Will She Be Able to Forgive Me for Cheating?
We would like to be able to give you a specific formula for how to make her forgive your infidelity, but in all honesty, she may or may not ever get over it. Cheating is a betrayal of trust and woman do not typically like to make love to men they do not trust. (Note: Young hormonal sex is an entirely different story; we are talking about a relationship here not hooking up a bar)
Cheating is one of the toughest things for the average woman to forgive, it’s kind of like lying on steroids. It’s not just the breaking of the marriage vows that is difficult for her to forgive, there’s more to it than just that.
Women see a relationship in a much more complicated way than men; something many men will never be able to understand the logic of. A woman’s reason for having such a difficult time forgiving her husband cheating, though, is surprisingly uncomplicated and straightforward. Your affair hits her where she hurts most – her confidence.
The whole situation leaves her shaken, vulnerable, and insecure in her feeling of your love for her and all that she believed to be true about your love for her.
The key to getting her to forgive your cheating is to overcome that shaken confidence. Only after you are able to restore the lost confidence will she be able to move forward and finally forgive you for cheating on her.
Does This Sound Like An Impossible Task?
Well, it might be impossible, we cannot guarantee success. We do not know your wife nor the details of your affair and how she found out about it.
Hopefully, though, the right application of remorse and re-dedication on your part can make it happen. If you can do a few little things each day that will work over time to restore her faith in you and rebuild the trust you have lost, then there is a chance.
Ready To Give It A Try?
In some ways you are trying to win her love all over again and get her to trust you. If you seem insincere in any way then nothing you do or say will mater.
First, if you have not actually apologized and asked her to forgive you, that is a good place to start. Explain that the affair is OVER it IS, ISN’T IT?)
Reaffirm to her that you love her and her alone. Tell her frequently that you love her but not in a begging or desperate way.
Offer excuses for cheating probably will not work, so do not bother – it will probably work against you. Simply let her know she is loved by you and you are committed to your relationship.
Show Her How You Really Feel
It can be small gestures that often matter most. Maybe write her some little love notes. Maybe she is the type of gal that would respond well to being served breakfast in bed.
Give her a night (or morning) off by taking over her typical duties with the kids or the household; but only do this if you intend to make it a habit and are not going to quit as soon as you think she is over it.
If you have not been scheduling a regular, weekly date night then make that a priority and maybe pick up some date night tips here.
She needs to know that she is not just A priority in your life, but THE priority in your life.
We know life is hectic, there is no time for yourself. Often you are busy providing for your family. You think you are doing the right thing and wonder why no one appreciates you.
Then, one day, you discover that your family feels like you’ve abandoned them. They are hurt and yet you are the one who feels like he has been kicked in the you know whats. Everyone feels hurt and it is a bad situation.
What The Future Holds
Take time now to appreciate what you nave now rather than using it up preparing for a future that is so uncertain.
There will be no future for your marriage and no woman will forgive infidelity unless she knows it is over and there is no reason to believe you will stray again.
End the affair and separate yourself from the other woman, even if it means a job transfer or change. Then focus your full, undivided attention on repairing your marriage once and for all. If you can, figure out why you did it and even seek help if necessary to make sure it does not happen again.
Only you can know for sure if she can forgive you for cheating, and what you do from here forward will likely have a big impact on whether she can and will forgive you.
None of these steps mentioned is particularly expensive or time consuming, it merely requires a change of heart and new dedication from you.
Should you want some additional assistance in making up to her for your infidelity, you might try watching this video and see if that answers additional questions.