By the way, the best results I’ve seen for people with abusive anger is with the energy therapy techniques of Bradley Nelson, which Dale Petterson in my office does for my clients. It’s quite amazing how these techniques seem to pull the anger out by the roots….though multiple interventions plus conventional couple and individual treatment have to be part of the treatment strategy.
Thanks for the advice. I forgot to mention last night after a stressful week I had some anxiety and said some insecure things to her while we were talking. Stuff along the line of “you were my best friend” and “second chance” were mentioned. I realized my mistake changed the subject almost immediately and continued to have a good conversation, but it was a moment of weakness nonetheless. Do I just continue on as normal?
Men with no purpose look highly unattractive. You made a mistake by making your girlfriend as the only purpose of your life. Girls don’t want their boyfriends to have a sole purpose in their life just to please her. If you have make this mistake now it is time to set new goal for your life and try to achieve it.
It was the strangest break-up I’ve ever had. I’ve never broken up out of a relationship when things were going well…. was she just putting on a mask while we were dating???…. She said she tried developing feelings for me but she just couldn’t… But her actions 100% prove otherwise… she could never keep her hands off of me!!!
Think that next time you’ll meet your ex, she will have to admire you, for what you become, for how you managed to be a man, to stay strong even when it hurts, and how you become perhaps more patient, more quite, confident, and whatever you want to become. No pain no gain, they say.
My girlfriend left me 3 days ago and i called her message he continuoslybut she didn’t reply and from 48 hrs i not contacted to her i made a littlemistake thats why she left me with anger but i can’t control anymore i want her back right now please help me as soon as possible please
When your relationship ends due to cheating, the feelings and emotions your girlfriend once had for you are all still there. Learn how to renew her true feelings for you, and get your ex to quickly forgive you for being unfaithful.
I remember it like it was yesterday. My girlfriend and I had been together for almost 4 years and things were going great. Then one day she called me out of the blue, and blurted out four words that stopped me dead in my tracks….
The best way to handle this situation is to accept your condition. This is because you can’t force your ex girlfriend to change her decision. Most people do completely against accepting their situation. They bombard their ex girlfriend with miss calls, text messages, Facebook messaging, sleep with ex’s friend and also do stalking to find out about their girlfriend. All these negative actions make their situation even more worst and in the end they lost their girlfriend to someone new.
Why is this the easiest? Well it’s not as hard as other circumstances, like for instance getting a girl back from another guy. You only broke up due to distance, meaning that the attraction she feels for you is still present. In fact it might even have increased, since women get off on desiring what they can’t have (you). Even if it seems impossible, it can be done.
Thus, working on developing yourself is the solution, so that you are actually able to fill this void, derive happiness and satisfaction from within. This happiness and satisfaction from within is actually the source of real self-confidence.
Ok, so those are pretty much the most basic things of the big NO-NO’s of the no contact period. Now we get to the good stuff. Honestly, I am getting excited here because this is where you start taking the first steps of getting your ex boyfriend back. Granted, they are baby steps but they are still steps in the right direction.
Let her see you having a great time. Once you’ve given her some space and have worked on self-improvement, she’ll be much closer to wanting you. But now you have to put all the pieces together and let her see what an amazing guy you are and how much fun it is to be around you. Be strategic. Without looking like a stalker, make sure you’re hanging out in some of the same places so she can see what a blast it is to be around you.
In terms of romantic relationships, there is a chance that you confused your want – someone who is fun and has lots of money – with your needs – someone who is nurturing, loving, understanding, and supportive financially and emotionally.
Well, since January would have been some time since your last contact with her, you could always drop her a casual text to ask her how her New Year has been and see how she responds from there. If she doesn’t respond positively, it might really do you justice and a big favor to walk away from this, and focus on moving on.
yo im going through the exact same thing right now. the girl of my dreams and i were together for 9 months. i had been friends with her for about a year before. then we ended up together. the nine months was great. absolutely amazing. sure it had its moments, but every relationship does. then i fell into that comfort zone, where i didnt realize how bad of a boyfriend i was being because i was working all the time and i would be exhausted, and she tuned me out because of it. we just broke up 2 1/2 weeks ago and were still talking but, she seeing another dude, who was a shoulder to cry on when she thought that i didnt love her anymore. we had a place together and i moved into my boys extra room. now she doesnt want to stay there by herself so she may move in with him. weve talked and she seems like the breakup isnt what she wanted but, she also seems like she likes the new guy somewhat if shes willing to move into his house right after we broke up. but i can tell that she does still love me, and i want my fuckin girl back. she has until the 1st of january to decide if shes gonna move. i dont know what to do. i feel like if she does move into his house, it’ll be too late for us to try in the future. what can i do to convince her not to move into this douchebox’s house?
So, lets say that this area of your life is out of balance. This could mean a lot of things. Maybe you are a chronic smoker and get lung cancer. Perhaps you are considered to be obese. Maybe you have an acne problem and it causes issues with your confidence.
It may not be fun to admit it, but if you’re missing your ex girlfriend then you have to confront it. Pretending that you don’t care will only get you so far. Thankfully, the best way to get over your ex girlfriend and free yourself of missing her is to confront it head on, and find ways to get your mind off of the situation. You may find it easier to just keep yourself busy, doing new things and meeting new people.
Now, I get that the only reason you came to my website is because you want your ex girlfriend back. Trust me I get it but you know what. Right now you are single and rather than sitting around the house and moping around I want you to take the opposite approach.
Oh, if your relationship was less than 3 months old, then you should reduce no contact to about two weeks. Perhaps, learn a bit of communication skills during this time so you can make the relationship about something more than sex when you get back in touch. Also, before you contact him again, make sure he is worth it and you have the right attitude about this. After all, you don’t want to invest too much time and energy into someone with whom you had a shallow relationship based on only sex.
So now, I had decided to actually study in my home country in Europe. Finish school there and what not. I had this plan before but I just hadn’t acted on it until now. She took this other guy to prom, so when she told me she’s seeing this other guy because “she would rather I knew”, I realized what I had lost and started pouring my heart out to her and sending her roses etc etc etc. She tells me it wouldn’t be fair for her to not give the other guy a chance. She said maybe if I come back to Europe, we can get close again and see how it goes but for now, she will be seeing this other guy. After more begging and pleading, she finally just told me she’s going to be seeing him and that I took too long to make a decision. I told her she broke my heart and I realize I don’t have a shot anymore. That was the last thing I said to her.