I’ve been through 3 years with my ex girlfriend. We were having a good time before and discuss about our future and last 3 months she just texted that she’s sure that she wanted to marry me. And yet suddenly something happen 1 week after her birthday party. At that time i found shes hiding our photo in instagram then i ask her why you do that ? Why you hide me in your social media. Then she found her reason that a week after she say that she needs a break. Than the reason is she feels bored and wanted to be alone. And im being needy at that time.i just keep asking her to go with this relationship despite we are too deep inside. With her and her family.

1. Habit: A big fat vacuum exists after a breakup. Something (someone) is missing, and you have to readjust to being on your own, without a partner to share things with. This creates an acute yearning for that person, which is easy to label as “it must have been love!”

It will help keep your mind off your ex (probably)- When you are busy you have less time to mope around or think about your ex. Instead of being completely miserable and depressed you are doing something constructive and dare I say having a bit of fun?

It’s easier said than done, but by far the easiest way to get over an ex is to start thinking about someone else that’s new in your life. Think about other men and set your desire on them, and you’ll be shocked at how quickly your mind turns to the new guy (and not obsessing about your ex).

I broke up with someone (and really hurt him in the process), because all I felt was sexual attraction and got bored with him. I know, it was a horrible thing to do. But now I have actually developed deep feelings for him, and I think he is returning them, but I’m not sure. How can I make this work, I am scared he will reject me…

Alright, assuming you successfully engaged your ex boyfriend and got a decent response you can move on to this section. I’ll admit that you will have a distinct advantage here if you had a long relationship and made a lot of great memories. If your relationship was brief then this part of engaging your ex may be a little bit more challenging. However, that doesn’t mean anything bad it just means you might have to get more creative.

My boyfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago, and were actually texting everyday just to argue with the mistakes we had. He wants me back but I do want him to realize his mistakes first. We have 1 child, and he is so irresponsible. I do understand him because he is having a hard time to get a job but, I’m too annoyed with his attitude. Yes he is handsome and so attractive with the girls, way back a year ago, he fooled me many times, he had sex with so many girls. He hid our situation, and actually I am a battered girlfriend, and now, I can’t resist myself to say words that I know can hurt him. I don’t have trust anymore. That’s what we’re arguing about. I am very transparent with my feelings and sometimes I just do want to kill him, but I really really do love him. He is the father of my son, and I want us to be a happy family. From the past few days and months, granted that I can feel some effort from him to build my trust again but I cant move on from the past it’s because, even a little argument with the simple things makes my trauma from past gets back and I can’t help myself to say a lot of words that can hurt him. I don’t know how we can fix our relationship, and how can I build my trust again. I’m afraid that anytime he can find someone else, but I know I did my part. I can also feel that he loves me but not in the same way.. please do help me,:((

There’s this guy that had a crush on me,and i also loved him.We where in the same class.He’s a shy type,he couldn’t tell me his mind.people started calling me his name.we quarrelled cos he’s friend also had feelings towards me.he once askd me if he (his frnd) luvs me and i said he doesn’t.we both quarrelled cos he beared a girl’s name.He blocked me on all social networks.It took us 10 months to reconcile.He came back first.bt right now he hasn’t said anything to me abt dating.I want to know if he still luvs me

But in almost all the cases; her new relationship will be a rebound. And it will end. That’s what happens with majority of rebound relationships. Read more about the nature of rebound relationships here and how to get her back when she has a boyfriend here.

Thank you for your share and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I know how hard this can be. I think that in order for us to answer your question of whether she’ll give you another chance, we’ll have to delve deeply into the reason behind her distance. What pushed her away and are these things fixable? If you need help identifying this and developing a strategy to turn the situation around, please feel free to let me know, I’d love to work with you.

The key to using text messages is to be very subtle. Never ever directly talk about your feelings or about your relationships. You want them to associate text messages to something positive and fun. Here are the rules for texting your ex.

Don’t talk about your relationship the first time you see him, unless he brings it up first. Otherwise, wait until you’ve spent time together a few times and have had the chance to make a good impression on him as a friend.

He broke up with me because we had been arguing for about 3 weeks on and off and he is not willing to forgive me for that, and he didn’t like the fact that I was being harsh with him. I recognize that I was, but there have been periods of time when he’s been cold towards me too and I forgave him and moved on.

Relationships are like roller-coaster ride there are some good romantic days while there is some tough days as well. Breakups are also part of any relationship there are many couples who broke their relationships many times and then they get back together. Breakups are not always the end of relationship sometime breakups can provide you opportunity to get back and create stronger relationship than before.

Me and my ex fiance were together for 2 years and we recently broke up about 3 weeks ago. Idk what to do to get her back, I tried telling her how much I missed her and love her but she doesn’t want to talk to me when. I’ve bought her flowers and gifts and left them at her doorstep, I freak out because she’s seeing other guys. When we were together she might have cheated on me early in the relationship which I found hard to get over so there were trust issues, and she also said she stopped loving me because I didn’t move by her instead of the 30 minutes that I lived from her since she wouldn’t move out of her grandpa’s house. Does this mean I should up and move down there? She wanted to be friends but I couldn’t do it, is this a good thing? I just now talked her into adding me back on Facebook as a friend and convinced her to unblock my number, does this mean I should try to talk to her as a friend then work my way back in? She says she wants to talk to me but doesn’t want to see me anymore, would it be bad just to talk for awhile then try to get her to hang out with me? There was always some issues and stuff. Does this mean I should stop smoking for her even though it’s over? I don’t think she’s seeing anyone right now, any advise would be nice.

You and your ex probably both made some mistakes in how you handled things when you were in a relationship. The best course of action is to work on improving yourself independently of your ex. Change anything you don’t like about yourself and let go of any hurt feelings from your past relationship. If you carry those with you, they’ll have a negative effect on any new relationship.

News flash! Same person. You will get back together, and the honeymoon stage will last for 2.5 seconds before you both realize even the bedroom looks the same. If it was not working for you before, it’s not going to work for you now. Sex is the one thing you share with your significant other that you do not share with anyone else in your life. Make it a priority on your list.

Avoid any behavior that can be construed as harassment, stalking, or otherwise illegal or unethical. In many places in the world, you can be put on a restraining order or even in prison if your behavior crosses the line from romantic pursuit to stalking.

(Side Note: The system I have outlined on this page will work for teenagers in high school, married couples, people who haven’t seen each other in six months or two years and people who just got out of a long distance relationship. Basically, I am saying this system is universal!)

Hi Adirubbo, this is actually a really common frustration for women in the dating scene (a guy giving you his number and acting more passive rather than pursuing) and I’m working on an ebook/video training to help with this exact issue. But to give you a quick answer now, you did great. You let him know what kind of dates you liked going on and then he became more confident in how to please you, that’s when he started taking charge. The more confident a man feels that he can make you happy, the more take charge he’ll become. The trick for a woman is always: “How can I be pro-actively receptive in this dynamic?” Keep looking for those opportunities and you’ll be fine. And if you want to learn more about this, make sure you’re signed up for email updates. Hope this helped!…

My boyfriend of 1 year and 9 months and I just broke up last week. I had always had trust problems from previous boyfriends that carried over into our relationship. I made him cut out all of his friends and girl friends and not go to parties or go out anywhere. He knew I had trust problems and wanted to help me learn to trust him so he did all of these things for me. However, I kept making him cut out things in his life because I felt that the more I asked him to do for me and if he would do it for me, the more control I had and the more I knew I could trust him. We began to fight every week about my controlling issues. I would find something I didn’t like that he did and yell at him until he changed it. He broke up with me because he couldn’t handle it anymore and I understand why he did and I feel horrible about it. I have been trying to take my mistakes and grow from them and give him the space he needs. I want him to be able to have friends of all gender and do what he wants without feeling like I am holding him back. I do miss him obviously but I feel that the 30 day period will bring me clarity and help a lot. I understand what I did wrong and would never do that to anyone again. However, I need opinions if this would be worth another shot or if it seems like a break up that just needs breathing space instead of full on ending it.

My question is: what’s the best timing to send the e-mail? Isn’t it overwhelming around holiday time? Shall I just extend NC until he’s back in town? Maybe I could combine it with wishing him happy holidays and happy birthday?

You’ll have to decide if you still want him back. Since you’ve been on no contact, complete it first. It would seem like he does miss you to some extent so you could always contact him again when you feel ready.

Yes, there are certain rules even for your mini date/meet up or whatever you want to call it. As stated above, you want to keep this meet up as casual as possible. Don’t plan to meet over a nice dinner. I suggest getting coffee at Starbucks with chairs and couches where the two of you can just sit and talk. Another great idea would be to meet up at a park and go for a walk together. Honestly, the dates I have enjoyed the most wasn’t anything super romantic it was just when I was enjoying the company of someone else and walking around.

Denver clinical psychologist Susan Heitler, Ph.D, a graduate of Harvard and NYU, is author of Power of Two, a book, a workbook, and a website that teach the communication skills that save and sustain positive relationships.  

Thanks for sharing your story with me and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I would like to help you, and I invite you to schedule a coaching session with me. I’m confident I can support. Please visit this link: http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching

Take things slow, and don’t pressure her to get back together if she isn’t ready. Work on your issues and prove to her that you can be the man she wants you to be and things would probably work itself out from there.

I don’t want to let her slip away completely as I want that potential chance.. so should I call her in 2 weeks and want to talk about the breakup, and maybe getting back together once we get some stability back in our own lives… or should I just leave it all up to her to get in touch (which one friend says may be a very long time given how hurt she was and now she is trying to move on).

Deep down inside you know that life is beautiful and you will find love again. It could be with your ex or without your ex. But whatever happens, you know that you deserve an awesome life and you will get it. So whenever these thoughts come to your mind, stop them and tell yourself exactly what you want from your life. Things like

It doesn’t matter who ended the relationship first and it also doesn’t matter what causes your breakup. The thing that matters is there is always some hope in getting your ex boyfriend back. There is light at the end of every dark tunnel and you can also get your ex boyfriend back doesn’t matter since how long you broke with each other. [otp_overlay]