Seriously though, if you see any book, product or article that guarantees that it can get you your ex back 100% of the time you should stop and realize that you are probably about to look at something that was made up just to get you to buy it or read it. Ironically, a lot of the stuff out there that makes these ridiculous claims offer no value and leave you feeling taken advantage of.
Hi Ryan, dude where are you? I really need your help. I’m really trying to not a mistake here man. It’s been maybe half a month since the NC.. it’s been working like a charm.. couples days ago my ex sees me at work and days I looked good and like I’ve changed..also that I was happy. She text me that same day saying how much she missed my presence in her life, how she missed her best friend. I didn’t respond and then she text me a photo saying remember the good times.. also said she was going thru her phone deleting pics of us and didn’t know which to keep. I then replied I miss you too. We started chatting back in forth and remembering all the good things. She texted me all night. Then the next day says she loves me and misses.. I tell her too. We talked a lot about how much we loved one another. Don’t know if that was a right move ..yesterday she sends me a message at work that was a song. “Baby while were young , let’s do what we want, I want you, you’re mine and I don’t care who’s know it, I’m down for you” just a few things she sent me! I’m confused because after work I waited to talk with her but she ran out quickly and I’m sure when went to meet up with someone else. She didn’t go home last night. She also didn’t text me anymore.. so confusing what’s going on.. not sure what to do or expect! Please help dude! I really want her back and I can’t tell if I messed up the NC rule. She definitely has been seeing someone else lately. Please write me back soon.. she wants to me up tonight to go eat. Don’t know if I should go
Another thing that really annoys me about you guys (yes I am talking to you) is that you think this no contact period alone will be enough to get your ex girlfriend back. Trust me it won’t be. You are going to have to do more (which I will be covering.) Think of the no contact rule as the first big stepping stone to success.
I really recommend reading Models by Mark Manson. Your girlfriend was right about at least one thing: You liked her way more than she liked you. She was ready to separate, meanwhile you’re super aware of if she has logged into Facebook. Mark identifies the kiss of death early in relationships: being needy. I recommend the whole book for more detail, but it sounds like this relationship was doomed because of neediness. Check it out, I think you’ll find it really illuminating
Let your ex see you having a great time without him. After enough time has passed and you feel that you both got some perspective, you should start giving your ex the opportunity to see you having a great time. Starting going to the parties where he goes, or run into him with a friend at his favorite coffee shop or bar. Don’t be too obvious about it, but let him see you with your other friends and remember how much fun it is to hang out with you.
Women will always find a man who is fit more attractive than a man who has let himself go. In fact, one of the many reasons a girl may have broke up with you is because you stopped taking care of yourself.
“You look amazing. You smell amazing. You look like you are doing great in your life. You look like you’ve been working out. You look happy. You look confident, sexy, fun and attractive. You look like a catch. Why did I break up with you again?” – Your Ex
Your priorities before might be the reason for your break-up. It could be that your relationship suffered a toll because your priorities were imbalanced. It should be noted that while there are needs, there are also wants.
It may be possible there are numbers of things that your ex was doing that make you uncomfortable. For example, she may leave all her crap in the bathroom, and you get angry for not having any space for your stuff. Or she may yell at you for watching television and drinking a beer when you are in the mood of unwinding yourself.
The right approach is the biggest key to winning your girlfriend back. Unless you can address your breakup from just the right angle, you’ll end up running yourself over and over into the same brick wall of rejection.
Marriage is a tricky one. After years of being together it can seem monotonous and boring. People settle into a routine and then start to resent eachother after a while. A marriage takes work, from both parties. The trouble is trying to get that other person to want to want to work at it. No mean feat. If you are a woman it is all about understanding the male mind and why they do not want to open up and talk. You have to use the male lingo to get any headway here.
More often than not if you have gotten this far in your conquest to get them back they are going to respond back positively. Except this time you are going to engage them in a conversation but make sure that you don’t go too fast. Remember, you still have to be the one to end the conversation first. Lets look at how a conversation like this might play out using an example from above:
Prior to that though, ask yourself why she didn’t show respect, it probably has got to do with the way you acted around her. If you were too needy in the previous relationship with her, you invited her to walk all over you. If that was the case, you will have to work on your masculine qualities and remove the needy behavior and instead present her with a more confident version of yourself. You should have done this work on you during the NC period.
There is a tremendous sense of loss your girlfriend feels after dumping you. Because even though she’s the one who ended things between you, she also had to cut a big portion of her life away by making the decision to let you go.
If you’re out in a big group, let her see you talking to other girls — just enough to make her a little bit jealous. Just don’t overdo it! You don’t want her to think that you’ve completely moved on.
Johnny really is the real deal, his coaching literally changed my way of thinking and in essence my whole life, am now meeting more beautiful and fun women than i ever thought possible,An absolute legend.
Of course, we are dealing with your ex girlfriend here so while you may have at one point gotten her comfortable with you the fact that you are no longer dating her probably causes her to leave her guard up.
That hasn’t proven true so far, which may be because, generally speaking, exes staying friends isn’t that strange of a concept for queer women. As a writer named Phoenix wrote for Autostraddle in 2012, plenty of gay women break up, spend some time apart, and then later rekindle their friendship. This is how it goes:
If you’re busy pursuing your own interests, your ex may see you doing it — whether you’re going for a run or reading your favorite book in a coffee shop, if she sees you doing your own thing, she’ll be impressed.
I’ve gone on dates with a few women now and slept with a couple. There’s even one girl I’ve seen 5+ times, but no matter how much I try none of these other girls match the feelings I had with my ex. I know it’s still early in being single, but its getting harder and harder to drown out the voice that says it might not jsut be me panicking. Maybe we did have something special that could be worth fighting for.
So the evening ended with nothing much happening. She walked me to the door. We hugged one last time. I took a short elevator trip to parking lot, and as I opened my car door, I heard something behind me. She was out on her small balcony, waving to me and saying “good-bye.” I waved back, said good night, and drove back home.
I have just broke up with my BF after our 5 months relationship together. We never had fight or argument along 5 months. Everything went very well and we both were very happy. He suddenly told me he wanted to be just friends but with lots of different reasons like I am too sweet, I am too good and he isn’t good enough as a BF. But I found out 8 days later that the real reason of breaking up was he going back to his ex who he was with for 2 years. They broke up nearly a year ago and she asked him to try again. Their relationship ended because a lady said he didn’t try hard enough… My Bf feels like it was his fault of ending his relationship with her so he seemed excited to get her back and told me he is preparing to try and change because he was happy when he was with her.. He left me to go back to his ex and now he is very happy having her back…Do you think is there any chance for me to get him back?
If you’ve been searching about breakups and getting your ex back online, you’d know that there is a thing called no contact rule. It’s simple and very effective. All you have to do is stop all the communication with your ex for a short period of time. This includes
At one point you convinced this girl to date you. That means for a certain segment of time in her life she probably obsessed about you every single day. This means that she formed an emotional attachment to you and she does care about what you think.
Hello guys this is testimony that this NC stuff absolutely works! Ryan you guys are geniuses dude. I got my girl back! I didn’t think it was working at first and I panicked a lot during the whole NC process. She even started messing with her ex and one other person. So my advice if you really know and want your ex back then keep pushing everyone! it works with time. also focus on yourself. This website is very helpful. Now to Ryan.. thanks dude again. I do have one last thing I need your help with. I realized that she clearly didn’t respect me or our relationship before because she was able to so easily start messing around with someone we both know and someone I didn’t like. Yes we are together now and things have been great! My question is, how do I get her to respect me more? she has not done anything to disrespect me since we got back together , however I want to know how to build strong respect from her, so that she is loyal to me no matter what? if she had respect, she would have been loyal and not cross the line with other folks while we were broken up.
Breakups suck. Everyone knows that. Whether you’re the one who instigated it or not, whether it came out of nowhere or it was a long time coming, relationships are supposed to be happy places, and when they end there’s always at least some lingering sadness — and in some cases, there’s a lot. There’s, like a ton. Right after a breakup, people act out — they self-harm, or they drink recklessly; they try to sleep with someone else immediately in a misguided bid to dull the pain. They retreat into themselves and stop going out, stop enjoying life, spending their days binge-watching their favorite shows or listening to albums that used to make them happy but now only make them sad. They’re haunted by the ghost of their ex, almost — their old feelings cloud their judgment and suck away their ability to be happy.
In the end, be yourself. You can become a better listener, a more attentive person, or just learn to understand her needs, but in the end, you’re still you, and you should make sure she likes who you really are. Don’t try so hard to show that you’ve changed that there’s nothing left of the old you.
However, if you can be honest with yourself, you can admit that you don’t NEED your ex in your life – you CAN live without them, you CAN be happy without them, and there ARE other very attractive, wonderful people out there for you.