Ok, so those are pretty much the most basic things of the big NO-NO’s of the no contact period. Now we get to the good stuff. Honestly, I am getting excited here because this is where you start taking the first steps of getting your ex boyfriend back. Granted, they are baby steps but they are still steps in the right direction.
Something else to mention here. In most cases if you are ultimately able to get your ex back, it is most likely going to happen face to face. That’s because you can affect a girl’s emotions better face to face. Because remember, as a woman she makes her love-life decisions based on emotion – so that’s why any getting back together will most likely happen face to face.
hey my boyfriend and I had just broken up 2 weeks ago after being together for 2 years, we have both 17. I’m from china but I study in the uk and thats how I met him. since I have got back after the break up, its been really difficult because I have to go to lessons and sit next to him. I feel so tempted to get back together or try to convince him back into a relationship. we both still care and love each other, but we couldnt be together because we argued way too much. I wanted to give it 2-3 months before we get back together so we both have got over all the negative stuff. do you think its a good idea? and how should I act around him when I know there is something more than just friends between us.
We belong to different religions but the magnitude of love was (and hopefully is) so much that we decided to marry each other and even gathered funds for the same. She gave all her funds to me with all her trust.
You could text him on that day, wishing him all the best and a comforting text, which may help break the ice and ease on the emotions he may be feeling. See how it works out from there, and continue accordingly.
I’ve been through 3 years with my ex girlfriend. We were having a good time before and discuss about our future and last 3 months she just texted that she’s sure that she wanted to marry me. And yet suddenly something happen 1 week after her birthday party. At that time i found shes hiding our photo in instagram then i ask her why you do that ? Why you hide me in your social media. Then she found her reason that a week after she say that she needs a break. Than the reason is she feels bored and wanted to be alone. And im being needy at that time.i just keep asking her to go with this relationship despite we are too deep inside. With her and her family.
Since you’re with the same person, it can be easy to strike up the same relationship — and that’s exactly what you’ve worked on not doing. “Give yourself space and time to get clear before you rush back in and fall into old patterns,” says Shield.
Trust builds slowly, but can be damaged quickly. Don’t expect your ex to welcome you instantly with open arms. It will take some time for them to fully trust you again… but if you know that they’re the one for you then it will be worth it to sacrifice your ego for the greater good.
I really love your blogs, they make a lot of sense, and I need your help with something. I’m 39 years old and I’m engaged to a woman I adore. Here’s my problem, she nags me all the time. I want to be there for her but it feels like she’s always demanding so much time and energy. I know you’re supposed to “compromise” in a relationship but it seems like I’m making all the sacrifices and I’m starting to feel like this relations…
She might still be attracted to you. She might still feel that you are a confident attractive guy. But she does NOT SEE HERSELF BEING WITH YOU IN THE LONG TERM. She just thinks that you are both not compatible.
It was just a mask. Beware, as if you both go back to your old ways of arguing and dealing with problems, you’ll get back to where you were – apart. Don’t let that happen. Don’t get lazy and don’t take things for granted. The first few weeks of being together again as also the first few weeks where he’s most likely to “run for his life” and leave you or just decide that you shouldn’t have gotten back together in the first place.
It has been almost 2 years and she seems farther away and ever. I have a hard time following the rules I did the 30 day no contact and all I got was I love you and I Miss you but you need 2 understand that I am trying to protect you. Having a hard time letting go of someone I love very much and thought that we could be together forever. Understand I’m not blaming her. Just a dumb guy didn’t realize what he had and pushed her away my heart is still for that. Pretty sure I have lost all chances or her return
I need advice. We met on match.com and only dated about 3 weeks but had a great connection from the very beginning. Plus we share a lot in common (we agree about a lot, graduated high school same year, kids are same age). But he broke it off because 1) we moved too fast (didn’t have sex but went further than we intended by date 2) and 2) we’re in different places in our lives – I’m going through a divorce and he’s been divorced for years. I’m devastated. We ended things amicably last week (I didn’t fight it, though I wanted to) and we haven’t been in contact. But he’s been back on match.com already. My question is, what are our chances for trying again in the future? Did moving too fast derail us completely?
The trick for you will be to play it cool and to just focus on having a good time. Remember we are trying to prove to an ex that we can make them happy! This date should be about proving that you can both get along just fine and not fight or argue even though you are no longer together. You shouldn’t under any circumstances bring up past issues.
An insightful counselor will be able to help you discover your blind spots, but only Jesus can bring you into full acceptance of your true spiritual position and help you to accept responsibility for the course you must take.
my bf left me for another girl.he keeps telling me that i am nothing to him.he wants to b with the other girl.he has no feeling for me anymore.this has started more than one year ago.by this time he also speak to me but not on his own mood or to rebuild our relationship.he does so becz i request him to be with me at least for some hours or some minute… we talk only 2 or 3 days per a week…but I can’t stay without him I want him back.plzz help me…if this is possible for me to get him back as my bf again??
Thank you for your share. I’m really sorry to hear about your current situation and I know it can be real tough trying to get back with an ex after years apart. WIthout knowing more, I’m going to be hard for me to assess. I really encourage you to book a session and we can sort it all out.
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Okay, one thing you going to her house is just messed up. No way you are gonna get her back with that. And Girls have PMS all the time I’m sure she didn’t mean it! Just you need to text her not go to her house or call her or set up a date or what ever! Tell her how you feel and if she feels the same way then call her. Take it step by step, little baby ones, not engagement on the 2nd date, that will freak her out! Let her know you’re there for her whenever you need her!
This is the part where most people screw up. No contact will be of no use unless you try to make a positive change in your life during this time. If you just want to stay at home and just be miserable for the next one month, things are not going to change even after no contact period. Yes, you need to grieve after a breakup and yes, there’s some benefit in spending some time alone, grieving and analyzing your relationship. But at some point, you have to go out there and do something with your life.
It’s great to show that you are a high value man (read: masculine, charming, witty, adventurous etc). But if a guy ‘overshows’ his value (i.e. he demonstrates cool things about himself too often), it will backfire on him.
This is one of the worst things you can do – because all that does is signal to him that he’s in control and that you’re not going anywhere – which means there’s no reason for him to get back together with you.
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So I have completed 30 days of NC other than a couple little things here, she text me on thanksgiving and I didn’t reply till the next day cuz it was her birthday so I killed two birds with one stone. And then the only other contact was when she was coming over to pick up her dog from my house. But I made sure that I wasn’t home and that someone else was there to give her the dog. So after the 30 days I sent her a good reminder text and she responded well. A few days later we spoke a little about how our dogs are (since I have one and she has one) so now I’m just waiting a few more days to try and send another good reminder text or something along those lines. Is this a good idea? I know you’re not suppose to let fear rule anything right now but I just fear that she is only replying because she said she wants to remain “friends.” During the 30 days NC I have been proactive on improving myself by hanging out with friends more, picking up some hobbies, and going to the gym. But the fear that I will end up in the friend zone is what gets me. Any suggestions or more tips?
My ex and I split up about a week ago and I also moved out of the country we were living in together. It was a mutual split up, we had huge highs and a loving relationship but we just kept arguing a lot and couldn’t seem to fix this dynamic even thought we loved each otehr a lot. I now think we made a big mistake. Should I follow the NC zone rule or just get in touch now? ALso it is xmas coming up…
I guess in a very rare case. If your ex is willing to work on whatever caused him to cheat. He/She has agreed to do whatever it takes to rebuild the trust. And you are ready to forgive him/her and work on rebuilding the trust.
NC would help because right now although she’s still in contact with you, the fact remains the same that she won’t give you another shot. You have to give her some time to change that train of thought and by showing her you’ve changed. This is hard to see when she’s still in constant contact with you. Complete NC and work on your issues before coming back and asking her for a second chance.
You have to avoid getting panic at all cost. This is because panic can trigger the feelings of worry and hot temperedness. Both these feelings are your enemies and they can kill any chance for getting ex back. It is a cycle, first you get worry for the health of your ex and then you start sending lots of text messages to your ex. You have to do your best to eliminate panic as much as possible. This is the only way to can stop yourself from making mistakes.
For real, change yourself for the better; let him see that and he’ll want to be part of it. But you won’t let him back into your world overnight – even if you really, really want to get him back, don’t. You both need some time to appreciate each other for other things then sex. And when the sex does come, it better be mind-blowing. Then again, don’t be clingy and don’t call him every day after that – love all over again – instead, take your time. Let him think about you and worry a bit.
According to research, the number one cause of the breakup of romantic relationships is failure to communicate. If your relationship was otherwise happy, this problem can often be fixed by setting clear expectations and openly discussing frustrations before things explode in a big fight. Other issues can be harder to overcome, like infidelity or jealousy; but with work and counseling, even these types of issues are possible to work through.
It’s been a little over three months since my ex and I broke up. I’ve completed no contact, given her space , never begged or been pushy did the right moves based on advice given on here and other places. She’s still will barely talk to me (we work together) and will barely reply to text messages. Back in September I purchased a Christmas gift for her and even though we broke up I still sent it to her on Friday. She replied thank you for the gift. You didn’t need to. Merry Christmas! Attached to the gift was a clean slate letter. She made no mention of it. I told her she was welcome for the gift. I asked her if she was going to be up for talking soon to clear the air. She never replied back. She isn’t seeing anyone, nor did we have a bad breakup. Since the breakup I have found out that she is mad at me about something I said but I don’t know what I said or who I said it to and she won’t tell me. We’ve had some positive interactions as of late at work, but she’s got a wall so high up now. Where do I go from here? Three months, no contact completed, clean slate letter given, space given, showed activity on social media sites as well and not much recoconcilation has occurred. What can I do? Or is it time to accept the fact that I’m not going to get her back?
I need help. My long time boyfriend has suddenly got me pregnant and has immediately moved in with a girl. I still am in love with him and this is a time I need him most. He tells me its too late he now has an instant wife. What do I do?
Why do you want to reunite? Is it mostly because he’s putting so much pressure on you? Or maybe your kids are, or your family is? This needs to be your decision, not anyone else’s. Do you truly still love him and see a future together — or are you just worried about a single income, about being lonely, or about dating again? Consider whether you’d get back together if everything else in your life was going fabulously. If not, then you probably don’t really want him, but just a relationship. Even if it’s not a good one.