Please give me some advice on what more I can do to move on? I have been seeing my friends and family, going out, I have even tried dating, I have taken care of my appearance and taken up new hobbies, I have taken my ex and his friends/family off my social media and blocked myself from communication with him. Nothing is helping and I do not want to feel like this anymore, I miss him all the time and think about him constantly because we did so much together and were really close for 7 months.
“Getting over an ex is never easy. But the way I did it was with my girlfriends. They help me through everything. We stayed busy hanging out. And basically they were there for me when I had nobody else. I still think about my ex, but I know that he’s just not worth it.” –Stacie, 16
After 9 years in marriage with my hubby with 3 kids, my husband started going out with other ladies and showed me cold love, on several occasions he threatens to divorce me if I dare question him about his affair with other ladies, I was totally devastated and confused until an old friend of mine told me about a love doctors called DR. Goko who help people with their relationship and marriage problem she introduce me to these doctor who really help me when I contacted him, he get back my husband in 48 hours so he started apologizing, now… Read more »
Hlo ,on 27th June he broken up with me,we spnd lot of time together,he is my first love and everything for me,ours relationship was to good evn in school all teachers know about tht we are in relationship, all students said made for each other ,I think about him always every minute ,I was wanting a2nd chance to solve the problem but he decided to breakup evn he doesn’t give any reason why he want to break up with me,i had sent him lot of msgs to convenience him,bt I also force him to continue the relationship otherwise I do sucide and all ,I know there is my mistake and I’m feeling guilty about this ,I was do this only because I don’t want let him go bt after doing this he starts hating.now he don’t evn want to talk me ,it’s hard it’s realize that I will never be with this boy again ,he is the boy who does not want to make me cry bt now he hates me because of my reason bt later I apologise him and try to convince him and pleased him to talk evn as a frnd but he doesn’t so please please please give me some advice how I get him back because I don’t want to leave him in any condition
The reason he is not yet back is that there’s too much resistance and tension between you because of your break-up, your arguments, hurtful exchange of words, your negative feelings for him, and his negative feelings for you (caused by your negative feelings for him).
hi kelvin, I broke with my boyfriend before six months after long relationship means five years he is 27 and am 28. we live in distant to work and only met to holiday and to break.we had no any sex history during those years I said to him sex must be after marriage and he said ok .before a year I said to him i don’t want him anymore but not from my bottom but the reason was we were in distant specially I was working in harsh environment plus and community and i was always want him in my side means I was always waiting my boyfriend to visit me but he was always busy this was the reason. and his friend call me and ask why i became like this and i understood my fault and I was calling to him but he was ignoring me and one day he was picking my calls and we were talk and regret each other and i back to my family to searching job and within two months we dated only two days but I need more date with him but he was busy and I was going to his work place and asking him why ignoring my calls and he said that he need clear cut I said why and we’re plan to date and to talk about it but we didn’t met. As he said now he was waiting my calls first but I was trying but he ignoring me after that I always messaged to him but no respond and again I was going to his work place with gifts he was surprised and dated to the next day and we did and I was asking why he was ignoring my calls he said he don’t want me any more he need freedom without stress and expose him self new hobbies like smoking cigarette ,drunk alcohol and chewing stimulate plants and i did no contact to 30 days and i did text to him no respond and what can I do next
If you want to get your ex back, I get it, but he will eventually SHOW you (especially if you take my advice and you’re not responsive to his bs), that the breakup was a good thing. And even if he cheated on you and you feel rejected, guess what? You just rejected HIM.
The first thing you will need to do is to find out if he still wants you back. If he has really moved on and is not interested in getting back together with you then you could be wasting your time or just end up embarrassing yourself in front of him.
“I can see now,” Peter explained to her, “that in my depression about work I became totally self-centered. I withdrew from you, so no wonder you felt angry and distanced from me. As both of us withdrew from each other we lost our sexual connection. I felt desparate for attention. Then I took the ultimate wrong turn by seeking sexual attention from an infidelity. Big mistake! I’m so glad that now I’m looking for a job that will be a better fit for me. I think I’ve found one, and I’m thrilled at the prospect.”
One thing to think about is whether someone is playing a power game to manipulate a return from the ex, or whether their process is one based on soul-searching and skill-building aimed at real personal growth.
Me and my ex had been together for 3 years in a long relationship. Also like to mention he was my first love visa versa.However now has been 4 years of not being in a relationship we talk once in a blue moon. I still have feelings for him. I just don’t understand if he does or doesnt he says he dont want to be with me but also says he hasnt found the right one after me . Also he feels that due to the breakup which i had left him for some family matters and i had move onto another man had effected him lots and always gets flashbacks he also says if that did not happen we would of been married by now.. I still love him and i feel like he doesnt want to go back to how it was as i left him. Not long ago he even asked me if i still mention him. Why, i dont know. He also asks to see my picture in a while. Can you please tell me what to do.
I am in a New serious relation with someone else but I can’t help but think of my ex at times. My ex is now married and I want to love my new partner whole heartedly but don’t find him as attractive as my ex.
“I got over my ex by simply listening to all my good friends, and letting them find other cute new guys for me to look at. Like they’ve always said to me, ‘It’s not like good guys aren’t there; you just haven’t found them yet.’ I listened to happy, peppy music, like Taylor Swift’s ‘Picture to Burn.’ That song really helped me through some tough times!” –Taylore, 15
Keep the conversation light and natural. Treat your ex like an acquaintance. Ask surface questions, not questions about who your ex is dating. If asked how you are doing, say you are doing well. Make sure not to oversell it. You don’t want your ex to think you are faking.
Hi, well I have a lot memories with my ex and that’s the hardest part to just let go. We broke up almost 3 years ago and we’re still single. We still talk and yes, we’re single for all this time since our broke up. I don’t know how to describe our relationship, it’s too complicated. Yes I’m still in love with her as much as before. She said she still love me too. But she cheated on me and that’s the reason we broke up. I’m so hurt and that’s the most painfull memory I’ve ever had. We would marry each other if we could, but unfortunately we couldn’t. She said she regret for all what she’s done. I forgive her, but it’s too hard to comeback. My self refuse to accept her as my girlfriend while my other half need her to be with me because I can’t lie I love her. Is she my true love? I can’t even thinking about love if it’s not about her. I don’t know what to do. I think I will always alone for the rest of my life.
Do you really want him, or do you miss being in a relationship? Are you looking for validation (especially if he broke up with you), or a sense of feeling ‘good enough?’ Is he really the right man for you, the one who understands you and appreciates you and just gets you, or are you afraid of being alone, afraid of not being able to find better, afraid of putting yourself back out there on the dating market?
So, now, take a slow and deep breath and say these words to yourself: “There is nothing to worry about. I will be with him soon. I just need to erase all barriers to loving him. I will also quit calling him my ex-boyfriend because words have power. I call him MY LOVE.”
Think about these questions. Don’t be too critical of either him or yourself. All this emotional bullshit, arguing and blaming each other for crap is one of the reasons you might have broken up in the first place.
Again, showing her that she’s got you 100% by the balls like this will make her bored, which equates to reduced attraction that contributes to a break up. It’ll also indicate to her that you have no other viable dating options (because if you did have such options, why would you be so concerned with stressing your commitment?).
Another good tip on how to get over your ex boyfriend is to simply keep busy. We all have familiar patterns that we fall into when things don’t go our way. For example, when my first husband used to get depressed, he’d near-instantly head to the fridge and reach for a bottle of beer.
As I was going through this site, I saw your comment and read it. I don’t really have a suggestion for your problem, but I felt like your story and my story of break up was kinda similar. We broke up 2weeks ago after dating for almost 3years. He was really a nice guy, my first true love and he’s the one I broke my virginity to. He wanted to marry me but I didn’t want to because we were different (although I was in love with him) plus my mom wouldn’t allow me. So he called it quits over text messages. I was so sad and depressed because I really loved him(and I still do). I begged for one more chance but he’s too hurt to take me back and he said I took him for granted. He wanted to be friends but I acted to clingy by writing all those Romantic texts. Later on we fought over the phone and hadn’t contacted for around a week. Then few days later he showed up again through txt asking me if I am still mad at him. He said he wants to be my friend and also he will help me if I have problems but he doesn’t want me back anymore. I don’t know what does it mean.
There are so many ways to contact a person these days, it’s almost ridiculous. You can call them, text them, facebook them, tweet them, and so much other stuff. And this comfortable technology leads to one of the worst mistakes people make after a breakup, texting their ex all the time (sometimes hundreds to thousands of texts a day).
I still don’t know what to do… I was with my ex for 5 months I know it’s not long but my friend had past away and I honestly thought I needed time to clear my head and it’s been over a week since she’s been gone and I miss my ex so bad he was there for me he was my shoulder to cry on and I regret so much breaking up with him so much I literally feel like I’m goin insane without him yea I know this sounds dumb but I need him back… I want him and only him before he goes into the army for 3 years someone please help me… what do I do
Help someone else. Focusing on another person, and acting as their support system, will give you a purpose and shift your thoughts away from your break up. Think of it as rechanneling the love and energy you previously put into your relationship. Others will naturally be drawn to you and want to spend time with you, making you feel less lonely and rejected.Volunteer at a local soup kitchen or perform acts of kindness towards a friend who has experienced a death in the family.
Ultimately, moving on from a relationship that wasn’t working is about loving yourself. For some, this is the hardest part. Believing that you deserve to be in a loving relationship with someone who shares your values and treats you well requires that you view yourself in a positive light. If just the thought of this seems daunting because your inner dialogue is filled with negative self-doubt, criticism, or self-loathing, you may need to enlist the help of a professional. You can’t expect someone else to treat you better than you treat yourself.
The basis of the theory is that sometimes you can have an emotional experience that is so powerful that it affects you an a deep level. However, you don’t know where that feeling comes from. So, you kind of stick that experience to the most practical thing you can think of.
It was just a mask. Beware, as if you both go back to your old ways of arguing and dealing with problems, you’ll get back to where you were – apart. Don’t let that happen. Don’t get lazy and don’t take things for granted. The first few weeks of being together again as also the first few weeks where he’s most likely to “run for his life” and leave you or just decide that you shouldn’t have gotten back together in the first place.
Just make sure he really doesn’t find that out, and it’s ok if he doesn’t come back on the topic the second day. You can initiate and just make sure you’re always the one ending the conversation at high point.
Whilst perpetual moaners and negative people are difficult to be around, sometimes, people, male or female, need a little help and encouragement, to reach a state of happiness and contentment after a difficult time, and whether you are male, female, partner, mother, father etc, being there to help them is a compassionate thing to do. Only a sociopath can function without feelings or compassion and everyone knows the disruption they can cause in people lives.
My ex broke up with me over a year ago and we were close to getting back together once last winter. He’s now on his 3rd relationship in that time. To sum up our relationship, very little fighting and connected very well and that connection has remained.
I broke up with my boyfriend around 1 month ago. We have been in a long distance as we come from different countries, and he’s currently on working holiday. We’ve been together for almost 9 months, including 4 months together in both Taiwan and New Zealand. We are both around 25. He said he doesn’t know what he wants, we’re in a long distance relationship, and even if he comes to Taiwan again, he will keep traveling, he will meet new people, thus he decided to break up with me as he felt he’s not ready for a long-term relationship, even if he cried and it was a hard decision for him as well. He said we could still be good friends even if at that time I didn’t think so.