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You will need to begin by sorting your thoughts out. Even if there’s a chance, some distance is first required before re-initiating contact with your ex. Distance does not mean time frame of the breakup but rather, the amount of contact made during the particular time frame, and the changes you’ve made to impress her. Right now, she needs to deal with the emotional trauma of losing a child. She is pushing you away probably because you are unable to provide the emotional support she requires, and by constantly pestering her, you lower your own chances because she will eventually lose respect and feelings for you. I would still recommend no contact first, and to figure out where you need to grow as a person, before thinking about winning her back.
Well, since January would have been some time since your last contact with her, you could always drop her a casual text to ask her how her New Year has been and see how she responds from there. If she doesn’t respond positively, it might really do you justice and a big favor to walk away from this, and focus on moving on.
You’ll have to start by being more honest with her, and making an attempt at showing your sincerity at changing to convince her. She may not think of you as much towards you but it doesn’t mean she has lost all feelings for you. If you really want her back, make those changes first, and let your actions show her that you’re capable of doing so.
The No Contact Rule- No texting, talking or stalking your ex for a full month. That is 30 days of essentially cutting your man out of your life. Remember, don’t dig into his life and don’t Google + or Facebook him.
It would do you better to walk away from this since he has already prioritized another female over you and has even expressed his disinterest, which might have been caused by the loss of spark or interest after so many years.
You just started dating a new guy. You are in that honeymoon phase and everything is great. You are constantly complimenting him and giving him acknowledgment that he is wanted by you. Basically he loves hearing that you are interested in him. However, as time goes on things begin to change. You don’t compliment him as much because you don’t need to land him anymore. This is when the problems begin for him.
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Yes, I think for a relationship like yours, it can be easily mended if both parties work at their differences together. It’s normal for relationships to reach a point where arguments happen more often due to both parties inevitably taking each other for granted (by becoming too comfortable, impatient, etc). The issue here isn’t that you guys have differences and need space to think if the relationship is worth it, but rather to both sit down together and sort your differences out.
You have to figure out whether his intentions are out of concern as a friend, or he actually likes you still, or just wants the benefits (hookup). Regardless, it would best for you to give him some space, considering you don’t know what his intentions are, and he may not know either. Apply the No Contact Rule and focus on yourself in the meantime. If he likes you, he will come back.
NC would help because right now although she’s still in contact with you, the fact remains the same that she won’t give you another shot. You have to give her some time to change that train of thought and by showing her you’ve changed. This is hard to see when she’s still in constant contact with you. Complete NC and work on your issues before coming back and asking her for a second chance.
Hey Ryan, so I’m not worried that she’s seeing other people, atleast not yet. She didn’t date much before me and from everything I can tell, she isn’t dating much or at all right now. She initiated the breakup and asked to still be friends, but she’s got an icy demeanor towards me just about anytime we interact. She’s said that she’s mad at me but refuses to tell me what about. Something is bothering her but she’s not telling me and I promise I’m not calling her everyday, begging her or anything like that. It’s been a couple months like this and it’s after no contact ended, how can I get her to start communicating with me?
That’s great to hear! Well to answer your question, respect is very subjective and the reason people start messing around with others isn’t so much out of the lack of respect in my opinion, but when a need or requirement in the relationship isn’t met, thus causing the person to seek it with someone else. It could either be physical needs, emotional needs, or others. If you want to avoid this happening in the future, you might need to ask yourself and think from her point of view and wonder why she cheated the first time around, and prevent it.
And then he jumped into another relationship 6 days later after we broke up. But I didn’t know until I changed my mind gave up the work oppotunity and back from oversea. I was pretty upset and stop talking to him. Nearly two months later, he messaged me asked me how have I been and we had a short personal conversation. And then he contacted me pretty much every month while he still in the new relationship. I stalked his instagram and noticed he broke up with his new girlfriend at the beginning of September but I didn’t react to it.Two weeks later, his band annouced they have a gig soon. I wanted to go but I couldn’t decide go or not. A few days later he messaged me again , we had a short conversation and I asked him can I go to the gig or not. he said yes. Two days before the gig he messaged me said he could send me home after the gig although it was late but I rejected. I end up stayed at his house. I have feelings for him again so I messaged him for hungout again two weeks later and we spend the whole weekend together.
Hi I’m lonely!! I moved outta state 2 yrs ago and just a couple of days ago my ex tells me out the blue he has a women but I’m still his friend.. I called him this a.m and he tells me he’s been with his nephew’s Auntie for 5 months and he cares for her…. Shud I move on or kp trying
My ex texted me Merry Christmas on 23Dec, I replied Thank you. Later, he updated his status and unblocked his page to me. His status told me He’s sick, should take medicines – those I bought for him. I read all of the status and decided to let him go, that’s why I texted him Farewell, wished him all the best. He replied “thank you and he’s not with anyone now”. On receiving the messages, I started the NC since then. On 30Dec he texted me Happy New Year, I waited 1 day to check it and didnt respond. Since Christmas, I updated my page with fun and neutral info, showing how I enjoyed the holidays. On Jan2, he liked one of my status. I’m confused. I’ve been struggling before the no contact to live the life before him, now I still suffer. What should I do next? I once imagined my life without him, felt very bad and hurtful, but got to the point that I should accept it.
I struggle with getting over her and letting go completely and finally. Most of the time I still wish there was a chance this was a rebound and maybe she’ll check in from time to time. But I don’t know how to not think that. She is still what I want, is that even right of me to think after everything she has done with her 60 days?
He doesn’t want to talk much about the breakup or the reasons, he’s never been one to open up and share his feelings, but he says there’s no going back from what happened. Yet, when I ask him if he sees a possibility of us working out in the long term, he says yes. I can’t tell if he means that or is just saying it, but what should I do to get him back in the long term? I have already broken the rule of trying to convince him and have tried remaining in contact with him, but I am going to stop contacting him completely now.
“I took the quiz just for fun thinking I wasn’t going to learn much about my recent break up. One week later after following the tips, I got my ex back just like my quiz results said would happen! Almost spooky.”
Nothing is certain and there’s no way of knowing for sure, but this quiz is based on years of experience in factors that make getting back together easier and it can give you an idea of where you stand in terms of what chance you might have of getting back with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend after a break up. Please start below and be sure to answer the questions honestly as the situation really is and not how you want things to be so that you can get the most accurate picture of what is really the case. Again, nothing can be promised or guaranteed, but it’s helpful to know the probability and difficulty or ease you will have moving forward with trying to get your love to come back to you after a break up and this quiz will help you in that area.
Honestly, this is tough for me to give advice on. You were faithful but he was not. I would say think very carefully if this person is worth getting in a relationship with again. Personally, cheating to me is a big no no and I don’t think I could forgive that so easily. But hey, that’s me.
Alright, so the biggest thing I want you to focus on for the no contact period is the fact that you are using this month to become the best version of yourself that you have ever been. There is a 100% chance, especially if you are ignoring him, that your ex is going to check up on you during this period and instead of sulking around feeling sorry for yourself he is going to see a strong, sexy, fun-having woman!
Oh my goodness. You’re literally in the same position I’m in!!! I, too, met this guy online and he was so incredibly sweet the first few times we talked. We had crazy chemistry and almost each time we talked it was so loving and affectionate. He also wrote love songs about me. For literally three months I’ve been planning to visit him. And it never worked out right away. Well, recently he wanted me to see him because he was going to be leaving the country soon for work, and I couldn’t see him due to my overprotective family trying to prohibit me from seeing him because he’s someone I met online. Well, shortly after our phone call…he texted me saying, “Better to have your support from a distance. Lots of love.” I completely broke down. I wish I could just go back in time and change e everything. He blocked my number after I sent him so many loving texts and emails. I just have a feeling he might miss me but I doubt he will ever want me back…but I still believe there could be hope for us. I’m praying everything works out if it’s truly meant to be.
thank you! i agree, but he keeps saying he needs time and space and as of right now, he thinks too much has happened between us that can’t be erased. i was going through a hard time and that negativity may have brought him down, but he never told me how he felt until he ended things so i never had the chance to fix that. i’m hoping giving him this time and space he wants will make him realize it, but do you think it may just be too far gone in his mind? i really want a second chance since now i know what his problems with me were, i see how easily fixable they are. i just don’t know how to show him that!
Well Its been 3 months. I did reach out with a text to wish him Happy Holidays. He responded with the same. He then has been liking my Facebook posts and even commented. I feel he wants to be in contact with me.
I been strting this guy for one year n than he went through my phone and sow that i was chatting to this other guy bt nothng was goin on betwn me and the other guy…i begged him so many times after our break up he goes back to his ex galfriend and they dating again…we stil chat on whatsapp and facebook but everytime this galfriend comes over his place he would tell me n than block me…he says he stil loves me bt love the other gal more…i love him so much but dnt know what to do…plz adive me plz
I researched a lot on this section and discovered there are two types of very different methods to making this important phone call. The first method is the “I was in the neighborhood” and the second is the “week in advance.” I don’t have any bias towards either method so I leave the choice on which one to use entirely up to you.
I don’t know. We have a baby together but I hurt him really bad. He says he needs time to figure out what he wants. He says he thinks of me sometimes and misses home sometimes but I don’t give him time to actually miss me because I bother him everyday. He doesn’t trust me at all. But he was so so inlove with me. He says he doesn’t know if he loves me. Then when I say how could he not love me he says “I never said that” what?! I’m so confused ?
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