The first step, of this guide is to understand the biggest mistakes that people make after a breakup and AVOID THEM. Doing these mistakes will not only drive your ex further away. They will also make you feel rejected and unworthy.

The good thing about telling him you are sorry is that it also serves as the key to gaining back his respect. Your decision to give him a sincere apology is also a big help in saving your relationship and making it as healthy and successful as possible this time.

The above “tactic” (stop feeling sorry for yourself) was really kind of a mean pep talk. This tactic is actually a real tactic. Remember the fork in the road? Well, one fork in the road that I see women faced with all the time is the “fitness” fork in the road.

I had a girlfriend of 4 years that started right before we both attended college. The sex was great, relationship was awesome, we both were givers. We even made it work while she attended school 7 1/2 hours away for an entire year. I recently moved 4 hours away for a job and as soon as I did, the relationship took a turn. It was a pain to get her to come visit me, and whenever I went and visited her I always had to hang with her and her friends. No alone time. We kept getting in fights and eventually she ended it by saying she wasn’t in love with me anymore. I went nuts for a few weeks until I found your work and initiated NC. She got back in touch with me after a few weeks and I arranged a date.

My back is bad and I started taking pain killers and became withdrawn and my ex in turn started talking to other men online and I reacted badly and she ran off to Arizona to stay with friends and I found out she had lost a lot of her inheritence to a scammer online

Well, don’t get too excited. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything—he might just be experiencing a moment of weakness. Next, don’t invest in it too much. Don’t assume this means he’s seen the light and you’re going to get back together. Basically, don’t forget about all the important stuff I discussed earlier in this article!

Do not call it a date. I repeat. Do not call it a date. If you do, your ex will put their defenses up faster than Garfield finds Lasagna. You don’t want them thinking that you are looking to get back together. At least not now. You want them to go out with you as a friend. And then you can build up attraction while you are with them.

On a day 3 I didn’t text but on a day 4 I texted and I joked about driving school (I know he has a good sense of humor) and I asked a question. No reply and not even read my messages. I see he is online once in a while.

Before you ever try to apply some techniques on how to get back your ex-boyfriend fast, you have to figure out if both parties are willing to compromise. Do you still harbor, resentment, and other negative feelings towards your ex? Does he think negatively of you, too?

Thank you Amor for replying back, I will follow your advice on how to look when I see his mother. The thing that is eating me alive is how quickly he moved onto this other girl. I know our last month of the relationship was ugly but it shouldn’t justify our entire 3 years together. For him to be with this girl either immediately or within a month of the break up which is when he started school near his home and 4-5 months later he’s still with her. Would you even consider that a rebound anymore? A friend of mine told me that she resembles me (though I don’t see it at all). I’m upset he lied to me assuring me there’s no one else, he cares to focus on bettering himself and school, yet there she is. A while back we talked about what would happened if he ever were to break up he said I’m like his best friend I know so much about him that we have history together he wouldn’t want me out of his life. Yet he did. No way to contact him now since he still has me blocked on all platforms and he returned Sprint the phone he had on my plan 2 weeks ago therefore recycling the number as well. Last message I sent to him was me being upset he still didn’t return my things I’ve been patiently and politely asking for, saying I don’t even know what type of person he is anymore but he’s not one I want to associate with if he’s being so cold and he said “cool, don’t try to contact me again” then blocked me again and removed himself from my phone plan few days later. See, what is your intake on this?

It’s a question we all ask, but it’s totally pointless and 100% upsetting. It’s always better that you look ahead and not back. Don’t dwell on what could have been; he took control and split you guys up, so you now have to focus on what lies ahead for you. Think about the opportunities that are now before you.

The date went very well (she did most of the talking) and we went to a few places afterwards. Eventually, she dropped a hint that she wanted to go to her apartment. While there we had plenty of alone time and she put herself in multiple situations where things could happen but was not exhibiting any obvious signs. She did this the rest of the night and it confused the hell out of me.

Make it a point to do your discussion in a peaceful and quiet place – one where no one and nothing can interrupt the two of you. Also, you have to set realistic expectations. Avoid forcing him to come back to you.

also he has already given her diamonds for her recent birthday, seems to be moving fast. And I can’t help but thinking of him proposing to her soon since they already knew each other so well. No, I don’t believe she ever cheated or started this with him while we were together.