If begging worked after a breakup, no one will ever break up with anybody. They decided to leave you and they are prepared to go through your begging and pleading. Whatever the reason for breakup was, it’s not going to change with your begging. The only thing that begging will do is make you look like a weak and insecure person.

Go slow. Most second chance relationships fail because couples assume they can just slip back into the way things were. It’s really important to nurture this relationship just as you would with any new romance.

The point isn’t just that you get your ex back, but that you KEEP him. Often folks just have sex again, once or twice, but things don’t work out and they end up breaking up again. So don’t take anything for granted. Make sure he has the best night of his life when you make up, but after that don’t drop into your “old” relationship with your ex, instead – create something new.

For Olivia, 29, and James, their sixth-month break allowed them to examine the one-sided nature of the relationship. After dating for a year in college in Texas, Olivia told Mic, “We broke up because I decided to attend grad school in New York. I had wanted to attend this school since before we ever dated, so when I got in, I felt I had to follow my dream.”

Come alongside and comfort her. Look to one of her girlfriends as an example of understanding, ie: A girlfriend would likely look at her, feel her pain, and express compassionate understanding for what she is probably feeling.  

I’ve lost about 70 lbs since me and her we’re together I’ve got a good job moving up very quickly in a new industry and we have kept contact the whole two years apart but only via text. Never ran into each other anywhere and I cut ties with all our old mutual friends.

At this point, even if it was your ex who broke up with you, you don’t want to give them all the power. You don’t want to be the one who is always available for them. You don’t want to be their contingency plan.

What you choose to forget is how she always gave you a hard time when you went out with the guys. Or, how she did not get along with your best friend, or how she always had to prove her point. The sting does not feel so strong anymore, and you begin to convince yourself that maybe she is worth another chance.

I do still have strong feelings for him and there are so many things that I want to tell him. But you said the best thing is to keep things light and emotion-free. He mentions in his email that he misses my friendship and wants to be friends. What exactly does he mean by that? And should I stay friend with him even though I want him back? I have already composed a reply to send to him which i based off of the magic letter guidelines:

Thank you for your share and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I know how hard this can be. I think that in order for us to answer your question of whether she’ll give you another chance, we’ll have to delve deeply into the reason behind her distance. What pushed her away and are these things fixable? If you need help identifying this and developing a strategy to turn the situation around, please feel free to let me know, I’d love to work with you.

There was no “trick” to getting Mary back for good. Going through a tragedy had changed me. It was terrible, but it helped me grow the hell up, and by the time Mary and I crossed paths again, I was ready to be the kind of person who texts back and keeps plans and buys presents for no apparent reason. We don’t yell at each other in the street anymore, and that’s pretty cool.

This one isn’t as macabre as it sounds. It’s more of an exercise in appreciation. Bowman suggests that you work on it a little at a time as a way to notice what your spouse does right (since these are the things you’d likely eulogize him with, not the negatives). “Think back over the years you’ve known this man. When did he make you laugh? When did he make you cry tears of joy? When did he surprise you? When did he feed the cat because the smell of cat food makes you want to hurl? Put it in the eulogy,” says Bowman. “The funeral fantasy will help you remember to appreciate your spouse.”

But in almost all the cases; her new relationship will be a rebound. And it will end. That’s what happens with majority of rebound relationships. Read more about the nature of rebound relationships here and how to get her back when she has a boyfriend here.

To continuously seduce your ex, remember to stay true to what you love and to never ever try to do too much to please your ex either. It is way too easy to fall into one extreme or another; to either put your partner on a pedestal or to become disconnected from your relationship altogether.

When you get back together with a former love, there’s no way to know whether it will end up being the best decision of your life or just go up in flames all over again. After all, it’s one of the biggest relationship no-nos in the book. But sometimes, giving it a shot is the best thing you can do for yourself, so that no matter what happens afterward, you don’t have to live with a single “what if.”

Every relationship is a power struggle. It may not sound very good to hear and you may not agree but that’s how I see it. You can believe in love, compassion and valuing your partner and still understand that at some point it becomes a power struggle between you and the person you love; in order to live out a type of relationship that mirrors who you are and your values.

6. The greatest cause for concern for any man whose wife hardens her heart, must not be that she has hurt him, is alienating the children, or is destroying the marriage. An abandoned husband’s greatest cause for concern is the condition of his wife’s well being – as Scripture warns, a bitter or hardened heart is a dangerous condition for any soul (Eph 4:18; Heb 3:13, 15; Deut 31:27; 1 Sam 15:23; Acts 7:51; 28:27). A husband must look beyond his own frustration and be concerned that his wife might be deceived and hardened toward God. He must be concerned for her, because her steps are walking her away from intimate fellowship with God. A hardened woman merits her husband’s compassion, not his arrogance.

My suggestion, from a male perspective, having sex immediately once you meet up again may be a wrong choice. Even if you’ve been together for a long time before, it’s good to make everything seem new, and different. If he messed up, and that’s the reason you broke up, you shouldn’t make it that easy for him to get back together. Throw in some temptation.

My ex and I broke up 5 years ago on somewhat messy terms. I immediately found somebody else and made the mistake of settling down with them because I thought they were the one for me. Fast forward 3 years and i find myself not as happy as i use to be, I then find out she has been having an affair for almost a year and we get a divorce.

You’re probably now feeling very defeated. Many of your tactics for keeping your girl sweet have unfortunately worked against you, and this leaves you asking, “So what the f*** do I do?! How can I get my ex-girlfriend back?”

The main reason for writing this guide is to help you only. I didn’t write this guide to gain fame or fortune. I want to help men in fixing their relationship problems and cure their broken heart. I am tired of seeing bulk of new emails everyday from men asking how they can get their ex girlfriend back. This guide provides cure to fix relationship and help you in winning your ex back.

I’m no stranger to attempting to rekindle a relationship. My ex-boyfriend and I tried it. Twice. Both began the same: with a lot of hope that something had changed, that things would be different now. But they also ended the same: that nothing had and, probably, never would. Turns out that it’s this ‘hope’ which sealed our fate.

Getting the spark back: Sometimes the very thing the relationship needed can only come after time apart. “It was really different. It didn’t feel like it was just out of the convenience of the situation,” explains Lucy*, 25, who is one of many who got back together with an ex during college. 

We broke up just a few days ago. The guy is younger and has no experience on relationships nor has he kissed someone before him… Before we broke up he said he wanted the same “magic” we had on the beggining… Should I cool for a month before trying something with him again, like even just a friendship

First of all be prepared for the worst. I know you love him and you want him back, but there is a chance he might never come back and you have to be prepared to be a single Mom and take care of the kids by yourself. In your case, no contact will be a little tricky but the easiest way to do so will be to tell him that you need some time and space and you will appreciate it if he can give it to you. Tell him that you will keep him updates on the kids if there is something important. If he wants to see his son, make arrangements for him. Don’t ever talk to him about anything other than the kids. It’s sort of limited contact, but it still works just as well as no contact.

ssnell, As I mentioned in the blog, giving your ex space now is the best chance of getting back with him later. Let your feelings be a mystery to him and only respond when he reaches out. There are no guarantees but this IS the best way to encourage him to connect with his love and desire for you.

I had to end relationship up with my girlfriend (5 years living together) due the fact she found another man to entertain her and she was not willing to make the decision: me or other guy. I tried this no contact rule and she keeps calling and texting me once a day (or so). If I did not answer her contacts, she is getting very upset and sends me irritating messages (like blaming me that I can’t be trusted in serious situations). If I answer her because I assume that there was a really serious reason that she would call me, but there isn’t. If we talk about weather and general stuff, it is fine. If or conversation goes to us or our past, she gets upset and tries to end the call. Last conversation she hinted me that if I would not call her more occasionally, I would waste my opportunity. She even encouriged to call her any time.

She hasn’t moved on as far as I am aware but made signs that she was starting to get used to being “single” Therefore I consider this point in time the final attempt to salvage. I have dug deep and think she is worth it but want to avoid a repeat. She Will not firmly say it is over and avoids all discussion and attempts to get third party assistance or support. She still states she did nothing wrong. I think there could be undiagnosed mental health issues as the theme throughout the relationship has been there, just not quite right.

This crisis may have gotten your attention, but it is God’s intention that He have your whole heart. That’s really what your wife needs anyway – a man who stands strong, who loves God with all his heart, and walks in humility and compassion.

If you have the patience and emotionally capacity, I would suggest waiting it out and staying with friends with him first and see if their relationship lasts. If not, it would be a better idea cutting him out completely since it’s only fair to yourself.

Helping people get back with the one they love and to reach their goals is our passion. We understand that in order to do our work in the best possible way, we need to fully invest ourselves in people’s lives in order to understand the intricacies of their relationship and what they are currently going through.

            When women attempt to communicate their feelings of fear, dismay, or anxiety, they use words, cite facts, or employ a tone that causes a man to imagine he is being attacked. In her mind she is looking for compassion and understanding, but to his ears she is finding fault with him. Unfortunately, when a man feels attacked he responds defensively. He either waits quietly for his wife to finish her tirade, defends himself, counter attacks, or leaves. [otp_overlay]