He doesn’t want to talk much about the breakup or the reasons, he’s never been one to open up and share his feelings, but he says there’s no going back from what happened. Yet, when I ask him if he sees a possibility of us working out in the long term, he says yes. I can’t tell if he means that or is just saying it, but what should I do to get him back in the long term? I have already broken the rule of trying to convince him and have tried remaining in contact with him, but I am going to stop contacting him completely now.
Find out what the reason was and just stop doing it. If she wanted to go to couple’s therapy but you didn’t want to, go. If you really want her back, you must compromise. [Read: 22 warning signs you’ve been a really bad boyfriend]
It is good to avoid talking about previous relationship and don’t put blame of previous breakup on your ex girlfriend. This will raise her defense level and it may be possible your meet up ends up on arguments and disagreements that you never want.
(Disclaimer: These only work if you actually do the things you are talking about. So, don’t make any situations up. How will it look if he goes to verify and finds out your lying about being out and about with another guy?)
As he is only 16, it could be very likely that he is still exploring his options which was why he did not want to stop talking to the new guy. There is a chance he still has feelings for you but isn’t sure, but you should be mentally prepared to walk away because he might not be emotionally mature enough to be seriously invested in the people he chooses to date.
Before making a move to make your ex-girlfriend a part of your life once again, it is important to gain a full understanding about who controlled the actual break-up. You also need to determine the exact reason why it took place. If you were the one who decided to break up, leaving your ex-girlfriend totally against it, then rekindling the relationship may be much easier.
The answer to your dilemma is that, very probably, neither of these women is right for you. When there is a choice between two people, it is not always a case that one of them must be right for you, if you could only work out which. It is more likely that you have two not-quite-right-for you people in front of you at the same time. I think the fact that you are feeling ready to “settle down” is making you look at your situation and evaluate – and that is good. Just don’t mistake availability for suitability.
Need some advice here, my ex girlfriend/ girlfriend just broke it off after a night at the bar. The night started out with a romantic dinner and then we met her friends out at the bar.. We both had a great night until after bar close when we were trying to decide on what we were going to all do the rest of the night.. We ended up getting in an argument about something, to be honest I don’t remember, and she just told me to go home. She proceeded to walk away with her and a few of her guy friends so naturally I got upset. I contemplated on what to do and them decided to walk to her place.. That was obviously not a good decision, when I got there I got upset and accused her of not wanting to be with me and she went on to say that I followed her he and was stalking her which was not my intent at all.. After going back and forth I just flat out asked if we were over and if she even wanted to be with me and she responded no I don’t want to be. I then immediately started to try and plead with her and ask her why and kept trying to get her to talk to me about it and all she did was tell me to leave and go home, which I did after waiting for a cab for an hour.. On the way home in the cab I was so damn upset and sent her a text message that she didn’t care about me and that I was easily replaced by by one of her guy friends that was at her place with everyone.. She responded with what r u talking about and I then responded with I know your sleeping with him I could tell how lit up your face was when you looked at him and then told her one more time that she was going to sleep with him.. She responded back by saying she wasn’t and that I’m crazy. About a half hour goes by and she text me back that she misses me and said that she was getting a cab to come over.. So she came over and apologized for being a brat and apologized for the night.. I then asked her why she got so mad and she said she didn’t remember.. So I let it be figured we would talk in the morning about it, so we had sex and went to bed. The next morning comes and I try to talk to her and she said she didn’t want to talk about it so I did what I shouldn’t have and prayed at her a little bit to get her to talk and she flipped out and said I just want to go home so asked her again do you even want to be with me and she said I don’t know. I brought her home and when I dropped her off I asked if I could have a kiss and we kissed and she said ill talk to you later.. She finally got back to me 14 hrs later and said that she didn’t feel good and had been sleeping all day which I guess I can understand after a full night of drinking.. I did send her a text and left her a voicemail saying how torn up and confused I am about everything but didn’t say it in a demanding way at all.. The next day I sent her another message in the afternoon asking her if she would have time to talk in person and she said yea.. Being absolutely heartbroken at this point I decided to make her a huge bouquet of flower along with a handwritten card apologizing for everything that happened.. I brought them over to her place and she was still sleeping saying she didn’t feel good so I just dropped th off and we agreed to talk tomarow about things.. I’m just so confused right now, I know we have only been seeing each other for 2 months but I don’t understand how things coul end like they did I have been in this 100%and treat her like an absolute queen.. What should I so here I don’t want to loose this girl she is absolutely one of a kind and I genuinely care for her
1. Give yourself some time to grieve. I know how hard it is to be happy after a breakup. I remember I was a complete mess for at least two weeks. I didn’t sleep properly, didn’t eat properly, and I was just thinking about my ex all day. In a way, this period is necessary for you. You give yourself some time to grieve everyday. If you want to feel sad and sorry for yourself, go ahead and do it. But make sure you also do something everyday to make yourself feel good about yourself.
Hi gaurav… sounds like you need to lay low for a while. Don’t contact your ex (or her sister) for at least a few weeks… anything you do or say right now will just make her angry and push her further away. After you’ve left her alone for a while (preferably 30 days or longer) you can re-initiate contact with a few casual text messages or a quick and casual phone call. Make sure you read all the articles on this website – if you continue down the road you’ve been going down, you’re not going to get her back. Like I said, don’t contact her for at least a few weeks, then slowly and casually (without mentioning the breakup, your future together, or anything related to romance) start talking to her again. Good luck, I hope it works out!
You may be tempted to check up on her and see how she’s doing, but that’s not going to help how you feel. The best way to get over missing your ex girlfriend is to keep yourself busy. Hang out with friends, go for a run, play video games, watch a movie – do whatever you have to do to keep your mind occupied.
My boyfriend well “ex” now. We’ve been dating for almost 3 month. Well he just broke up with me on Monday and said he didn’t feel the same, then 10 min after that he said he feel like a fool we really love each other, then was like can you take me back, so I did and we went fine till he broke up with me the next day. He said he don’t know what to do and just wants to be friends. But gosh idk cause I really love him and I still cry and feel horrible pain he said it. But I feel like it was me!!! Idk but now I do bad things and get worse like want to hurt myself…. kill myself I just don’t know what to do??? I’m confused and my parents know we broke up but they still say how much they like him. And crap try tell me to move on and get a life. And I’m trying but it is hard:( I really love him and miss him. I wanna be with him bad but idk what to do, I still have his jacket:( I sleep with it, wear it, hug it I cry on it too cause it make me think he still there holding my hand! Please help me. Idk what to do! I still text him, but not a lot as we use to. Gosh I’m in love with him and I feel like crying when I think about him and when I don’t cause he was always by my side. HELP
One really useful thing is to find a project, especially one that helps others. This can be anything from volunteering at a soup kitchen to writing the next Great American Novel to training dogs. The idea is to get your attention off yourself and your feelings and onto the wider world.
If you want to get your ex back then, you need to control your anger instead of allowing your anger to control you. Sometimes it becomes difficult for the hardest person to control anger. For this reason, I created this 3-step plan to overcome your anger:
If you can’t already tell I truly do enjoy helping women strategize on how to get their ex boyfriends back. However, one thing that I have neglected to mention so far is that there are certain women (not you) that don’t have legitimate reasons for wanting to get back together with their boyfriends.
Hi, I started no contact with my ex who left me 2 weeks back. I would have been 4 days into no contact today but my ex asked for some belongings back, so I felt rude not replying. It was kept short and sweet and nothing but the belongings were discussed. Does this mean I have to restart no contact?
If she was the one who ended things, then you will have more of a challenge on your hands. Think about all of the reasons she ended it; if she ended it abruptly, look through old emails or texts to see if you can pinpoint the problem.
To most looking in, Rebecca Bunch has a great life: a high powered job as an attorney in a prestigious New York law firm, great future prospects in her chosen profession, looks, brains, and money. But she has always suffered from anxiety and depression, for which she is on a plethora of pills. Those maladies are largely from being pushed by her overbearing Jewish mother, which also led to Rebecca’s father abandoning the family when she was young. When on the streets of New York Rebecca runs into Josh Chan, her boyfriend from summer camp ten years ago when they were sixteen, she remembers back to that time as the happiest time in her life, happiness which eludes her. When Josh mentions that he is imminently moving back to his hometown of West Covina, California, Rebecca decides to pursue happiness in moving to West Covina herself, telling people it’s because she got a fabulous job there, where in reality it’s to rekindle a relationship with Josh, which she believes is what will make … Written by Huggo
We already know that you are the kind of person they like (since they were attracted to you at one time) we just have to work on restoring what dissipated over time and repairing any errors that have occurred since you have been together.
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago kind of out of the blue. We’ve been slowly declining for a while, and I would bring up the fact that I felt like things weren’t going good all the time, but he always ignored my pleas for better communication. It finally came to a head and I broke up with him, and then quickly took it back the next day and we decided to get back together. Things seemed to be going really well and then he broke up with me, also saying he needs time and space. During these 2 weeks I’ve come to realize that a lot of the problems were me. I was so emotionally dependent on him, and I would turn negative if I couldn’t be with him. He was my source of happiness and I didn’t realize that until that was gone. I’ve been working on recognizing my problems and fixing them, because in the end I want him back. I really believe that now that I know what the problems were that he never told me during the relationship, if we were to try again, it would be really successful. I broke no contact a few times and was regrettably desperate in asking for him to come back and work on things, to which he kept saying he needs time and space and he’s taking that for himself. I don’t know if I should wait for him to reach out since I’ve reached out so many times (but will not anymore!!) But I’m afraid he won’t and will just move on without me. The fact that he said he needs time and space makes me believe like he wants to revisit the idea of us getting back together, but that may just be me overthinking it. I just want him to see all the progressive I have been making so he can realize even though I may have lost my way and gotten too attached, my intentions were always pure and my love was always real. How do I get him back?
A regular guy finds out just how hard breaking up can truly be when attempting to call it quits with a clingy female crime fighter who doesn’t want to let love die in director Ivan Reitman’s super-powered romantic comedy. Matt Saunders (Luke Wilson) was looking for love when he first met pretty brunette Jenny Johnson (Uma Thurman), and at the time it seemed as if he may had finally actually found it. Jenny isn’t just your typical girl, though, because despite her outwardly normal appearance she is actually a powerful superhero dedicated to ridding the streets of crime. Her outward strength betrays a deep-rooted insecurity, too, and when Jenny begins to become a bit too possessive for Matt’s laid-back taste, the troubled boyfriend does his best to end the relationship amicably. They say that breaking up isn’t easy to do, however, and when your girlfriend is a superhero, that sentiment holds twice the truth as it does under any normal circumstances. Matt is determined to get on with his life, though, and as his budding romance with beautiful co-worker Hannah (Anna Faris) begins to get serious, jealous Jenny scornfully slips into G-Girl mode to prove that hell hath no fury like a woman superhero scorned.
Now this may come as a surprise, but it is crucial. After you make an apology, put some distance between the two of you and refrain from learning about her life from any source whatsoever. This shall give you the time to focus on you, work toward reinventing and refashioning yourself into the man who’d not make those fatal mistakes that led to the breakup whilst also picking up new hobbies, interests, and living it up.
Remember: you have been loved, you are loved, and you will be loved again. You have a place in the world around you. No matter how you feel or what your ex might say and do to make you feel worse in the short term, this fact remains.
There is a reason she gave you her heart. She never wanted it to be ripped away from yours like a scab over a half healed welt. She chose you coz she loved you. She took those steps with you coz she wanted to move ahead. She wanted to build a future with you and she was investing her heart, body, and soul in it. But then, she ‘couldn’t do it anymore’ because she didn’t see a way to make that investment yield returns. She tried to explain, told you she was unhappy but she probably didn’t FEEL that she was being heard or understood. And when she felt emotionally drained, she gave up the trudge on the apparent one-way street! Now this may not be your case, or may only hold true partially – but that’s no reason to despair! The point is, women give up when they cannot bear the disinterested stance of on-going non-commitment. It is important for you to pin down what the specific reasons for your breakup were and understand it from her perspective. Her chants of ‘I don’t feel the love anymore,’ or ‘it’s over,’ or even ‘I’m seeing someone else,’ can merely be coping mechanisms! Well, just remember there’s a 50% chance they may not be.
You’ve told me a few times that you’re afraid that one day I’m going to wake up and realise I don’t love you anymore or don’t want to be with you anymore, when nothing could be further from the truth as in that will never happen, because I couldn’t not love you. I truly love you with every fibre of my being!!! I want to marry you and for you, and no one else, to be the mother of my kids!!! I love you so much!!! And I’d do anything and give anything to make you happy and to make our relationship work!!! I know I’m guilty of being in my own little world with my training and studying, and that’s just me trying to figure out the next step. Every part of my plan I have considered you and our future and future little family, and it’s what has driven me!!! You’ve always been a big part of the reason for my successes with my exams and my training, especially my CPL, with your support and love, even though I was stressed out with my exams and training because I didn’t want to repeat any, I felt like I could do anything with you by my side!!! I feel that together we are unstoppable of achieving our dreams!!! And I love that feeling and I love that it’s with you!!! You’re the best thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life and you still are the best thing in my life!!! You always have been!!! Being able to achieve what I have, has just been a bonus, and it means nothing to me if I can’t share it with you!!! I was serious when I said this, and I am serious about it; I don’t want to be with anyone but you and only you!!! I’d rather be alone than NOT be with you!!!
You first have to understand if him saying that you’re unable to focus on your career is a legitimate worry he has or if it’s an excuse to end things. That would determine if you should contact him, because if it’s a real concern he has, and you are able to convince him that you can stay focused and still be with him, then you should try to fix things.
What should I need to do ? I am on day 8 of no contact it’s really hard specially I am seeing him online all the time. We’ve been together for 7 years. But recently for the past 2 years we do not see each other in person due to long distance tho we’ve been seeing each other in webcam. We had some argument he keeps telling we are going to see each other in person but he never make plan. I find out Jan 1st this year he traveled to Dubai to spend vacation with Indonesian girl.(before that incident I caught him sexting with that girl, that Indonesian lady asking him to send her a porn he said they haven’t see each other yet and the girl was virgin he said it was nothing ugh I’m so stupid to believe)
As they talked Peter often felt tempted to say, “and you do it too!” He successfully refrained. He had learned that his job was to look at what he could change, not to criticize or advise his wife. That change proved to be one of the most potent signs to his wife that Peter was in fact behaving far more appealingly. [otp_overlay]