At this point, he may feel confused, maybe even having lost interest in you. But he does not want to deal with the thoughts and emotions of it. That’s why he chooses to avoid this topic altogether whenever it is brought up, which may be reinforced by the fact that you do not pursue the matter whenever he says he isn’t sure. If you do not wish to walk away from this relationship, you should not allow him to give you further ‘I don’t know’s for an answer and ask him to tell you honestly how he feels.
The good news is that there is potential for ending up with reunion and a better-than-ever relationship ahead. Here’s five steps that can save folks from crashing down the waterfall, enabling them instead to find solid ground and a bridge to a better future.
If you start dating straight away you will be doing it for all the wrong reasons, so wait a while before you start looking for someone new. The likelihood of a rebound relationship ever working out is very remote and, because you still won’t be over your ex yet, it really isn’t fair on any guy that you date.
Don’t make the same mistakes. Remember that reflection period after your break up? Well, it should come in handy now. When you’re with your boyfriend again, remind yourself of what went wrong and try to prevent it from happening. If the problem was that you fought too much, then remind yourself to calm down when you have the urge to pick a fight. If your problem was that you were mean to his friends, try to be nicer, this time — your man should be worth it.
Because of that, I’ve compiled a list of ways to move on when you’re still in love with your ex. Yes, it hurts to move on, but trust me when I say that it’ll hurt even more if you keep holding on to the past. Here’s how to move on from your ex boyfriend:
A true apology should be structured as follows: regret, responsibility, and remedy. The first step indicates that you are sorry for what you’ve done. The second step puts the responsibility on you without making excuses or blaming someone else. The final step offers to make it right or change your behavior in the future. For example: “I just wanted to apologize for when I blew you off all those times that you wanted to spend with me. You must’ve really felt neglected. I’m going to try really hard from now on, to make it a point to do more things with you so you won’t feel like that again. I’m glad you gave me your point of view to realize that.”
Never forget… after the rain, the sun always comes out. It may be raining now, so take out your umbrella, keep walking, and sooner than you know, the sun will shine brighter, and will bring a smile on your face.
Write down goals. Make a list of realistic steps and a timeline to help you focus on anything but your break up and your ex. A sense of accomplishment will boost your self-esteem and remind you of your worth. Working hard towards something for the future will mean you’re less focused on the day-to-day and more determined on the overall big picture.
The first time I got dumped I was 14. It was my first boyfriend and after about 6 months of dating, he walked me to class, handed me a note and that was it. Tears streamed down my face in math class as I read, “I feel like we’re just friends that hold hands.” In other words, Mr First Boyfriend dumped me because I wouldn’t go to second base with him.
Many people swear by the no contact rule and will use it after a breakup. No matter what you are trying to achieve, in the long run, you want to be able to go through this one phase that is a hard and fast rule of break-ups.
Treat your relationship like a new one. Remember that your first relationship together was not a successful one; it ended in heartbreak. Treat the second time like a new relationship, building new rules of engagement.
My boyfriend just broke up with my about two and a half weeks ago. Even though we’re only 17, our relationship was very mature and strong. We both talked about future plans such as marriage and kids and we were both on the same page. We have been dating for about 1.5 years. We were such a strong couple, completely in love. Our relationship was very serious. He gave me a promise ring and we always said we were going to be together forever. His family loved me and my family loved him. We were really a great couple, having mutual interests.
My girlfriend and I were together for a year and 2 months and she kept repeating, daily, that this is the best thing in her life, and we’re meant together. We are very close. I’ve personally never known a person I want to be with more than her, and she expressed the same in visits, writing letters, and texts. Around Christmas, while she was staying with her family (she lives in the adjacent country but we travel constantly to see each other), and after a small discussion about where she might get a job and where we would live together, she turned completely and said (on new year’s eve) she can’t do a relationship anymore, she wants to be alone, that she’s a toxic person to me (she isn’t), and never wants a relationship again, ever, with anyone. She did not explain the details why making such a heavy decision, she said she feels inadequate, and that I shouldn’t contact her any more if I want her to stay. I am very confused. Now it’s been twenty days since we last had any contact and it’s killing me, I miss her and I wish we could talk. I have no idea what to do.
Now, the texting rules as mentioned in the video I linked you to, will do a lot of the work to make her WANT to hang out, and as soon as she WANTS to hang out, then arranging to meet should be very easy. I’ll talk you through what to say to set up a meet with her regardless, though.
My ex was a fraud, who pretended to be in love with me to get what he wanted, and then he pulled the fade away break up. I found myself in disbelief when I realized that I was caught up in a fantasy. That he never loved me, and nothing was real. He used the power of suggestion, to inflame my imagination, which was very intoxicating, got me hooked, and then turned off the switch, leaving my heart in utter confusion and darkness. I was with him for 2 years, walking around in a fantasy, in my own head, naive as all get out. So, how dose someone like me get her mind wrapped around what has happened, that I was taken on the ultimate roller coaster ride, unable to get off, until HE was ready to stop the ride, because I was addicted to his love, lies, BS111111
I wish that I could advise and answer your questions, but I have too much to say to type it all out not enough hands to type or hours in the day. I would also need more details. This is why I cannot give specific advice/answers in the comments.
If you’re calling, texting, or showing up in places you know he’ll be, you are letting him know that you are still into him. In other words, you are letting him know that he can go do what (and who) he wants and you’ll still be there. You’re hooked, and he can reel you in at will. If you’re available all the time, there isn’t any sense of urgency to get back with you.