Many people swear by the no contact rule and will use it after a breakup. No matter what you are trying to achieve, in the long run, you want to be able to go through this one phase that is a hard and fast rule of break-ups.

It’s been a week now and we still didn’t talk but my question is.. does he still love me or wants me back? He is looking at me several times but for short (said my friends to me) and he told the teacher that he doesn’t love me anymore and that i maybe don’t have the chance to get him back. So what should i do?

We broke up just a few days ago. The guy is younger and has no experience on relationships nor has he kissed someone before him… Before we broke up he said he wanted the same “magic” we had on the beggining… Should I cool for a month before trying something with him again, like even just a friendship

I would add one additional observation, backed up by research findings. When couples have strong skills for talking cooperatively over differences, they find collaborative solutions to “those annoyng little ticks.” Often the solution comes just from more understanding of each other; sometimes small changes that each are glad to make also help enormously.

Soon after that I too went to pursue my studies in a different state and able to adapt to his schedule. he never stooped complaining to me that I never gave him space and time. I have fit myself to sccept less than 10 hrs call a day and 6 months once visit that what we initially had and yet he is not happy with the transformation. Things build up and we had a major break up. He was deeply hurt when I kept rubbing on his wound over and over again as I kept venting out whatever in me. He was crying and he was deeply hurt. (I did not do it on purpose but I was really frustrated). I had really hard time moving on. I could never lose contact from him. After 2 years, we talked as usual and we went out as friends. he then have graduated and into work life.

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago I feel so awful like if everything has gone for me, I cannot realize why he broke up with me, was so horrible the way he did to me. Last message he sent was telling me how much he loves me with a lot lovely words. Then I sent him a message back doing the same telling lovely words but he did not return back my texts he just ignore me. Then I saw something that it’s was a evidence for me. That this relationship he just wanted to put a distance with me, the reason it was because of his work and things just were complicated

Proof It Works: After being burned by her ex, Brittney Cason of Harrisonburg, VA, couldn’t get away from him. “It’s a small town and he’s the local DJ, so I’d hear him all over, even having my teeth cleaned,” says Brittney, a creative director. “Not a lot helped me, even diving into my old hobbies, because I just kept thinking of how we used to share them. But working out finally gave me the perfect way to burn energy, and it was insurance that next time we ran into each other, I’d look great and make him regret what he did.” Good for the heart, indeed!

While I Met Him And Saw Him On  Alternative Days Regularly I went To Meet His Mom With My Mom Regularly & Thus We Both Were In Love At 1st Sight But He As Per I Know Is A Bit Shy In Sharing Some Of The Things With Me & So I Thought To Send Him A Friend Request On Facebook .. Then We Started Chatting & Then On Whatsapp He Proposed Me.. But The Next Day Fortunately I Wanted To Go For A Walk And There Was No Option Except Him To Take Me For A Walk.. So We Both Went & Hugged & Kissed Eachother.. But 1stly He Kissed Me On My Forehead.. & So  Travelling at Many Places 20th Dec We Had  Reached Kolkata & 29th This Was The Last Day , Date I Had Seen Him, Met Him, Talked Personally Etc.. Now Here I Want To Tell You the Next Step That Was Happened.. Both Our Moms Dont Know About Us That We Were Committed & etc Uptil Now Also.. and he proposed me Through Whatsapp and etc.. bla bla..Because There Was No Time For Him or Me To Give Me Rose & Etc…  now i will tell u one more thing here, Yes,He planned Out The Future With Me & According To My Wishes.. He Was So True For Me I Realised When He Planned Out Future With Me & Everything That He Shared Included Me & My Wishes.. & Everything He Considered To Happen Was For & In Favour Of My First & This Was Whole Our Both’s Decision To Shift To A Different City That Was Us Being Together Forever.. But Then This Long Distance Between Us Was So Affecting That After 1 & half Month He Started Losing Out Talking To Me & That Was My Mistake.. I talked About The Past & The Reality That We Both Have Faced.. And Such Serious Matter Was so Deep That He replied very much less and from that time even talking to me on call gotten less .. I Thought He Was Busy.. But This Busy- ness Was not his reason at all….. now the thing is we both dont have any common friends also.. so once in the beginning he introduced his cousin bro to me on skype .. and so since then his bro and me started talking about me and my ex.. so the point is that his bro showed me all weak as well as strong points of my ex and i agreed bcoz he told me that he is the closest one to him uptil now… Now Everything Went Smooth But as I Said I Talked Even About Past Which Was My Weak Point And i agree was my mistake that i did it and now i come on to the break up Thing.. 

I’m just so confused because there was absolutely no sign that anything had changed. If anything i thought we seemed happier than ever. He text me a few times after the relationship ended 3 weeks ago but since our last conversation there has been zero contact for about 13 days now. And i don’t know how to deal with what’s happened so suddenly or to even try make sense of it. How can we have such a huge history and such a loving relationship then him just seem so cold and be able to cut me off so easy? No body that knows him or us as a couple can believe it. Any advice or thoughts would be hugely appreciated and how should i go about trying to reconcile with him. Thank you xxx

One additional thought. You might want to check out my post on infusing your interactions with positivity. It’s not just moths that are drawn to light. See http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201207/10-ways-radiate-positivity-and-be-attractive. Maximize the positives in your interactions, delete the negatives like criticism or irritated emotions, and the odds will be likely to shift in your favor.

This is the best article I have ever read on getting your love back! Thank you so much for spreading your knowledge. I know I will manifest him back and whenever I have doubts, I’ll remember the Law of Polarity and that all of our minds are one. Thank you, thank you, thank you! You rock! I love you!

Then you are still suffering from post-breakup denial and bargaining. Denial and bargaining are two of the many stages of grief after a breakup. It’s extremely common for people to want to get their ex back after a breakup. However, it’s not always the right choice.

It’s important to know that guys are very “visual minded”. When David heard about the dancing lessons, he immediately visualized Donna with those other men, dancing close together, and probably starting to feel something for one of them..

If you visited this page by searching how to get your ex boyfriend back that means you are emotionally lost and suffering from painful feelings of losing the person you love most in your life. Your heart is broken because you are lonely and you are getting memories of those lovely moments that you both spend together. Now you want to fix your break up, you want to get your ex boyfriend back, you want him to crawl back to you and propose you like he did before but you don’t have any clue on how to make that happen.

He did send me 2 happy birthday messages on the 2nd day to which I ignored both and he hasnt reached out again to me since then. I’m really afraid he’s never going to contact me again. How long should I wait until he calls me?

That means for the next year, starting today, you are going to not contact your ex boyfriend in any shape or form. It really is important that you cut him out of your life this way if you want to get over him forever.

There is so much wisdom in the this article and comments, thank you! I broke up with my ex last summer and nothing in my life has hit me so bad. She ended it suddenly after nine years. The bereavements I have experienced in my life do not even compare to the pain I have gone through although I know the end of a relationship can also be a bereavement. I am mid-40s and am worried it will take me years to get over her. I don’t want to protect my heart for the rest of my life. I really don’t know whether I can be friends with her. I feel there is too much feeling of my part, but I cannot cut loose from her entirely. I have boxed up all her photos, cards and letters etc but i can’t bear to part with them because she wrote me such lovely letters. Some days I feel good, other days rotten so I’ve come to the conclusion that there are just good days and bad days. I take each day as it comes. I know some of my feelings for her and the desire to reach out to her is because it is Christmas and New Year but I know despite the incredible pain she has caused me I know I would still take her back tomorrow if she wanted to get back together.

First I am sorry for the pain anyone is feeling over loosing their ex boyfriend, loosing anyone is tough. Second the misnomer of “get over” anything is possible. It’s not. You can however slowly move forward, it won’t happen overnight. The key is finding the real reason you can’r move forward, to do that I hope you have friends to count on. If you are reading then find someone here on 7cups you can lean on. Just talk to them about nonsense if you want. Play happy uplifting music, help someone in need. There are so many things good things you can occupy your mind wth. In the end you never want to “get over” that person. Everything has a purpose. Rejoice in the time you had, they will always be apart of you.

Such great advice! For the first time since my bf has been ignoring me hardcore, I smiled at the thought that he’s really just a ninny ? The jerk left without a word and won’t pick up the phone when I call… No explanation just disappeared (I assume he’s my ex now?). I think I can handle ignoring him now. It’ll be hard, but this is encouraging. Thanks!

how/why he wouldn’t tell me to move on and let go if he was talking to other girls on a dating app. calling them the pet names he called me and making possible plans with them while I was sitting in the next room. I am heart-broken that he would let me think there was a chance for 4 months

“When I found out my ex of two and a half years was cheating on me, I was completely done with him, but it took me a while to get over the betrayal. I could hear myself annoying my friends and even the new guys I was seeing by talking about it all the time. In the year after our breakup, I dated more people than I ever had, which put more distance between me and that sucky dude. Plus, after realizing that everyone was sick of hearing me talk about my ex, I made it a goal to not bring it up and forget about it. It worked!” —Ashley O.

Keep the conversation light and enjoyable, and try to steer it away from anything too heavy and emotional. Keep it short. For one, he will come to want more of your time and attention when he doesn’t have it, but it will also help you keep a clear and objective mind.

It can often be difficult to get over a relationship you were heavily invested in. My personal feelings are that reaching out and developing new friends and new experiences tend to move you past the older events that you hold on to. A new relationship won’t fix the feelings, but new friends and experiences often lead to you moving past the old feelings.

After being together for just shy of 7 years my boyfriend decided to end our relationship. I knew things hadn’t been right for a couple of weeks leading up to this, he had become pretty distant, wasn’t showing me any affection but we weren’t arguing and everything else in the relationship was good. I eventually confronted him, and we had a conversation that lead to him admitting that whilst he still loved me his feelings towards me had changed and he needed his own space to work on himself. I moved out utterly heartbroken as I couldn’t believe that after 7 years it would be that easy to end everything!

The reason most girls don’t do this is because they’re scared of being “mean” or “immature,” but when did having healthy boundaries ever become synonymous with being mean or immature? What’s “mean” about speaking through your dignified actions that you don’t have time for anyone that’s unappreciative of yours?

Greatzula@gmail.com did a love spell for me about 3 days ago and the results came out miraculous! My ex and I ran into each other! It was totally unexpected. He seemed a little nervous at first, but then we actually got to talking. Later that night he ended up apologizing to me for everything! And I mean EVERYTHING!:) I am so surprised yet I never knew this would come through for me. things are now working out perfectly. We have planned to getting married next month. I feel that without zula this would not have happened.

This is why calling your ex and asking for another chance seems like the obvious choice; you want him back and that seems like the way to do it. But, it’s actually not, and the reason for this is pretty simple.

You are about to walk a very fine line. On the one hand you want to be friends with your ex. On the other hand as long as you are friends with him the door is always there for a reunion. This simple fact complicates things and makes it harder to truly move on from a boyfriend.

We’re really young, I’m a senior in high school and he’s a junior, we’re both 17, so I know a lot of people are going to look down on me for this whole situation. When we were dating, I made him drawings and paintings and clay sculptures, tutored him, was his nurse when he was sick, and I practically lived with him because I spent every weekend with him and when I didn’t go over, he’d ask where I was because he said he missed me. I love really hard and have a tendency to love unconditionally, I forgive everything. So I gave him a second chance and forgave him and I realize that makes me naive, but I thought “everyone deserves a second chance.” We stayed together two days.