Make Him Want YOU Back! 6 Tips
Breaking up with someone you truly care about is a horrible experience, and yet everyone seems to give you the same advice – just forget about him and move on. Of course, this can be useful for people who broke up with their other half for a good reason and don’t spend their days pining over lost love – but what about people who know they’re missing out on the person they’re meant to be with? Sometimes, you need to fight for your relationship, and you know deep down that if you could just approach things the right way this time, it’ll all work out.
Here are some helpful tips on how to get him back in a healthy and effective way – without changing everything about yourself, or giving up on the things that matter. Remember to live your life, stay confident, and exude an air of casual freedom, and you’ll be sure to have your ex back in your arms.
1. Start With the No-Contact Rule
The worst thing you can do after a breakup, be it messy or otherwise, is constantly text your ex, baring your soul and complaining about how you simply can’t live without him. Try to follow the no contact rule for as long as possible, and avoid texting, talking, or stalking your ex. Right after a breakup has happened, you’re both in a very emotional condition, and by avoiding contact you’re giving yourself time to calm down and think rationally. What’s more, the lack of contact may make your ex-boyfriend realize just how much he misses you. According to Exboyfriendrecovery.com:
“Whatever happens DO NOT CAVE IN if this contact comes before the allotted 30 days.”
2. Have Some Fun
You may be wondering what to do with yourself during those weeks when hanging out around your ex is not advisable. The answer to that is simple – live your life and have fun. Though you may be tempted to stay at home and binge on ice cream, instead socialize, and enjoy yourself, make your ex think that you’ve easily moved on. While the idea of moving on so quickly may seem unrealistic and implausible to you, it’s sure to get your ex questioning himself, and thinking about his own ego. One of the best ways to get a man back into your life is to make him think you aren’t interested. At the same time, by forcing yourself to act as though you’ve moved on, you’ll also begin to heal, and those fake smiles will start to feel real.
3. Improve Yourself
One thing that haunts us all after a serious breakup – regardless of whether we want our ex back or not – is what is going to happen when we’re presented with that first run-in moment. The way to win at any awkward interaction is to simply show off how awesome you can be. Make sure that you’re at the top of your game by taking care of your appearance – getting a haircut, and making yourself look and feel amazing. What’s more, take the free time you might have to chase some of the dreams that you might have been keeping on the back-burner.
4. Find a Reason to Run Into Him
Once you’ve successfully survived the no-contact period, while taking extra-good care of yourself, you’ll be able to confront your ex and show him exactly what he’s missing. Of course, you’ll need to be careful about how you choose to do this, as you don’t want to start stalking him or showing up on his doorstep. Instead, the run-in should seem completely coincidental. Figure out where you’re most likely to run into your ex, and then make sure you keep dropping by from time to time until you finally run into him. For example, if there’s a particular bar that you know he likes, go there for drinks sometimes. Do not hang out on the benches outside of his work office or suddenly decide to join his gym. Your presence needs to seem natural.
5. Stay Casual
No matter how amazing you might feel when you do finally run into your ex and see how incredible he looks, it’s important to keep relaxed and avoid getting overly emotional. Just as you don’t want to seem too excited, it’s also important to keep a cool-head and prevent yourself from begging him to give you a second chance. To be safe, it’s a good idea to speak with him for a few minutes, then simply find a reason to excuse yourself with a smile. Chances are that you might hear from him a few days after your accidental run-in, but if you don’t, then you can always send him a casual text expressing how good it was to see him and suggesting a catch-up in the future. According to Allwomenstalk.com:
“If they ask how you are, then don’t overdo it, or go to extremes, but simply fill them in on your job and how things are going with your family, friends, etc.”
No matter what you do, keep things casual and let him know that you still have power and confidence. Don’t beg, don’t chase, and don’t wax poetic about the past – instead keep him guessing and show him just how alluring you can be.
6. Let Him Chase You
Most of the time, an ex-boyfriend constantly assumes that his previous girlfriend is going to want him back. So remember, when you do run into him, make sure your tone is friendly, and don’t be overly clingy. The more you make it seem like you don’t need him, the more he’ll start to wonder why you don’t want him back. From that point, it’s just a matter of waiting for his ego to convince him to start chasing you. Men don’t like to feel as though they were easy for any women to get over, and if you’re confident enough that you can meet him for drinks and then sit at the table with nothing but friendly intentions, he’s going to be motivated to chase you.
That doesn’t mean that you can’t smile, flirt, and welcome any advances that he might make – but be prepared to avoid giving in too easily. You’ll want him to think that you were just happy to be friends, so that he’ll push the relationship into becoming active again.