Even worse you start to lose your personality and what makes you appealing and unique in order to be something that you think that your ex wants you to be. But you are wrong! Your ex doesn’t want you to be a person who says yes to everything they say and who never stands up to them.

Do you find it hard to know what to say to your ex? Are you desperate to get him or her back? Read this article for tips on what you need to do and say if you want a good chance of winning back your ex.>>http://ezinearticles.com/…<< The way you communicate with her via text and in calls will need to change. Given that you’re in a break up you’ve probably been doing it completely wrong, replying instantly to her messages even though she takes hours to respond to you. This has to stop and you need to start doing it right, after the no contact period. That’s why I’m going to teach you how to get your ex-girlfriend back fast by text message, although be aware, texts are only part of it. Once you're done figuring things out on your own, you obviously need to have a conversation with your ex. An honest convo guys, not one where you're both just like, "I miss you, I can't live without you!" Talk about what you both want to change, what you want in the future and what's been going on while you were together. Get everything out there now! Similarly if you don’t control your anger and only fix the mistakes that happened in the previous relationship then you only end up having leaky vessel which will break sooner or later. You have to guarantee that if you replace old vessel with new one then it would not happen again. Thanks a lot for your advice. I'm just wondering if you maybe make it sound too easy by saying "5 steps to getting an ex back"... in my experience it can take months of work and still you may not win them back. Anyway thanks for the interesting read... Good luck all! Sometimes, you want to fight for the relationship. Sometimes you just know deep in your heart that if only you could get another chance with your ex, things would work out. Sometimes, you just can’t close that chapter unless you get another try. Of course, you should never lie in anything you say to your ex. But instead find ways to use the truth to its full advantage in helping you get your ex back and in beginning your relationship together again.  My situation is a little different than most, we’ve been together for 5 years and he’s currently in the military now, he just ended things, with multiple reasoning but the last one was him saying he didn’t have time for a girlfriend nor did he want one. It’s been a week since we broke up and also a week of NC, I haven’t reached out, but is this going to work, is he really going to miss me even with us being so far away and his schedule being so hectic?? Please someone give me some advice… Listen, it is not that odd for romantic feelings to fade over time. In fact it is the most common reason for a breakup. Michael's strategies help your ex remember why they fell in love with you, and this gets them to "forgive and forget" problems from the past. Click here to see his new cartoon presentation on how it all works! Tracing strong reactions to current life events back to their origin in earlier experiences can enable a person to identify what felt the same then and now. The healing question then is to find what in the present situation is different. "Sometimes challenges in relationships feel like a bigger deal in that moment than they are," Sumter said. "Once you step back from the situation and pause, you can see that maybe with better communication or a bit of a stronger commitment the two of you can get through it together." “How can she do this to me? She told me she loved me just a couple of weeks ago and now she is sleeping around with someone else. I am going to give her a call and tell her exactly what I think about this and what @$$#@ she and her new boyfriend is.” Let the conversation naturally progress. If your ex is doing great and reports that he or she is seeing other people, you might decide not to waste your time trying to convince him or her to get back together. But if your ex seems to harbor feelings for you, you can gradually bring up the possibility of giving things another try. I guess in a very rare case. If your ex is willing to work on whatever caused him to cheat. He/She has agreed to do whatever it takes to rebuild the trust. And you are ready to forgive him/her and work on rebuilding the trust. A lot of time, guys try to avoid any difficult topics because they are scared their ex girlfriend will become upset and the date will go badly. In an effort to avoid making their ex girlfriend upset or starting an argument; they will just agree to her point of view even if they don’t. In these situations, it’s impossible to not want to try again, and I forgive you in advance for doing what all the movies and TV shows tell us not to -- and for trying to get back with your ex. So here are some tips for not screwing it up too bad. “She is making a huge mistake with that guy. Her new boyfriend is not the right person for her. I am. I need to speak to her immediately and convince her to leave the other guy for me. If I don’t, it may be too late.” Stop trying to get your ex back if the relationship was toxic or abusive. It might feel temporarily lonely or even boring to be on your own after the end of a tumultuous relationship, but try to ride that feeling out instead of going back to your ex. On again, off again relationships tend to be based on unhealthy patterns that won't go away. Resist the temptation to jump right back in when you know you're better off without him. Agreeing to everything your ex says is not going to bring them back. In fact, it’s only going to make your ex respect you less. Nobody wants to be with someone they don’t respect. And even if they do come back, they will leave shortly realizing they have no respect for you as a person. Sorry because I am a bit tiring. I have doubts about "no contact rule" in my case. In my understanding your theory is based on the fact that there were happy moments in the relationship and after a while people tend to remember the good memories, the overall picture and forget about the problems (eg. clinginess, small debates), the small negative details. My relationship with this man though was about great sex and awful debates right afterwards (since I was fighting against my own feelings), therefore the overall picture is not good. There were no happy moments in this relationship with the exception of sex. Basically, I can say only the sexual attraction kept it alive at all for 3 months. And I am aware that sexual attraction can fade away fast so what remains is the overall negative picture. Am I not right? My bf of 2 years left me 5 days ago. We've hardly argued but when we did it was mainly because of his mates not liking me. I have always made an effort with them but they found me too positive so they chose not to accept me in their circle. Last straw was that i saw my ex's best mate wrote a very nasty text talking about me. My ex did say i'm not like that but it still hurt me that his mates are being like that. © 2018 Condé Nast. All rights reserved. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our  User Agreement (effective 1/2/2016) and  Privacy Policy  (effective 1/2/2016). SELF may earn a portion of sales from products that are purchased through our site as part of our Affiliate Partnerships with retailers.  Your California Privacy Rights . The material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except with prior written permission of Condé Nast. Okay, that wasn’t my best joke. But I am sure you can do something better than that. More importantly, you probably know what tickles her funny bone. So, think of a joke that you think she will find funny and send it to her. Keep in mind that your breakup didn’t happen just because you did something wrong or you said something wrong or you were not prettier enough to be with your ex or you gave too much to your ex for too little efforts. Consistent gifts will have made her think you were trying too hard to win her approval. It sets a frame where you are demonstrating that it is YOU trying to win HER over, and thus she detects that she is superior to you. Depending on how close you are to your family or your friends, they may have seen you and your ex-partner together or they may have known you both well when you were together. They may be able to give you some insight and perspective on some of the possible issues in your relationship and ways that you can work on these issues. Be willing to listen to their advice, but remember that ultimately you will need to figure out how to work through your issues on your own. Write in a journal- Sometimes your mind is constantly racing with thoughts about your ex boyfriend and since you can’t talk to him for 30 days it might be a good idea to jot your thoughts down in a journal. And that’s when you contact them, you talk to them and then meet them. Just as they lay eyes on you, BOOM. That’s the new and improved you. YOU version 2.0. They can’t help but wonder what brought so much positive change in you. [otp_overlay]