Here Is How To Handle Seeing Your Ex Without Blowing It
Maybe the breakup was unexpected, out of the blue, and it really knocked the wind out of your sails. The first few days after that can be hell, no focus, cannot work, cannot study, barely able to function. A few weeks go by, maybe a few months and you are getting back in the game and thankfully you have not had to encounter seeing your ex out in public since.
Hopefully you took the time – and sped the recovery – by eating better, working out at the gym, working and/or studying hard and looking the best you ever have.
You start going out on the town, accepting the invitations from friends to meet at the pub or other old hangouts. Life is getting better despite the fact that you really want her back and are not sure how to go about it.
And since you are looking good you are getting the notice of OTHER girls, they smile at you and flirt a little. You feel like Superman (notice from women can do that!).
Out of the blue, it was certain to happen at some point, she walks into the room and it feels like you have been nailed with a kryptonite fist.
You know the feeling, your mouth gets dry, your palms get sweaty.Your tongue feels thick and does not seem to respond properly to the commands sent to it by the brain. Then the “fight or flight” instinct kicks in.
There is a sudden overwhelming urge to run, yet a simultaneous but equally powerful urge to beg her to take you back.
Maybe you compose yourself enough to say something about how it’s great to see her and then beat a hasty retreat.
Time To Regroup
Once you are clear you probably start kicking yourself. Do be too hard on yourself, it happens.
Coulda, shoulda, woulda. Happens to the best.
For the next few days you engage in a fantasy replay of how things would have shaken out if you’d just been able to speak. But, wouldn’t it be nice if you could think of these things ahead of time and have a good idea of what to say to her when the moment arrives?
Believe me it would!
Especially if you’re interested in getting her back.
Stop getting sucker punched by her presence. Take back the power and let her see you in a new light. You can control the conversation and how it plays out as long as you plan ahead for when that moment comes.
Do not start a new strategy on how you can arrange an “accidental” meeting. That would not be the right play in this situation. But, you do want to have a plan for what you’ll say to her when your paths do cross so that you don’t look like you’re either avoiding her, running away from her, or angry with her for the breakup.
A Little Secret About Women
She probably feels the same way. You were too nervous to notice how nervous she was.
She may even feel bad or guilty about the breakup. Maybe SHE arranged to cross paths?
How To Handle Seeing Your Ex
You need a plan, what should you say? Here are 3 easy suggestions to keep your cool and stay in control.
1) Keep it short.
2) Keep it light.
3) Avoid bringing up the past – leave that to her.
Take the time to write a script for yourself then memorize it. Even go so far as to practice it in the mirror. Do whatever you have to do so that it’s second nature and the next time your paths cross you will be ready to see your ex again and not just beat a hasty retreat.
You should be looking forward to seeing your ex again, as that is the first step to getting your ex back.