Thank you for your reply. I understood that one of the purpose of NC to introduce changes to my own life and approach. But I am not addicted to this guy, only attracted to him and wanna try if it works with him. I can live without him. I have my life, my goal in life without him. I am aware that both of us should work on it and use a different approach. Definetely I should starte. What I am saying: it is not a more year old relationship but only 3 month long and basically was about sex. Ergo, if I wait say 1 month my chance to get him back is decreasing in my view.
If so, you ARE having irrational thoughts because these statements are definitely NOT TRUE. When you repeat such statements to yourself, it’s no wonder that you feel needy and depressed. To a point, your mind believes whatever you repeatedly tell it… rational or irrational. These irrational thoughts are holding you back… they will actually PREVENT you from getting back with your ex since they are causing the neediness that your ex will find so repulsive.
hi my ex broke up with me about a week ago, but she still lives with me, we help each other out financially until i get another job after christmas, shes going out meeting new guys now, how should i conduct the no contact rule in my situation? and what should i do whilst shes here?
Hi , I’m so confused , can someone tell me what’s going on ?! , My ex girlfriend left me almost 3 weeks ago….she told me that she want to stay alone and rethink her thoughts , she’s has a huge dose of introversion since she was a child ,literally she only had me to talk with, and a firend who also has her own relationship.., a lot of problems in the family with her parents , and i was a little too pushy, i wanted to see her and stuff , and she just wanted to stay home and , do nothing, talk with no one ,she even delete her facebook account ….and i panicked and cried in front of her in the night she told me she want to break up….i guess that’s a bad move, but i couldn’t stand it….just because she promised me, she swore that she’ll never leave me and that i’m all she has , and that’s weird because a few days before she started to became …quiet i might say…she had plans with me , sleep at my place, and planning concerts in the spring break summer……i’m sooo confused …. i dont know what to do…..
Don’t beat yourself over it. These are all knee-jerk reactions after a breakup. The important thing is to realize they are mistakes and not do them again. Your relationship can still be saved if you don’t repeat these mistakes again. The best thing you can do to repair damage done is to follow step 2 diligently.
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Letting a woman get away with giving you sh*t like this is a recipe for one thing: lost respect – namely any respect she had for you. Why? Because she knows that a superior guy who is worthy of her respect would not tolerate such BS from her.
When the woman I love broke up with me, my world fell apart. I had gone to several casters and I got no results or insufficient ones. I found help and gave another try to retrieve my lover and restore the passionate relationship I had with her. I’m so glad I did and trusted him. he performed a spiritual cleansing to banish negative energies and cast a love spell. After 2days, the woman I missed dearly started to call me and told me few days ago that she still loves me and wants to try again. Thank you
If after your month long hiatus you see your ex on the big date (more on this later) and they get even a *whiff* of neediness they will know that they hold all the cards and they will “pull” away from you again. Believe it or not, people don’t like to “hold all the cards,” they like a little bit of a challenge.
He broke up with me over a month ago and i am still upset. I know he is not seeing anyone else and he knows i’m not either. When we broke up he told me he wants to be happy (he’s very depressed). He told me that he loves me way more than i love him and it’s just difficult to deal with that because i think that 2 people who love each other should be with together. we have been texting and it’s either very short or very long and we also have our location on for each other. we were together for almost 15 months and i see a future with him and he is fully aware that i would do anything to have him back. i want to see him so badly but i don’t think he wants to see me. He’s going through a lot of stuff like depression and he gets lost in his thoughts and this caused him to think i was cheating or lying to him or that i didn’t love him. I think cheating is disgusting and i’d never lie to him. He also can’t get over certain things…. such as him not being my first sexual partner which bothers me because i am a year older than him and it just bothers me that he doesn’t understand. all i want is for him to be happy but i also want him to be happy with me and i am so stuck. i asked him if he would ever come back and he said he doesn’t know. everyone keeps telling me to focus on myself and i can’t because i’m only focused on him and i really have hopes that we will get back together.
You’re texting your ex for a very specific reason (ahem Step 1) so get on with it already. You should preferably make your point in the first text message. This isn’t being rude, it’s just normal texting. If you hem and haw for too long your ex might get the wrong message and respond accordingly. You don’t need to be rude or curt, just to the point. You’re a busy woman and I’m sure your ex is too so there’s no need to waste anyone’s time.
Right now you’ve been going down all the wrong paths, and you’ve encountered strong resistance on the part of your ex girlfriend. This is because you’re approaching things in all the wrong ways, and your attempts to get her back have been entirely too predictible.
Do not pursue your ex during this time. That means no calling, texting, or asking around about how he or she is doing. Most importantly, do not ask your ex questions about why the breakup happened or about whether he or she is seeing anyone. This comes across as desperate..
Hi the NC seems to be working. At work she told me she misses me and missed my kisses. She also hinted of wanting to get back together. What should I do? Should I continue the NC rule? or just go with the flow ?
You may hear from mutual friends that he called you a bad name/s or you may get the feeling that he hates you or wants nothing to do with you. Don’t worry, he is emotional and doesn’t mean it. Besides, after 30 days he will change his tune.
Given that she hasn’t grown, I don’t think getting back is the right call. But since you have demonstrated a lot of attractive qualities in focusing on yourself and cutting the cord, she may try to get back with you. To me, that seems like a bad idea though, given what a catalyst for growth breaking up has been
Make sure that she is still interested – Prior to starting to exert an effort to win back her heart, determine if she still wants to be with you. Make sure that she still loves you or still cares about you before exerting an effort. Knowing that she still cares is an essential clue that will help you identify whether you can still mend your relationship.
Well…I was in a long distance relationship. My ex and I were together for about a year, but in those twelve months we broke up about twelve times. But the relationship ending horribly was my fault, I told her I’d come see her and that I’d pay for her to get here to see me sometime, but I was too scared of what she’d think of me..among other personal things. All I want is a family with her because honestly she is perfect for me and I…was perfect for her. I might as well be honest, gaming took over my life and because of that I hardly ever go out or do anything. It also made me angry all the time and now I’m trying to change everything. I cry day in day out thinking that I’ll never have a family with the girl I love, she still loves me but isn’t ready to be with me and I’m not ready either but I’m willing to change for myself and for her. Most people would say that I’m too young to be thinking about having a family and whatever but it’s my life. Please if you can, help me figure out what I’m doing wrong and what I need to do. I’m going to die young so I have to live fast, this is true, I’m not attention seeking, I’m not like that. But anyway I really need to change and get her back, I want a life. Please help.
It may seems very difficult for you but with the help of my 5-step action plan it can somehow reduce your pain. Keep in mind you have to push your ex girlfriend to bring her closer to you. It also helps you to avoid validation seeking behavior. I just can’t explain the importance of these steps enough. Just follow my 5-step plan.
Hopefully, if everything goes as planned, your ex will not be able to resist you and will start to warm up to you again. After that it should only be a matter of time until they are back in your life.
In that situation your girl will, in return, go cold on you too. Again, she ends up feeling disconnected from you, “he’s being distant”, and so she breaks up with you, leaving you needing to learn how to get your ex-girlfriend back fast.
This is another example of the guy trying harder than the girl and her perceiving her own DMV as the higher of the two. She perceives this because the person trying harder in the relationship is considered to be compensating for his/her lower relative DMV. Attraction reduced.
Once you’ve recovered and rekindled, now you’re ready to reach out and establish communication. But you have to be ready — visit http://www.breakupbrad.com and watch the free video on there to find out more.
While it is not advisable to find out if she is still interested right after your break-up nor instruct your friends to investigate about it, you can still start looking for subtle hints. As mentioned earlier, avoid pursuing her for a minimum of one month after breaking up.
One more thing I am actually living at her aunty’s house whereas she’s leaving in our old house as she didn’t wanted to move in with her aunty. Do I need to move out of that house to let things work or I can still get things worked by living in that house.
Now it is important for you to know the difference between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance is sort of fake confidence and don’t try to show your fake confidence to your girlfriend. Females are naturally build to spot fake confidence from miles away. Try to build confidence that attract women
Getting too much approval from girlfriend is also very unattractive. Unattractive men seek validation and approval from their girlfriend and this is why they fail to keep attraction in their relationship for long time.
A lot of experts employ the so-called “No Contact” phase when it comes to getting your ex back. This is one of the best ways to convey to him or her that you’re over the break up. Secondly, as you talked about in this article… rebuilding your image is also very important. Being down and depressed isn’t going to help you get your ex back. Re-inventing yourself and your image will!
Let her see you having a great time. Once you’ve given her some space and have worked on self-improvement, she’ll be much closer to wanting you. But now you have to put all the pieces together and let her see what an amazing guy you are and how much fun it is to be around you. Be strategic. Without looking like a stalker, make sure you’re hanging out in some of the same places so she can see what a blast it is to be around you.
I hope so. But, be warned, this isn’t going to be a walk in the park. Creating attraction after it’s already come and gone is difficult. When you first met there was probably “instant attraction” without you consciously trying to do anything.
Until the first of what would become many nights when Katie came over to watch Glee, and her hand somehow found its way into mine. I don’t remember how it happened, but I remember asking her what we were doing and I remember catching my breath as she leaned in to kiss me.
The point of his response was that every time he walked into a room it was like all the women stopped and stared. He didn’t have to try to get girls because from the moment he hit high school (I was friends with him there) all the women flocked to him.