he really liked me. I asked him to delete any naughty texts etc we sent each other he said he was sad deleting them and would miss spending time with me. I did did not reply two hours later he texted again asking me to give him time and said please don’t hate me. I told him to sort his head out and id look forward to meeting the real him but told him not to take too long. He said he wouldn’t as he really liked me. All his messages were signed off with an x.

If you and your ex were in any type of serious relationship, then they will not be able to move on so quickly. In fact, no contact is only going to make them miss you more and remember the good things about you. You have to take a leap of faith over here. The alternative to no contact is being a creep and texting and stalking your ex all the time, which will probably lead to a restraining order against you. You really don’t have much of an option.

Women are submissive by nature and they want their man to be the polar opposite (dominant). Leaving decisions (could be about anything) to her, is submissive behavior by you, and it places her in the dominant role – a role that the female kind doesn’t take naturally to.

Similarly if you don’t control your anger and only fix the mistakes that happened in the previous relationship then you only end up having leaky vessel which will break sooner or later. You have to guarantee that if you replace old vessel with new one then it would not happen again.

If you are passionate or gifted about something positive or constructive the odds are that you can seduce your ex again while engaging in that activity where you find yourself in your element! Of course if your ex dumped you because you focused too much of your time on your passion (i.e. your musical instrument) and neglected them perhaps it’s best to try another approach.

Hi , im a guy 29 iv been in relationship with my girl around 4 years and after that we break up , after 6-7 month shes got married with other guy i think just because of rampage after 6-7 month shes devorced , but i still love her i miss her , it is worth to take my ex back or not , and how ? I need ur help , thank you

As discussed previously it is essential to understand where things went wrong when you establish the goal of getting back with an ex! The most common mistake that people make which ultimately leads to a breakup is being too needy.

Reconnect with friends- Friends are great. You can talk to them about your problems and they will listen. You can rely on them in the bad times to pick you up. Careful though, don’t let them talk you into calling him before the no contact period is up.

I’m a bit at a crossroads here… so about 5 months ago now me and my Ex broke up, she said she saw me as a friend, saw me as family, didn’t see me in that way and so on. At the time I lost it and was pretty devastated. I followed your plan and it worked. During no contact she was seeing someone but that didn’t last, I then saw her out with her friends (who really like me) she was going mental at me, I didn’t react, I think she also found out I was dating someone and I don’t think she liked that. I then left it for awhile and it worked we got back together, but we were taking it slowly, mainly because she’s so busy with work, uni etc.