Then you are still suffering from post-breakup denial and bargaining. Denial and bargaining are two of the many stages of grief after a breakup. It’s extremely common for people to want to get their ex back after a breakup. However, it’s not always the right choice.

Prepare your words. The first thing that you say to your ex is extremely important. If you say the wrong words, you will lose the chance to get them back. You need to understand that even though you’re not together, there is a good chance they still harbor strong feelings for you.

If she’s said goodbye, it’s possible she meant exactly what she said. But it’s also very possible she’s open to a full-fledged win-me-back operation. The only thing we know for sure is that you’ll need our advice. Here’s how to navigate the reconciliation like you’re MacGyver: How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back. 

Try it out, exercise your agentic power, as Larry Becker would put it, take control of your emotions by way of your reason and your actions. And remember: you are not a Sage, but only a prokopton, one who (hopefully) makes progress. But progress is not linear, you will slide back. It’s okay, pick yourself up and keep going. Fate permitting, you have a long life ahead of you, rich in new and positive thoughts and emotions. In part, that’s up to you.

Be that man your ex-girlfriend fell in love with – Think about the first time when both of you got together. What are the things about you that she specifically likes? Is it your sense of humor or sense of style? No matter what it is, bring back the love and passion in your relationship by letting your ex-girlfriend see the man that he fell in love with before.

I cannot apologise enough for what’s happening now. And yes everything thing I read from you makes me feel guilty for doing it, but I’m afraid that’s as far as my emotions are going now. As time slowly passes the guilt lessons and I’m even more sure in my decision. I know these words will hurt but I can only sugar coat things so much. I’m sorry.”

Marriage is about giving, but don’t make the mistake of giving too much. “To have a good marriage, you need to be a good you,” says Bowman. “Learn how to prioritize and put boundaries around activities that keep you healthy and whole—activities like rest, relaxation, fitness and time with friends.” In other words, remember that scheduling “me” time into your day is not selfish, it’s a necessity. It will strengthen your relationship because you’ll have a saner version of “you” to bring to the “us” equation.

If you need help meeting people then I highly, highly recommend Internet dating. There is no better way to meet exciting, new people. Don’t believe the stigma – Internet dating is great and no, the people that use Internet dating are not all ugly, perverted computer nerds.

Before approaching your ex, you first need to sit down with yourself and soberly and honestly consider why the relationship ended and whether your motives for getting back together are genuine or merely reactionary.

While it is not advisable to find out if she is still interested right after your break-up nor instruct your friends to investigate about it, you can still start looking for subtle hints. As mentioned earlier, avoid pursuing her for a minimum of one month after breaking up.

If you listen to your heart, all you will hear is that you love your ex and you want them back. Instead, try to think with your mind. Be logical. Analyze the pros and cons of your relationship. Analyze the pros and cons of your ex. Analyze what your goals in life are and whether or not a relationship with your ex aligns with those goals.(Read: Should You Get Your Ex Back?) [otp_overlay]