So 2 years ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years because I was nervous about settling down and had just graduated college and felt that I needed to be on my own for a little bit. The instant I broke up with him I knew that I had made a mistake but knew he hated me so much I tried to hide my feelings. Well now I can’t hide my feelings anymore and I am still in love with him and realized what a great relationship we had and brought the good out in each other. At this time he is currently dating someone else but we continue to speak weekly and say how much we miss and love each other. I am currently on the West coast while he is on the East coast. I gave him a decision earlier this year that I would move home to be with him. Well after many weeks of talking to one another and him telling me how unhappy he is in his current relationship, he said he can’t ask me to move home. I was devastated. I am actually moving home in a few weeks due to a family member becoming ill. Do I try to win him back when I move home or leave it as is? I know he still loves me and I still love him.

You can also do it again by developing these attractive traits once again. You can only make this happen by adopting healthy lifestyle or in simple words I can say by becoming best friend with your body.

Taking break from the relationship is the best thing you ever do. It doesn’t matter who broke the relationship first or if your ex boyfriend is dating with someone new if you keep your connection with your ex boyfriend it will make your boyfriend angry and he will going to hate you more than ever. This is the reason you have to take break from your relationship and ex boyfriend. Cut off all the ways of contacting to your ex boyfriend and don’t ask about your boyfriend from your mutual friends.

Me and my other half split up 5 weeks ago last sunday, he split with me 2 days after my 21st birthday. Yes he was my first love but I am completely smitten by him. When he broke it off with me he didnt give me much of a reason but gave me a kiss as he got out of my car. I got a text message saying “he doesnt want anything with me anymore, its a clean break and not just a break” but ive had no explination and im incredibly worried that he thinks the grass is greener. I made the mistake of texting him because i felt like i needed closure and he didnt give me that. After 2.5 years i deserve that right? He keeps telling people that hes “ignoring me to move on properly” and i just dont understand. 2 hours before breaking it off with me, he was telling me he loves me and misses me. And wrote in my birthday card “to my one and only” was this all a lie? Hes a very “led astray” person and his family like to drink and ever since this happened hes been drinking more, hes seen me once and not even made eye contact with me. He could never talk to me and convided in a mutual female friend who i now fear hes trying it on with. Hes getting on with his life whilst mines in the gutted. I really dont know if he loves me or has done for a while. Im so confused.

You have a fear of failure. Many times, people want to get back together to prove they didn’t do anything wrong, and that they can “make it work this time.” If all you’re doing is trying to feel that you can make a bad situation good for your own personal reasons, move on. Regardless of who did what to whom, you can’t fix the past; you can only learn from it to improve your future.

While his current situation was inherently upsetting, Peter again gradually saw that he was reacting through the lens of his family-of-origin realities. Loving responses were not freely given there. Asking for his parents’ attention felt demeaning and emasculating. 

So me and my ex dated for a year and 3 months, we were awkward at first but then we got very comfortable with each other and with time knew everything about each other and we told each other things nobody else knew. But since I’m a few towns over and we don’t go to the same school, the distance was hard. We had to resort sky ping and snap chat etc. But my problem is that I broke up with him and I feel like it’s all my fault. He has a new girlfriend now and I feel like it’s a rebound relationship but I’m not exactly sure. Anyway my point is, I love him with all my heart but after the break up he had called me very rude names that made me cry a lot and feel bad about myself. So my question is is my ex worth it? Should I still be working on trying to fix things with him? Because he just completely is a jerk to me all the time.

This sort of young adult searching is popular with couples. A 2013 study from the Journal of Adolescent Research found that 44% of young adults ages 17 to 24 have gotten back together with an ex in the last two years. The key might be personal growth: Our younger years are full of on-and-off relationships, or what researchers call “relationship churning,” due to the uncertainty that comes with that time in life. For those like Lucy who decide to the reconnect through the churn, the success of the second-time relationship often reflects how much each partner has grown.

I would honestly recommending just talking to him casually since it’s something you can’t seem to walk away from. At least by talking to him, even if things don’t turn out well, you may get some form of closure that you lack. Also, your fights with your current partner may be causing amplified feelings of you missing your ex so it’s something you should take note of. Perhaps ask yourself first, if your current relationship is a healthy one, and secondly decide if your feelings towards your ex is based on the bad experiences you’re going through or something more.

Make sure you sit down with your ex face-to-face to discuss how things will change. An in-person conversation may give you a tiny glimpse into your future as a renewed couple. “You have to be attuned to what they are doing in response to you,” says Dr. Davila. For example, if you’re chatting about how the two of you will communicate better and your partner keeps interrupting or blaming you, then you know the second time around won’t be any different. Actions always speak volumes in comparison to words. 

Picture this: you have two people, a master and a slave. Who do you think is higher in the social hierarchy? The master, obviously. By accommodating your ex girl’s every desire or demand, you behaved like a slave (inferior) and she behaved like a master (superior).

Let him date the other woman. It doesn’t matter. You can still approach him as a friend and start spending time with him. If you don’t contact him for a while and then message him, then he will start talking to you again as mentioned in the 5 step plan.

I say all that in the last paragraph to make the point that if face to face is how getting a girl back generally happens, then you’ll need to set up a meet with your ex when you communicate with her via texts and calls, especially after she moved on (if it seems she has).

Amazingly though, a few months later, we were (and are) back together and engaged. We couldn’t be happier, and it’s all because of an old friend of mine from way back, who showed me that there’s a specific get your girlfriend back process which you NEED to follow if you are going to succeed in getting your girl back.

Right after a break up is when you are at your emotional peak and I don’t mean a good emotional peak, I am talking about anger, hate, basically everything that Yoda from Star Wars said to avoid. The no contact rule is going to give you time to work on yourself and calm down a little bit so you can think more rationally instead of emotionally.

Casually hang out with your ex. Do something non-committal like have a drink with friends or play miniature golf, including him or her with others. Make it something friends and first dates alike can do. And whatever it is, keep it fun and skip out on the serious talks for now.