Common wisdom tells us we have to purge ourselves of thoughts and feelings about former lovers and partners. When our loving feelings endure after the break-up, we can feel confused and ashamed. Confused, because we think that as long as an ex is on our mind we must not be “over” him or her, that our romantic lives are stalled. Ashamed because we mistake our loving feelings for a desire to reconcile, to be with someone who no longer wants us or with whom we ended a relationship.

I am going through a hard time with a very you g boyfriend. 9 years younger. And i have been crying and texting him and the last i did was called him. He said he was busy playing game and hung up on me when i ask if he still wants us.

You might think that you’ll feel better by lurking at his favorite coffee shop, but this isn’t the case. When you see him, especially if he’s with another girl, you’ll feel just like you did in the moments after your breakup. Stay away from these hangouts. It might help if you can get a mutual friend to warn you when he plans to be there so you can be elsewhere.

Being a happy and confident person is probably the most important thing when it comes to getting your ex back. You need to realize that happiness and confidence is something that you can get by working on yourself.  Here are a few ideas that will help you gain more confidence and become a happier person.

When it comes to reaching out to your ex, the best way to do it is through text messages. You don’t want to call him right away – better to let him build attraction in his mind before you two talk on the phone.

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When you’re feeling blue because you’ve been dumped, it’s tempting to just curl up on the sofa and wallow in your misery. But by doing this, you’re falling into your familiar patten. Instead, you need to break the link by doing something different. Keep yourself busy by doing something – anything. It could be something as simple as a puzzle or something as hectic as more hours at work.

We haven’t spoken to each other since then , I blocked him from every social media and all possible ways of communicating, I never really forgot him I loved him and I still do crazy. 2 months back , we spoke to each other via Instagram and felt like nothings really had changed. He still knows I love him so much , but he has a gf and they’ve been dating for 9 months now and she’s in Maldives and they’ve never met each other yet.She knows about me as he says he always had been talking about me with whoever he meets , he says he likes who I am cause I’m very different from the other girls and he loves my character. I surprised him on his 21st bday and he had some conflicts with his gf . He says me all the issues , I keep listening that supper his thought but it’s killing me on the inside, but I don’t have the right to nag and pick about the issues. They broke up 2 weeks back , and he’s been talking to me all day and night. Now she showed up 3 days back .. and they are sorting out problems.

Love her, admire her, respect her, make her laugh, desire her, make her feel beautiful, desired and worthy, validate her, make love to her every day like crazy. Put your insecurities aside, ignore the “previous boyfriend” issue and be a great partner. If and when she wants to talk to you about him, listen with a kind heart: the fact that she chooses to open up to you about it, means that you are already in a very good way. Don’t feel intimidated, feel trusted. Provide her comfort and acceptance. If you do all these, it will end very soon, before you both know it, you will be one soul.

Hi, my boyfriend and I were technically on a break when I started no contact. It was not a long distance relationship, but I am currently home from university, and I will not be back until early September.

Thanks. We did text yesterday he said he had a crazy week because his dog was stolen. I’m not sure how often we should text at this point in time? Obviously I want to rebuild connection, it’s a little hard because he isn’t much of a texter. What should I talk about to rebuild connection?

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His last text to me (before NC) was him apologising for being cold towards me and that we’ll remain friends at the least at the end of our break, and even made a joke about how I’ll have to cook for him in return once I return to uni. I only responded telling him “it’s ok”.

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We broke up 2 weeks ago and during the first 2 days of our breakup he became really sweet as if we’re still together and keeps on saying he’s tempted to get back again but says we need some space. He keeps saying he’s tempted but he’s not doing it because he wants to stand firm with his decision. He gets annoyed and says he’s done and he doesn’t want me anymore whenever he feels like I’m pushing him to get back with me. He tells me he misses me but when he feels like I’m pushing him he always says he’s done and we’re not getting back together. After a week I sent him a long ass message telling him how much I love him and miss him and telling him all our fun moments together and he replied in a very sweet and positive way. He said he’s hurt because he misses everything too and i’m his happiness and he’s lonely without me. He said he wanted to talk to me and call me but doesn’t do it because he wants to know his true feelings. He told me that we will try again when the time is right and that everything’s gonna be alright. We talked the whole day but when the night came I sent him a long message again and he just told me “That’s too long” and said “well I’m working on myself and I’m trying to move on” he felt that I was again pushing him to get back with me and said he was just slowly letting go to not shock me and that he’s done and we are never getting back together. It’s been two days since that happened and we never spoke again. I want us to get back together and I’m sure of it. what should I do?

Text messages are great for building attraction with your ex. They are short, they are personal and you can be sure your ex will read your texts. If used correctly, you can condition your ex to light up in excitement whenever they see a message from you. (Read this more detailed article on getting your ex back with text messages.)

The best, most effective way to let go of negative emotions is to point blank accept the fact that the relationship is over. It’s not something to pine over, something to hope for, something to obsess over – it’s gone.

Never forget… after the rain, the sun always comes out. It may be raining now, so take out your umbrella, keep walking, and sooner than you know, the sun will shine brighter, and will bring a smile on your face.

Well, perhaps it may have gone too far in his mind, but it doesn’t matter because people get impulsive and exaggerated thoughts when they are emotionally affected by situations. These things can be changed, but may require a bit of time for him to let go of it. Just give him some time and space for now, but you could continue to talk to him casually as a friend and at least let him see that you’re there for him.

If you guys have been broken up for about 2 months since, and she still has not replied you,you might have to consider the fact that she has moved on. If you’re prepared to wait it out and chase her again, then I suggest giving her a little more time before you try reconnecting once again.

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A hand written letter is a great way to contact your ex right after you’ve finished no contact. A hand written letter stands out in this age of digital technology. Of course, you can use an email as well.

I had a pretty bad break up. After a long fight I asked my boyfriend to block me and and not recieve my calls, he did that immediately. After almost 10 days I realised that I love him and want him in my life. He is a egoistic person and doesn’t text or call first, but after almost 45 days he unblocked me on WhatsApp and keeps changing his do(which for him is unusual). I’m tempted to text him, but I’m not sure if I should.

Getting over someone does not have a time scale and it does not depend on how long you have been together, time does not define the love you have for someone. Time is a great healer and it will get better. Try and get rid of all of the negativity that you have around you that will remind you or your ex partner and get some new things to help start your new beginning. Go out and have some time with friends and family and distract your mind from the thoughts of your ex. It will get better and it will get easier.

Often relationships end badly due to the fact they were unhealthy to start with. With that in mind, acknowledge what went wrong in the relationship and what you learned from it all rather than dwelling on the feelings you still have. These will fade as you seek resolution in yourself by reconnecting with yourself the way you did with that person. Soon you will look back and understand that you mistook a life experience for a soul-mate.