Remember that in this case a non-action (not reaching out to them) is in fact a very powerful action that will cause a reaction from your ex one way or the other; even if they don’t tell you how they feel when they don’t hear from you.
It’s important for him to feel really good about spending time with you again… especially if things ended badly between you. The contrast between how things felt at the end of your relationship and how things feel now is key in getting back together with him.
This section is going to be controversial. It certainly was in my Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO System. Some of you may not agree with this but everywhere I researched said that using your ex boyfriends jealousy to your advantage is one of the most powerful things you can do.
Sorry it took so long to get back to you; I was traveling in France for a conference and to do a couple of one on one coaching sessions face to face. I am now back into my regular routine and able to address your questions. First of all, yes I do understand how you feel because I deal with people that are madly in love all day every day. You are not a bad person for trying to be the one that makes her happy! You actually have quite a few things going for you: the fact that you were once together and that you were the one that ended the relationship at that time is a plus; the fact that you are still on good terms and that she openly tells you how much you still mean to her is also very very positive! I’dd be interested to know how she reacted to your letter because it would enable me to give you even better insights into exactly what you should do next! But I can already tell you that your biggest obstacle won’t be someone else or the possibility that she gets married; your biggest hurdle today is simply distance. If you have the possibility to fly her to you before May in order to re-kindle I think that you should make that happen! It would be my pleasure to help you game plan as to how you should bring this about, we could chat during the course of a one on one coaching session over the phone! In your case I truly believe that getting back with an ex after years apart is more than possible!
Did you completely cut out your social life? Do you no longer hang with your friends? Did you constantly find yourself being in demand of your ex’s time to do certain activities together as opposed to doing them alone? If you answered yes to any of the previous questions the odds are that you were in fact too needy.
However if you dumped her but you’ve realized you made a huge mistake, and now you want her back, see my article on that topic in the “blog” section of this website, because all steps on this page show how to get your ex back if it’s the girl who ended it.
I recommend you to go No contact with your ex girlfriend for at least 4 weeks. It is fine if your ex girlfriend contacts you. By going no contact with your ex girlfriend you will achieve three things:
Deal lauren. I am a fan of mars and venus books and i have all the collection. I also recommended the books to my friends. But i still need your advice , my bf broke up with me 4 months ago. he felt overwhelmed, asked space and said he has nothing to say other than he needs to be alone. Since than i tried everything includinf suggesting to be friends and told him im over the break up and want my friend back. We work together, we were close friends for 6 months and we dated for 4 months. So after the friendship speech, he panicked and ended the conversation by saying lets keep it simple and move on. So i decided to start a true limited contact ( since i hv to work with him daily), since than he called once for work purpose (i think) but didnt answer him, he asked once how i was doing ( i replied im gd only) he tried a few jokes, and we met at a friends wedding so he invited me to dance with our other friends but i declined. I am commited to NC. He also invited me for a coffee at the work coffee shop and touched my hand once. My reactions were simple and didnt show attention or neediness. Than suddenly he went distant again and start ignoring me all over again. Im completly lost. I thought he starts to get closer!!!Please advice. Thank you …
However, if your ex is currently calling you everyday or texting you everyday, then yes you should let them know that you don’t want them to contact you for a short period of time. Don’t give them any specifics. Just tell them to not contact you until you decide to contact them. Let them know you need some space and time right now.
Give some serious thought to whether or not you’re willing and able to work through these issues. If you are sure that you have an answer that will allow you to be with this person happily again, that’s a great sign. [otp_overlay]