she left me in 2011 and came back to me in 2012 afta i have callin her and not answering my calls for a year then she left again for a year 2013 around march and came back to me this year 2014…she started calling me on the 28 of february this year and i was shocked and confused about that.but at my point of view she was heartly brokened with the partner she was dating after me.we get back together but she told me we dont have to make love and i agreed but i forced her.now she is telling me she want a breakup coz im cheating but she doesnt have any proof.i loved her and i still love her.so i dont know what to do.i need your help guys..i think she is gona leave again coz im trusting her..but i said i dont want a breakup…thanks for your help guys.

That said — and here I speak from experience, not just as a Stoic practitioner — you will often, in your life, be tempted to go back to an earlier relationship. That’s because of a variety of reasons, including guilt toward what happened, the familiarity with the person in question, a natural tendency to re-interpret our past with rose-tinted filters, or simply the fact that we are currently alone and wish for companionship. Don’t do it. In very few cases it works. There were presumably good reasons why you broke up, and those reasons are likely going to be there still if you resume things, with the situation made worse by reciprocal resentment, anger, and so forth. So my advice is to stay away from it and move on.

If you find reinventing yourself difficult to accomplish, consider picking up a new hobby, going out with friends, or going to the gym to let off some steam.  In fact, exercise releases certain hormones in your brain that increases your mood and happiness… so go out and be active!

Hey Charlie great article, it was very informative!. By the way my gf of 3 years broke up with me cause she caught me in some lies, for example creating a Facebook behind her back. So she broke up with me cause she can’t trust, she say’s she hates me and that I’m not the right man for her. But when she talks to me she gets very emotional and starts crying. I’m going to give her space and work on myself like you said!. But my question is i have to see her once a month to give her my part of car insurance since were on the same policy and was wondering what should i say or do when i do see her *note(that i still want her back). Thanks for your time.

Remember to take it slow. Don’t start hanging out with her 24/7, but start going on dates or hanging out a few times a week. You don’t want to make her feel smothered at the beginning of your new relationship.

After you understand the reason behind the breakup, scan events in the past for your role in the consequent fallout. It is important that you be completely objective while you collate the list of reasons that make up your share of making the relationship head south. This shall help you acknowledge and accept your shortcomings as a boyfriend and exhort you to make the optimal changes that may be the difference between getting her back AND keeping her or letting her slip away forever.

I recently lost my girlfriend. I have to speak out on the theory of date em like u hate em. Couldn`t be further from the truth. If you know its casual, and its going to amount to much sure, i can see that. But if you both know your in love and this is it, Son you gotta respect it. My biggest flaw? I got in a comfort zone. I thought i was being the perfect boyfriend when indeed i wasn`t. I work long hours and a lot of times couldn`t find time for her because i was exhausted. Shit you need to make a girl feel as special as she really is. Never stop. Wake up everyday and make sure they know your thinking about them. Don`t make the same mistakes.

The unwritten laws of the ‘social food chain’ dictate that inferior people seek approval from superior ones, and not the other way around. Women naturally know this, and by trying to get your girl to like you more (approval seeking) using ‘nice’ behavior, you made her feel like she’s superior to you.

It’s best to admit your mistakes. You’ll need to forgive yourself for your part in the breakup, then move forward to seek his forgiveness. If you lose your temper and say things you don’t mean, pull yourself together as quickly possible and apologize sincerely. There is nothing weak or demeaning about apologizing. On the contrary, it shows strength and good character. But when you apologize, be sure you mean it. A disingenuous apology is worse than no apology.

My name is Kevin, and I am here to help you through this painful breakup and hopefully get your ex back. I say hopefully because I can’t guarantee you that you will get your ex back. I can, however, guarantee that if you follow this plan, your chances of getting your ex back will increase significantly.

Maybe you’ve tried apologizing, promising to change, or telling her how sorry you are. There’s a surprising reason none of those things work, and when you know it, you know how to get your ex-girlfriend back and make her want you more than she ever did before.

If you want to make yourself capable to win your ex back again then you have to stop blaming yourself. Breakups are part of relationship and even strongest couple sometime suffer from breakup as well. Just because you are suffering from breakup doesn’t mean you are bad person.

If your motives for wanting to reconcile are rooted in reactionary or cowardly emotions, don’t go any further. Instead, focus on taking care of yourself and on buckling down and dealing with the inevitable post-breakup discomfort like an adult.

Don’t worry if you’ve already made these mistakes. Like I said, they are very common and chances are that most of you reading this would have already made some of these mistakes. It’s still not too late. You still have a good chance of getting your ex back. I just ask you to not make any of these mistakes anymore. If need be; print this page out and keep it with you all the time so you don’t do any of these mistake again.

It happens all the time, people lose their girlfriends and they want them back, but it doesn’t happen. The reason why it doesn’t happen, is because you don’t know the tips and tricks that actually work. If you want to get an ex back, there are some things that you need to consider. The following are the best tips that you can take with you today to ensure that you’re going to get the upper hand in your life. These take time, so don’t think that you’re going to get through with this overnight. Take your time, gain some confidence and hit these notes in getting your ex girlfriend back.

Right after a break up is when you are at your emotional peak and I don’t mean a good emotional peak, I am talking about anger, hate, basically everything that Yoda from Star Wars said to avoid. The no contact rule is going to give you time to work on yourself and calm down a little bit so you can think more rationally instead of emotionally.