My girlfriend hit me out of the blue on Sept 17th with I realized it this week while you were away that I am needing my space. We talked, i asked her what she was saying, was she saying good bye. There was a pause and then she said I need you to take a big step back, it has to be really casual and I will call you. We agreed. I saw her for most of the day on Oct 1st. a few days later when we were texting she said she really needed to focus n her girls, getting them through school and prepared for university. (they are grade 12. She said she really cannot focus on dating right now. About 3 weeks later she asked me if I’d com e over and collect my things from here garage and back yard as it was going to snow soon. I agreed and we planned from to drop by on the weekend, which I did. We went out and had a coffee for about 1.5 hrs and talked. It was like we hadn’t missed a beat. 4 days after that she texted me to say she hoped my minor surgery had gone well and to take care. I replied with a short, “its getting better now”. She replied immediately and said that’s great. I did not reply. Its been 45 days now that neither of us has spoken one way or another. What do you think the chances are for me to get here back?
Talk about kissing. It is possible that your partner may not be thinking about kissing. You can bring kissing to their mind (and encourage them to kiss you) by bringing up the topic of kissing in conversation.
This tip probably seems a little counter-intuitive, but trusts me when I say that it works like a charm. This method is psychologically proven to increase your chances of getting back with your ex. The reason for this is simple – people want what they can’t have. By not communicating with your ex girlfriend, you create for yourself an aura of independence and confidence. These two traits are very attractive.
Change your thinking about this entire situation. Just give up control, accept the possibility that you may not get them back, stop worrying about the outcome, and relax – if you are following my advice you have already improved your chances of getting them back – take comfort in that if nothing else.
So take your time with this course. You have a full 90 days to go through it. Why? Because I’m that confident the information within delivers on my promise to get your girlfriend back. And I’m inviting you to take me up on that promise without any risk whatsoever.
Evolution and the desire to have the strongest possible offspring, dictate that your girl gets attracted to guys she sees as superior to herself. All women have this mechanism wired into their DNA in order to keep the human race strong.
You have a small chance because you’ve already done two nc right? And you still ended up being emotional and now apologizing to him.. Either move on or really stick to genuinely changing your life for the better for yourself, not for him before trying to rebuild rapport..
Think about what went wrong. While you distance yourself from your boyfriend, you’ll be in a good position to reflect on the problems in the relationship. If you want to get your man back, then you have to figure out what it was that went wrong, so you don’t do it all over again. The problem could be simple, or it could take a bit longer to figure out. Here are some of the things that could have gone wrong:
Start by not contacting him any further. Apply No contact to give yourself some distance from the situation and to give him space. Spend this time to work on yourself and improve your life. Right now he is dating someone else, and you should not interfere, because it will lead to him thinking you’re desperate and start getting annoyed or resentful towards you. If you really want to be with him, you’ll have to wait until he contacts you first, or if they break up. Doing anything now related to him will only push him further away from you.
Make a game plan for addressing the problem. Before you can make a move and start talking to your ex again, you have to think of a way to address the problem. Once you’ve figured out what it was, you can think about all the things you can do to fix it. If it’s relatively simple, then great, but be aware that some problems take a long time to fix.
In this case, you have to find out whether you have already healed. Is there no risk that your past hurts will return if you get back with her? Can you promise not to bring back the same issue once again and allow the two of you to have a fresh start?
Similar to the last point I made about not contacting your ex girlfriend, you also need to resist the urge to be extra nice and send gifts, flowers, etc. While this may win over a very small minority of women, most of the time this will just confirm all of your ex’s reasons to break up with you.