After those three days, try to let the relationship go. Give yourself time to just be alone, spending time with family and friends and doing things you love. When you’re in a healthy place, you can begin looking for love once more.
I waited until the next day and I replied “hey. What’s up?” But he never responded. The next day the SoCal fires started and I texted him a short “hope you and your kids are safe” again, I never got a reply and I haven’t texted him since figuring that if I’m patient, he will eventually reply. Did I break any protocols? I figured since I’ve been doing NC for a little over a year, it was safe to respond to him since he initiated the texting. Is he just playing with me? He didn’t have to text me when my friend gave him my phone number, so what is his logic? He is a grown man with teenage kids so it’s not like he is an immature guy, though he is acting like one with me.
Tackle some projects. Do something you have been meaning to do for a while. When you are in a relationship, you make time for another person. Sometimes that means sacrificing things you want to do or have planned. Now that you are no longer in a relationship, you can get to those neglected activities.
Lula Mai, then why did you decide to be with your current partner when you know you are still not over your ex? I think it is a bit unfair to your current partner to compare him with your past. You can never love your current partner wholeheartedly if you still cling to your ex’s memories. If you like someone just because they are attractive then for me that is a bit shallow. Looks are not important. Character is. When you fall in love with someone’s character, then it is unlikely that you will look at someone else no matter the looks.
Sorry, but you don’t. If you’re on the dumped end of a broken relationship, you’ll need patience and strategy above all else. Without these things, everything you do will be doomed to failure. So many women make desperate, hasty decisions just after a break up. They make rash moves without thinking – moves that only serve to push their man away – only to realize and regret it later on.
It doesn’t matter how long ago your relationship ended, or how your breakup happened. Because you had an emotional connection, there will always be a path that leads back into your ex boyfriend’s heart.
You are fearful that you won’t get him back that’s why you keep checking on him, asking about him, or even stalking him on social media. Your mind becomes preoccupied by what he does, who he is with, what he’s doing, and so on. Your are so focused on him that you forget the most important thing in this whole situation: YOURSELF.
3rd broke up(while improving on myself(not doing enough), we were chatting about things i did in the past, cant exactly remember if i confess everything in a proper manner to her, being not wanting to hide anything from her, i gave her a recap and told her everything, the very next day, she left)
Your situation sounds fairly close to mine, except my ex is not dating anyone but I know he is talking to other girls. We broke up about 3 weeks ago. I would really love to know where you & your ex stand now & if you both are in a good place (which I hope you are). If so, would you mind telling me the steps you took?
That’s it folks. That’s my advice. If I was able to get over my ex, I am sure that you will too. Even though it feels like it, it is not the end of the world. There is still someone out there waiting for you who will find you no matter what.
Exercise regularly. Walking, running, swimming and biking will actually offer immediate relief from your pain because staying active stimulates brain chemicals and increases serotonin, which advances the growth of nerve cells. You’ll also gain valuable reflection time with which to ruminate and think over your feelings. You could come to some valuable conclusions this way. You’ll not only enjoy physical health, but experience more energy to make it through the day.
There are some situations when No Contact is not possible like you both are living together or have a child or work together in the same office. In this situation, you have to remember that the key to renew interest and attraction is to become a person with higher value.
That’s why actively fighting your urge to obsess over him is going to serve you so well in the long run – because the more you obsess over him, the more power he has over you, and the less that you’re able to get over him.
Proof It Works: John DeVore, a 30-year-old playwright from Austin, TX, has tried post-breakup rituals from strip clubs to pepperoni-pizza therapy. But when his girlfriend moved out, even those didn’t work. “She’d left behind the gifts I’d given her and poems and letters I’d written,” he says. “I realized that she left them behind on purpose as a jab at me, so I took it all to the roof of his apartment building and burned it. It was nice ritual to show I was ready to let her go.” P.S.: If a bonfire suits you better than standard just-throw-it-out response, make sure you have a fire extinguisher handy.
My ex texted me Merry Christmas on 23Dec, I replied Thank you. Later, he updated his status and unblocked his page to me. His status told me He’s sick, should take medicines – those I bought for him. I read all of the status and decided to let him go, that’s why I texted him Farewell, wished him all the best. He replied “thank you and he’s not with anyone now”. On receiving the messages, I started the NC since then. On 30Dec he texted me Happy New Year, I waited 1 day to check it and didnt respond. Since Christmas, I updated my page with fun and neutral info, showing how I enjoyed the holidays. On Jan2, he liked one of my status. I’m confused. I’ve been struggling before the no contact to live the life before him, now I still suffer. What should I do next? I once imagined my life without him, felt very bad and hurtful, but got to the point that I should accept it.
Doing things outside your comfort zone is the scariest thing in the world to some people and I don’t understand why. I like to compare it to riding a scary roller coaster. You stand in line, really nervous, watching people go on this roller coaster. The closer you get the more your heart beats. The second you get in the roller coaster you begin to doubt yourself and then BAM!
I get what you’re saying. I’m just not sure what to do with it. Yes, I’m in pain, but I’ve been out and about living my life. As far as he can tell, I’m very much “on the market” and have been for about three years.
I broke up with my ex 4years ago because is cheating on me but right now I got him back with the help of a magician man in Ghana and we are now living happily and also so planning on getting married next month in Canada
We would then get in contact again like nothing ever happened and he would call me “baby” send me kisses and act normal. Until one day he just completely stopped talking to me and started ignoring mist of my texts.
When he finally did show, I looked incredible and had my head held high. Because I had been waiting for him, I was able to remain confident and interact with him with ease. And because he hadn’t been expecting to see him, he was caught off guard and clearly shocked by how good I seemed to be doing.
So I ended things with my boyfriend of 3 years last month. I recently found that he was dating someone new through his social media although we’ve only been broken up a month. What made it worst was when I found it out it was two days before our would have been 4 year anniversary. The girl he is dating is an old friend that got in touch with him through social media during our relationship. I got really upset and got into a heated argument with him about the situation. In the argument he told me that he wasn’t talking to her during our relationship but started talking to her afterwards. I said some mean things in the argument and he ended up blocking my number. I feel really bad and only said it because I was hurt, wanted him back and surprised he moved on so fast. He says she treats him better than I did. He ended up blocking my number. I know I can still get in contact with him but should I apologize first and then start no contact or should I just start no contact. Do I have a chance or should I let this go. PLS HELP
Any situations in which she has expressed to you that she wants something to develop or happen between you two, yet you refuse to make it happen in the months after she showed that she wanted it. For example:
I decided to chime in here quickly, according to Kris S the girl did not really “cheat” on him but rather “messed” with fellow guy he didn’t like, AFTER the break-up. That act he considered unloyal and therefore he’s feeling not respected. In this case, I would consider this as a rebound relationship in order to get over the relationship with you, Kris S, and you shouldn’t feel bad about it. Eventually she’s free to do what she wants apfter the break-up and it has nothing to do with you but with her.