But you must not sacrifice who you are or put your decisions in her hands. You must not give up all you are in order to get your ex-girlfriend back because she would be getting back a shell of a man who doesn’t even interest her anymore.

I got into a relationship with a guy and he wanted us to get married but he traveled back and after some months he stopped calling me and now he talks to me and told me he didn’t know why he stopped calling or thinking about me…..I still love him and I want him back….I need help.

Dated my girl for 6 years and left her to go become a dive instructor on a island. I was gone 2 years but Came back 3 times and instantly back in the sack. I would crew boats back to the states and find a excuse to see her. Last time was normal I came by and we took a couple weekend trips and had sex and exchanged I love yous. Now 3 weeks went by and I came back down to start our relationship back up and within 10 minutes of her picking me up from the airport she tells me she’s seeing someone. I played it cool and when we got back to our old condo she told me I’d have to sleep in the guest room. Still played it cool. A little griping and OK good night. Played it cool for two days and told her I was back to get back together. Trying to explain you told me you loved me three weeks ago and didn’t want me to leave now I can’t sleep in the same room. I’ve been nice and not making myself look needy or desperate and got some nice smiles and laughs. Now tonight I sit to talk after she got home from work and she’s really resisting. Not cold but I tried to get I love you out of her and can’t. Fucking three weeks come on. Still sleeping on the guest bed tonight. I’m here for the rest of the week then going back up near Chi. to do a job for some cash I then wanted to move back in with her. She’s telling me to go up and see how I feel about her after the two month job. But I think she is just trying to make the rest of the week more bearable My birthday is in a couple days and part of the reason I came here was to spent it with her. thought that would give me a nice advantage if anything did go weird. It’s not working. starting to feel really bummed and discouraged. She’s been saying she’s working late and starting to think she’s going to see the boyfriend after work. When she told me she was seeing someone she told me he was out of town this week and would be back this weekend. I can’t believe that this girl I loved so much for so many years would welcome me back three weeks ago but wont now or return a I love you.

How would a seasoned Stoic maintain a healthy relationship with a troubled past, while remaining virtuous hic and nunc and all things considered? I know you mentioned a few weeks ago that Stoicism was a very forgiving philosophy. I’m curious to hear what you meant by that. 

Well I tried adding her back on Facebook about 6 days ago and she hasn’t accepted. She told a mutual friend that she doesn’t want to accept and doesn’t want me to think that there’s still something there between us. Also she said that she was done with the relarionship but kept changing her reasons to the mutual friend. She has also deleted a lot of “couple photos” of us and has changed the description from “my man and my baby” to just nothing. It seems as though she’s trying to erase me out of her life. She also told this mutual friend that she can’t remember the last time I made her smile or laugh, which is a lie. I made an instagram post, she still follows me on there, and has seen a couple funny/silly videos i posted up on there but hasn’t “liked” any. Not sure if she did that on purpose or is genuinely not wanting me back at all. She seems quite set in her decision. Our mutual told me that she might be suffering from a mild form of depression due to hating her job so much. and she mentioned the girl I was talking to (the reason for our 1st breakup 4 years ago) and was angry about it. Seems like she’s still jealous about something that happened 4 years ago. Our mutual friend told her that a healthy amount of jealousy is a good thing and that she must love me if she’s mentioning that and is jealous about it. Our mutual friend believes that she doesn’t know what she wants. She went from quite an abusive relationship where she was emotionally and mentally abused and used up, and then she got me a guy that treats her like a princess.

However, don’t go overboard in pushing them. Like ”Come on. Just go out with me once. Please. Pretty please.” Or “You broke up with me and broke my heart. The least you can do is go out with me one time.”

If you contact her, talk with her like an old friend. Don’t feel desperate and don’t show any hint of neediness from your side. Act like you are completely fine and finally realize breakup was the best thing happened to you.

After researching over the internet, I found Michael’s Youtube videos. He talks about important aspects of a healthy relationship that I feel my relationship was missing. The thing that I like most about Michael’s videos was he was a relationship coach who has hundred of likes in his Youtube videos. I knew it is easy to get likes on your Youtube video but the interaction and feedback he was getting from his audience seems real dude to me.

So if you are a Category C guy, here is how to get your ex-girlfriend back: you need to move to where she lives to solve the whole distance problem, and then do a few things right from there, which I’ll show you now…

Have you really healed? – If it has been a long time since the two of you were together, then there is a great chance that you have already healed. After all, it has been said that time can heal all wounds. The time you spent apart may have done the two of you a lot of good, especially if you did some soul searching. There is also a great chance that the two of you have matured after the time you spent away from each other.

This might seem like a “no-brainer” for most men, but I’m putting it here because it’s the #1 mistake that guys make when they’re desperate to get their ex back.  Calling and texting your ex – for any reason at all, even if just to say hello – is only going to be counter-productive.

My girlfriend broke up with me after 4 years due to me being controlling and clingy. Told me the night of the breakup that she loved me, but wasn’t in love with me anymore. We talked every so often afterwards until I figured out I was actually making things worse and proceeded with NC for 25 days. We’re long distance so it’s a bit easier than others. We had plans to meet up when I came home to visit family for thanksgiving and talk, and we did meet up but we hardly talked. She said it was too soon and didn’t want our emotions to get the better of us. I was a bit mad, because I waited almost an hour. We spoke on the phone afterwards and got into an argument about what happened and both said some mean things.

In season three, several episodes reveal that Rebecca’s issues are much more knotted than the unchecked depression and anxiety she occasionally mentions. In episode five, “I Never Want to See Josh Again,” Rebecca finds herself living with her controlling mother, stuck in a miasma of depression and bad habits, doing something I do with ritual intensity when depressed: Google the least painful ways to kill myself. After finding out her mother has been drugging her strawberry milkshakes instead of speaking honestly with her about taking medication, Rebecca gets on a plane back to West Covina and tries to kill herself by methodically swallowing the pills she found in her mother’s room. It’s an hour of television that is both harrowing and empathetic. But it’s the next episode, “Josh Is Irrelevant,” that cut closest to the bone.

There are four different outcomes when it comes to text messaging. In order to get your ex girlfriend back I want you to understand each of these outcomes and what they mean. Lets look at them for a moment.

Granted, this is a book about how to get back your ex boyfriend or girlfriend but I find his research applies to all romantic relationships – regardless of whether there was ever a commitment to marriage.

In order to be attractive you have to remove every trace of neediness from your life. This is part of the reason why you are not contacting your ex for a month – so you have time to overcome this neediness.

So yesterday I layed it out and challenged a girlfriend to get in or out and she slammed me. I said I needed to know where she stood and that I was ready to move on and bam! She said take a hike. Guess I misplayed it.

Me and my ex are both 20 years old and were in a relationship for a year. about 3 weeks ago he brought up the thought of wanting to break up, which surprised me. during the next two weeks we were kinda on a break because he claimed as being confused about everything and didn’t know what to do. then we met up again and he said he still isn’t sure whether we should break up or be together. he said that he probably doesn’t love me as much as i love him and that staying together might be a bad idea. i said that it’s probably best if we break up if he isnt completely sure that he wants me. so it was a kind of a mutual decision but it felt like neither of us wanted to actually do it. it is also worth noting that we are both currently very stressed as we are busy with college. we haven’t been in any contact for a week now so i don’t know what he feels right now, but i still wish that he would realise what he did and that he would want me back. i plan on not contacting him for a few weeks but I am afraid that he will work on getting over me during this time. when we were dating we used to take the same train about once a week. should i normally go on that train and just act friendly if i see him or should i avoid seeing him for a while?

Be open to meeting new friends. No matter your age or social disposition, if you have the time to go do things with your friends, chances are good that you’ll meet more people sooner or later. Be engaging and friendly with them, and you may very well end up making all kinds of new connections.

Go to the places where you know she’ll be without being too obvious about it. When you see her, stop and chat to let her know you care, but don’t drop everything to go talk to her. Instead, have a great time with your friends and make her want to join in on the fun.

Español: reconquistar a una mujer, Português: Recuperar Sua Mulher, Italiano: Riconquistare la Tua Donna, Deutsch: Gewinne deine Frau zurück, Français: reconquérir votre femme, 中文: 赢回前女友的心, Русский: вернуть свою девушку, Bahasa Indonesia: Mendapatkan Wanita Anda Kembali, Nederlands: Je vriendin terugwinnen

If you behaved in 3+ of the above ways during the latter stages of your relationship with your ex, then the reason you lost her is because her attraction for you faded out. She will likely have told you some other bullsh*t reason for the break up, but the fact that you answered yes to the questions above, coupled with the amount of sense that the explanations I gave make, shows that dying attraction is unmistakably the cause. [otp_overlay]