Get Your Man Back And Be In Love Again
When a relationship ends, it tends to come as somewhat of a shock to at least one of the involved parties. Of course, using hindsight, we may realize that the clues have been there all along. The reality is generally that when one person wants to end the relationship, the other person would prefer to still stay together.
If you find yourself in this situation, and your man has told you that he doesn’t love you anymore and that it is over, it may feel like the end of the world. Nevertheless, there are things you can still do to try and salvage the relationship and perhaps even make him love you again.
Stop the Chase
The first thing you must absolutely do is stop chasing him. When you chase your man, be that physically or verbally (by talking incessantly), you are not giving him a chance to come after you. You must learn to stop and withdraw if you want anything to work out again.
How the hell is he supposed to chase you if you’re chasing after him? The harder you squeeze, the harder he will wiggle to get away. And chances are you’ve talked the subject to death. The more you try to talk to him about it, the more likely he is to pull away.
This is often difficult because women love to talk. We are verbally strong and we easily talk about our feelings. For men, however, this feels smothering. If you want him to love you again, stop talking and stop chasing.
Shake Up Your Routine
Men are complicated creatures. They say they love routine, but noting actually frightens them as much as boredom. One of the things that may have made your man fall in love with you in the first place was likely the excitement and adventure your promised him with your personality.
But life gets in the way sometimes, and once two people have been together for a certain period of time, that adventure and excitement will gradually fizzle out. This does not mean that you need to book yourself on a skydiving experience, but you can certainly shake things up a bit again.
If you normally have the same weekend routine, mix it up. Come up with something different and interesting to do. Pick a sport that you can do with him, go out and meet new people together, explore different ways to be intimate together, plan a trip somewhere you’ve always wanted to go to.
And if you are together all the time, spending time apart as in step two creates newness and unpredictability, too.
Get a Life
If there is anything unattractive, in both men and women, it is desperation. You may feel desperate to get your man back, but you simply cannot show this. That is a surefire way to push him away and to change any dwindling feelings of love into feelings of pity. Additionally, the reality is that you may not be able to get him to love you again, in which case you really need to start thinking about yourself.
Show him that you are OK, that you can have fun by yourself, that your life goes on even if he is not there anymore. This is really important for yourself, because it will help you to build up your self-confidence and become a strong, independent and most of all desirable woman.
Another very important thing that you must remember is that you must allow your man to be himself. Women have a tendency to want to ‘fix’ things. However, a man doesn’t feel as if he is broken. Leave him, and his strange habits be, because that is simply who he is.