If he’s out sniffing for a new chick…. by all means, let him have his fill. Ignore him like he is nothing to you and it will not only translate to him that you speak with you actions and that, unlike him, you actually have boundaries and self-esteem, but it will drive his mind up a wall.

It still baffles me to no end when a woman is still sleeping with her ex, and is under the impression that this is the answer to get him back. Truth: He’s sleeping with you because you’re willing, not because he’s thinking about getting back together. I don’t care what kind of new tricks you’re showing off in the boudiour, he’s only in it for the s-e-x. What you’re getting is confusion, false hope, emotional chaos and maybe an STD because he’s probably dating other women. And the thing with being friends….what do we usually do with our friends? Confide, talk about who we’re dating now…do you really want to do that with your ex? Do you want to hear about which girls he thinks are hot on match.com? If you can truthfully say you have absolutely no emotional attachment to him at all, and it doesn’t hurt one bit, knock yourself out. But, in the beginning, when you’re still hurting and grieving, cut your ties completely. You need the space.

There’s only one way to get your ex back to you and make yourself happy, self-sufficient, content and excited about life: build your separate life from your ex, and find it as a source of endless enjoyment and passion. Live life to the fullest. Love yourself first and foremost. Believe that you deserve love and someone who treats you with utmost respect.

It will hurt but will help you the most is to distract yourself. Hang out with friends, let them show you that life is more than boys. Don’t TRY to make him jealous, MAKE him jealous by seeing what he no longer has. (:

Give yourself a makeover. Breakups hit everyone’s self-esteem hard. To help yourself feel attractive and confident, do something to pamper yourself. Get a haircut. Grow a beard. Buy a new pair of shoes. Buy a new outfit.[6] Do something nice for yourself to make yourself feel better.

Getting over with someone doesn’t have schedules. For some, it takes years, months, or days. If it has been a year, ask yourself: “Why am I not over her/him?” Is it because I was hurt? Is it because I was happy with our relationship?I recommend you list the good and bad experiences you had with that person. Maybe by looking at the list, you can find your answer.

The no contact rule is basically no initiating contact at all for around a month. This means no texts, no phone calls, no notes and definitely not trying to show up in placing where you know he will be.

One of the biggest problems women have after a breakup is saying too much. Yet while there’s no mystical speech that will suddenly make your ex want you again, there are definitely some things you can say that will keep your ex open and receptive you, even after the relationship ends.

When you no longer have access to your intimate partner (post-breakup), your brain doesn’t fall out of love with them… it simply continues to be in love with them, but you no longer have access to them. And, like a crying baby who doesn’t have access to his mother that it so yearns for, our minds “rejector stimulus” is on overdrive. We simultaneously feel the pain of abandonment, the deep craving for a “fix” of our drug (aka partner) of choice and our once-regular hits of dopamine and oxytocin are nowhere to be found.

Great post! Very thorough and thought out. I wish I had this when I went through my rough breakup years ago. One tip a friend of mine gave me was to do something nice for yourself every day. Simple but it helps.

I’ve been with my ex for 4 years. My first love and vice versa, and we intently spoke about marriage. We broke up a year and a half ago because I was too stubborn to listen to him. He told me I needed to open up more, to communicate better but being an introvert this was extremely difficult for me…so he left. I’ve been trying really hard since and got better at it.

basically i really like my ex, even though we only went out for three days, like he keeps trying to make and effort to talk to me and said i have banging boobs. Does this mean he’s moved on or still into me?

That’s it folks. That’s my advice. If I was able to get over my ex, I am sure that you will too. Even though it feels like it, it is not the end of the world. There is still someone out there waiting for you who will find you no matter what.

So see the positive side of the breakup and do the things you couldn’t do while you were with him. Wear a short dress in public if you want, go shopping all day long, eat Indian food – do whatever the heck you want!

PSYCHOLOGY: This one is more complicated, and this is where you can put your magic to work.. Psychology is actually pretty simple if you know what you are doing. The only problem is, people act in the wrong way to get their results, and mess up their chances in the process. However, if you KNOW what you are doing, you can play your ex’s feelings like an instrument.

I’ve been in this relationship on and off for 5 &1/2 years. I cheated when we first started dating when I was 15 years old and a bad bad person. I’ve changed so much but all he see is the person I use to be. He can’t forgive. I want to spend the rest of my life with him but he told me two days ago that he doesn’t want to ever be with me again but he wants to be “friends with benefits” which is not what I want. I would love to be only friends but I’m so in love with him it’s hard.

Another thing to figure out is whether or not there is still room for both parties to compromise. You might have broken up because you are too workaholic and career-oriented that he started to feel ignored.

Aug2008 we began our relationship. Like all it had its ups, downs, twists and its turns. I moved in with her into her family home to make it cheaper on both of us and help save for a place of our own. 2009 I lost my job to an injury. I hated myself and became heavily depressed. We still had a lot of good times but I still became more depressed. Living in my girlfriends family home, her working, me not being able to provide. Looking for work was immediate and then eventually became less and less with depression. I grew moody and I wasn’t in my shell of a body much after so long. 2011 my mind had twisted arguments and I felt like everybody was against me. I left her. I left the person that stood by me through what I was going through. Though in instances we were both to blame for agreements and so on. I had the audacity to leave… May2015.. I still love her.

What do I do I want him back so bad and just how everything happened so fast like very fast and him confusing me by his words and his actions not matching. My heart and gut feeling says to hold on but I feel so stupid and taken for granted and advantage of. We talk from time to time but not really I’ve seen him once since the Austin trip in person besides on messenger which he will call and then request a video chat. What do I do and has he really moved on since he’s ignoring me more for this girl?

I took up drums because I know I can do it alone, but I still get the enjoyment of being with an instructor. I’m not completely alone, yet not reliant on my friends to come and save me. Any kind of hobby that requires a group or a teacher is a good idea. MeetUp.com is the best place to find interesting groups and things to do.